I just would like to know what other people think because me and my boyfriend are planning on getting married in June of next year, but I will only be 18, and a lot of people that I knwo feel that I am too young.
2007-12-20 00:58:29 · 30 answers · asked by redbone 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No you are not too young IF you are mature enough to enter marriage. A few girls are mature enough and understand enough even at 12 to marry and make a good marriage (this was common up to about a hundred years ago). Today some women (and men for that matter) are not mature enough even at age 60 or 70.
Marriage is hard work and should never ever be entered into without full understanding and NOT based on "romance" and physical attraction. Too many are getting married today for the wrong reasons usually because of romantic ideas. Look at the divorce rate...most entered marriage with romantic stars in their eyes then reality hit! Bills, babies, mortgages, to name but a few.
Know what you are doing before you say the "I do's" that can easily become, "I won'ts".
2007-12-20 01:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Here is why. I know you two love each other and that is great. So, if you two love each other so much why can't it wait until you two are older? I have numerous friends who got married before 21 and were divorced at 22 - 23. When you turn 21 a whole new world really does open up for you. I don't just mean the whole bar scene. That is part of it but you become a new person as you get older and meet new people you change... it is part of the evolution of growing up. If you are going to attend college you may chose different paths to follow that lead away from each other. I am glad that you found someone you love and want to be together for a long time... that is awesome. So why not wait until you are 18 and move in together. Give it some time and plan your future farther that you just getting married and figuring it out afterwards. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-12-20 01:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by L A 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 33... I got married when I was 23 and even then I feel like I was too young. A person does a LOT of growing and maturing between the ages of 17 and say 26-27. Trust me, you won't recognize yourself by the time you're done. The question is, do you have the commitment to stick with each other, even if you grow and change in different ways? Are you able to overcome not having sewed any wild oats at all?... of course that last one you won't know until you're years and years into the marriage whether you've grown 'bored' of each other and feel an urge to step out of the marriage for some excitement that you never had before.
I would definitely say give it at least until you're past 21. You really don't want to do this until you've had some good solid experience with the relationship as an ADULT relationship out in the real world where you're making your own money and supporting yourselves.
2007-12-20 01:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is going to stop you from doin that coz you are legally an adult. But marriage is gonna be a lot lot lot more than those hot steamy honeymoons. It has to pass through your kids, boredom of mid life and if you still want the marriage to continue, you should have a very good idea about what life is going to be like when you both stay together for long enough that nothing about the other person is new to you.
So i'd suggest you both just stay together with each other, settle down, set a course for your life and then think about making your life better by marrying.
Just make sure passion is not the reason why you are getting into a relationship, but love is. The first will always run dry unlike the second.
2007-12-20 01:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I would wait if i were you.Because if you have to ask,then something is not right.I got married at 19 and my husband was 21.We are still together but not without some bumps along the way.After we were married for fifteen years(He dicided to have an affair and I decided I wasn't going to put up with it. Luckly he came to his senses).I feel that we never got to be care free before bills and kids got in the way.But After thirty three years of marriage,I guess I wouldn't change a thing.even the bad parts because we learned from them.My advice,if you do marry,wait on having kids until you are at least twenty five.Because by then you will know if the marriage will work or not.Best Wishes with what ever you decide.
2007-12-20 01:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say, depends on your environment too. Many people are married around 18 back in the past. My mum was married to my dad when she was 20. She complained how she should concentrate more with her career rather than getting married at such a young age. By the way how old is ur boyfriend ? Like if you are married, you will have kids then who will feed the family?
But as long as you love him and you think you are financially ready then you should be fine.
Alternatively you can move out with him which is practically similar.
2007-12-20 01:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by lovingula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready to give your life 110% to taking care of a family, and the responsibilities that go with it. Remember not all husbands are ready for it. When you are home with the baby and he is at work, and comes home to a baby that has been crying all day because they are teething or sick, and you need a break, will he be willing to go the extrta mile in sharing all responsibilities with you, like you are with him. It is team work. You must stand by each other in making decisions. Not just one! This is where two are one! If you work out side the house, will he share in cooking , cleaning, changing diapers, instead of just you, because he is tired when he gets home. It is a big change dear as you realize, and you are devoting you life to him and the children when it happens. Some young women and men are ready, and ity's like a God given gift. Some are not that think they are. You are the only one to be able to truly answer this question. Think it out and then make your decision. I married at 21 and my wife was 18. It can happen if two become one and share no matter what. Good Luck! I will pray that God will give you Wisdom. By the ways if you make it a requirement that God is in your life and household, go to church and raise your family with strong faith, believeing and recieveing Christ as your Lord and Savior you will conquor anything and everything!!! God Bless! Have a very Merry Christmas filled with Happiness, Health, Wealth beyond your wildest dreams, and remember to pray for our troops!
2007-12-20 01:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by mandm68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
positively yes........you are still maturing into a woman and learning about life and yourself as well as he and if you enter into marriage like this you will be growing, maturing, and trying to find yourself why you are obligated to another person. Many things about you may change before you are even 25 or 26 and you could mature into a woman that discovers she wants different things in life than when she was 18 same for him. You need more life experience and maturity to clearly understand the sacrifice that goes into marriage to make it last a lifetime. When you are young you get married based more on feelings than having a life plan, bills, if this person is someone you can work with when times get stresses. Trust me wait a few years and you will see the difference in yourself and him...............thats not to say you wont or cant get married later but that you will go into the marriage more grounded.
2007-12-20 01:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by exceptionallyexceptional 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely.The ideal age for young couples is around 24 - 25 and the success rates for that age group more than quadruple those of the 18-19 age group. If you cant wait for a couple more years,how do you expect to stay together for a lifetime? Just think of it as a long engagement period. Good luck and Happy Holidays
2007-12-20 01:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is good that you are waiting before you get married.
I know some people who married their high school sweethearts and are very happy.
I also know people who feel they were cheated of their youth by marrying so early and felt the need to sew their oats... after they were married! So, please take a lot of time and think it through, and plan a very detailed wedding where he has to make a lot of decisions with you so you can see how he will react to problem solving.
Good luck to you, and don't rush yourself.
2007-12-20 01:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋