Marriage & Divorce - 16 September 2006

She says she "doesn't like me in that way", but I say, "she will learn to love me."

I always grab her forcefully, and glare into her eyes when I say this to her, so to better burn the words into her mind and subconscious.

Plus, it lets her know how strongly I believe in what I say. As if my will alone decides what is possible and not possible.

So how long, on average, does it take for a girl to learn to love a guy she doesn't "like in that way."

2 months? 6 months? 4 years?

2006-09-16 10:41:29 · 9 answers · asked by Finar C 1

My case is that I been married to a military man for 2 years have gone thru two diployments already,had to leave my job cause of deployment and pregnancy.I have 2 kids of a previous relationship but I don't receive child support even tho i have a child support case open. I had a baby with my husband. and now I want the divorce cause my husband its really mean to my oldest son since day one also cause of deployments my feelins just fade away so anyways I let him know about it and now he wants to take the baby from me.
So can anyone tell me if he is going to be able to take my baby from me? and also since i only been married for 2 years and I kind of lost my job cause of him does the alimony applies to me? and I still looking for a job but have not found it and even if i do it will be hard cause of child care. so can anyone tell me what are my chances of me keeping custody of my baby?
Thanks

2006-09-16 10:35:46 · 3 answers · asked by shy girl 1

The feeling is mutual we both love each other. What advice do you have? I am 40 she is 26.

2006-09-16 10:25:54 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have tried to find a public record to see if he is married. I live in Alabama, I think he is lying to me, my informant has never lied to me. I see no reason why shouldn't believe them, but i know me, i have to see proof.Help:(

2006-09-16 10:15:53 · 11 answers · asked by babyblue76al 4

2006-09-16 10:13:09 · 3 answers · asked by SHAR 1

What do married men say to single women to make them think that having an affair with them is okay? When he leaves his wife and children for them does it feel good in some way? Can they ever trust them? Do they feel guilty about being a home wrecker? How do they justify it? Does anyone out there understand it??

2006-09-16 10:11:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have had some heart felt answers to my question of my bf of 6yrs being on drugs. I would like to respond to some of the answers and say thank u. Do you know how to do this?
Thank you

2006-09-16 10:08:19 · 9 answers · asked by zora w 1

My relatives on both sides. My closet family.

I don't want my younger siblings to suffer as I have. My dad is emotionally/verbal abusive and sometimes physical. My mom won't divorce him... she is in denial. I don’t know what to do. He has been this way since I was little, to everyone. Now I want to somehow help them. But I don’t know how. My mom’s way of dealing with it is to pretend everything is alright and keep her head down and tells everyone to do so as well. I still live at home and I will leave in about a year. I don’t want to worry about their safety mentally or physically when I leave.

Any advice on what I could do? I tried confronting both of them… but it doesn’t work.

Plus how do you add extra details to your questions?

2006-09-16 09:57:19 · 17 answers · asked by BrokenTrust 1

She is going behind me cleaning, (like I cant) ,Asking my husband why i dont do this and that, she is 23 no kids and a ged .Im 27 ,4 ,kids and am a college student with two years under my belt thus far. We are happy untill his family comes around, Im ready to take my money and leave. My sister is here for a few days also but his sister is here for a while longer they were drving in the car together today and got into a argument when my sister heard his sister saying your wife is not clean enough around the house. My sister jumped in and defended me my husband didnt, I am a full time student, I home school my kids 7,and 9, I breast feed my 8 month old, and I have a needy 2 year old. I also manage all of our finances cutting coupons and making sure all the bills are paid. while being a pleasent wife we are never arguing when family is not around, what should I do. I just feel like saving my school loan checks ,getting a job buying a house and telling him to marrry his family

2006-09-16 09:51:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been dating the same guy for 5 yrs now, we recently got married a year ago hasnt changed anything as we lived together before.
He has no interest in me what so ever last year we had sex twise...he's fine with that.
This year once, all of my other relationships previous were very sexually fufilling.
I'm so confused don't know if I should leave him find someone who does want to be with me in a sexual way...he keeps saying he does want to be with me, he's trying but still nothing happens. I'm 34 all my friends are having kids or simply having sex, what should I do he really is a nice guy but I'm so lonely, depressed and worst of all sexually frustrated.
He goes to a therapist every two weeks who's recommended viagra which he refuses to take.
Does anyone know of a good sexual therapist or something for him before I throw in the towel..pls I'd really appreciate it!!

2006-09-16 09:38:51 · 19 answers · asked by janice v 1

My dad is emotionally abusive/verbal and sometimes physical.

2006-09-16 09:34:15 · 19 answers · asked by BrokenTrust 1

I think he have Dori's syndrone (from that movie "Finding Nemo", Dori have short term memory) because he always forget where he put his keys, eye glass, wallet, cell phone, etc. Are there any suggestionss? I don't have anymore ideas. He's getting on my nerves because I always have to constantly have to help him find it.

2006-09-16 09:27:51 · 15 answers · asked by Cava 2

I've been with my husband for 6 years and married for two and he never want to celebrate our anniversary. dose this go for all men

2006-09-16 09:21:57 · 9 answers · asked by sos 1

I just kicked out my boyfriend (basically my husband) of 6yrs. After 2 yrs of dating and after I moved in with him, I found out he was on drugs. It devastated me. I did everything to help him and finally he went to a very expensive/prominent rehab 1 1/2 yrs ago. It cost almost 15,000. His family helped me to help him. He is 51 and they told me had been on Heroin since he was 16. Well last week he came home from a weekend trip to his home town and was on it again. I saw how he was and decided not to go through the fiery pits of hell again and I kicked him out. I am hurt because be did not even say goodbye to me. He could have said Thank U, I 'm sorry, kiss my butt or something, but he said nothing and left town. He had told me a few years ago that no one had ever tried to help him before me and that no one had faith in him and I was the best thing that ever happened to him. Well I feel really crapped on and as if I meant nothing at all to him. I guess he luvs drugs more.

2006-09-16 09:14:15 · 17 answers · asked by zora w 1

I'm 21, wife is 25, both work at same job, in different depts. We don't own anything, we pay rent, & don't have kids. Our apt sucks because she has a lot of bad messy habits. I'm tired of having 2 clean up after her. There's empty bottles in the living room, messy kitchen, heck I don't even want to go into the kitchen, it stinks so bad & even when you come in the place, the entry/kitchen is the 1st thing you gotta walk past & the stench just hits you. It's like the superdome after Hurricane Katrina. We have a huge fruit fly epidemic coming on. I found their dead carcasses in my fridge, now I'm afraid to eat from it. They fly all over the place I can't relax or eat in peace.

We dont have sex, go out, see movies, rollercoasters, etc. cuz shes depressed, between work & trying to build an online business, plus she feels like she doesnt know me. Told her no more fruit or plants in the apt, she gets mad. Dont know if I should divorce & move back 2 my retarded family or stay. I'm lost.

2006-09-16 09:08:58 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

him to beat the guy up and get into trouble and i know her will...what should i do

2006-09-16 09:05:54 · 22 answers · asked by amber 2

2006-09-16 09:03:18 · 13 answers · asked by carobygirl 6

he once a year phones the kids turns up unnanounced with a small present. they are seventeen twenty and twenty one i try to stay out of way because he gets funny with me. I used to try to talk to him but he wont and so i dont try anymore they are old enough to deal with him direct so i feel he comes here to my house just to diss me he often just walks in house and i dont know how to deal with it i have asked him not to come and he ignores me. they have mobiles and i feel he could contact them this way and avoid any contact with me. i am not bitter just his attitude frightens me like he still has control i think that a father is very important to the kids and in no way want to come between them but we have been divorced for eight years now and i think there should be respect there i thought as long as u had kids u should try and do the best for them but its all to complicated he was violent and i dont want to challenge him face to face how do i stop him coming unless i move?

2006-09-16 08:55:35 · 21 answers · asked by rosyreal 2

if you and your husband split up for a while just to find out if it was ment to be yall got back together after 2 months and you found out he messed with someone else and got her pregnant what would you do?

2006-09-16 08:40:00 · 15 answers · asked by mrsp27 2

I have a friend that her husband left her for a 44 year old woman. The other woman is ugly and I just do not understand why some one like him would do something like this. To leave his wife with 2 kids and a buetuful home.The 44 year old women is fat and has kid as young as teen. Why?

2006-09-16 08:32:12 · 20 answers · asked by bigbrowneyes 2

My children are 11 & 13 and they want to decide when to see their dad. They are busy with school and church activities on the weekends thus the reason for wanting to decide when they see him.

2006-09-16 08:31:49 · 6 answers · asked by paula68white 1

After all we had been married for 21 years and we both consented (eventually!)

2006-09-16 08:28:40 · 9 answers · asked by Lou B 2

im living on my own and none of our parents know about this.... i am NOT gonna tell my mother about this..... but might have to tell my dad...
im sure shes not lying and she is threatening me to marry her or else she is going to have an abortion! NO way im gonna marry her! wht should i do????
she know i like kids... wht should i do? i sed ill ask my dad to buy her a house but she sed she don't want money or a hse and she just want me to marry her!!! are there anyways i can test if the babys mine?and should i marry her and then get a divorce later?
help me!!!!

2006-09-16 08:24:29 · 34 answers · asked by nickcartertrades 1

Me and my husband want to spice up are marriage we talked about another woman in the bedroom i am not sure will it end are marriage and how do you even find someone for that . I dont want a friend But than with a stranger what about all the things out there you dont want to get . any suggestion please help!!!!!!!!!

2006-09-16 08:20:03 · 15 answers · asked by Tammey H 1

i know it sounds crazy but i think the idea is kind of hot. i just want to know what i can do to maximize the liklihood of her fooling around without doing something like cheat on her 1st

sick?. well, the idea actaully orriginated by her. we went out for a year, broke up for a year, and got back together for a year before we got married. when we were getting back together we were very open about all of the perverted fantasies we had. one of hers was that she's go out and explore her sexuality with somebody with alot of experience and then blow me away (to this day, i have a signifigant edge over her in the belt notch department).

once the relationship stablized we stopped talking about those weird things, and pretend like all that talking never happened. at any rate, the idea stuck with me and now i often find myself thinking about her on the prowl, exploring her sexuality, and catching up to me - like having a blast with casual sex the way i did when i was in college.

2006-09-16 08:19:48 · 13 answers · asked by w0t_b0t 1

2006-09-16 08:14:13 · 25 answers · asked by fantasyland 3

Would that girl look for love and companionship, affection and would sacrifice for that lo;ve even her life , if needs arise?

2006-09-16 08:01:22 · 5 answers · asked by Roni R 1

her father force her out of the house at age 15 she then got a permanent visa for the us.we meet and were living together because she decided.now that she is here in the us her father does not want any of her responsibility,but then wants to add her to his money caches.under whos responsibility does she fall under.

2006-09-16 07:55:38 · 20 answers · asked by seby925 1

My Wife will be the undisputed Head of the house in our marriage. In recognition of Her role as Head of household and Head of the family, I wish to take Her name in the marriage.

2006-09-16 07:55:06 · 12 answers · asked by Sissyman 1

she loves me, but is not in love with me, she said I am the perfect husband and father, she just wants to be free, after her dad died 8 years ago, I became her father, we had only been married for 4 wks when he died, we never had time to be husband and wife, life has got in the way. Please advise.

2006-09-16 07:50:26 · 15 answers · asked by saxons_uk 1