2006-09-16 09:03:18 · 13 answers · asked by carobygirl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
other than divorce
2006-09-16 09:04:56 · update #1
Just try to only control what you have control over, yourself, be as good a mother and wife as you can be and hope they follow suit
2006-09-16 09:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
You sound like you are very sad at the moment and desperate to save your marriage. It is good that you are prepared to give it your all but also your parter has to be along for the ride too.
Maybe you could both try councelling.
Of course there are some things we can do to improve our relationships. Sometimes we get stuck in ruts - doing nothing new, nagging each other and rowing - at other times when things are new this can also be hard as we adjust to new times.
You can make an effort to spend time together and do romantic things even a candle lit dinner. Listen to each other - what do you both want out of life at the moment and in the future. Think about how you both as a team can try to achieve it. This is about a team plan that leaves you both fulfilled overall even if it involves some sacrifices for you both at different times. It should not be about one partner sacrificing all their hopes dreams and desires to cling onto a relationship.
Nagging is very unproductive. It can be better to phrases things positively. If your parter is late and doesn't call to tell you rather than having a go at him. you could say something like I would really appreciate it if you called when you are going to be late. I get anxious that you may have had an accident and then i feel tense when you do turn up. If you call i won't feel anxious and angry when you do turn up. Then if he calls you to say he is late say thank you.
Also any criticsim you have say between two positive comments.
Only you know which specific living conditions are not working. WHat is right for you as a couple is something you need to negotiate between the two of you.
Good luck I hope you and your partner can work things out.
2006-09-16 09:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Bebe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may sound crazy, but I think a big part of what made my marriage better was my husband going active-duty Army. It keeps him busy and away for long enough periods of time that it forced us to set aside everything and just talk talk talk. We work through all our issues and by the time he comes home it's like dating all over again, everytime, not to mention the great benefits and steady income to go with it.
2006-09-16 09:10:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't a change, it was merely acceptance and mutual respect for one another that made my marriage wonderful. We didn't attempt to change each other, even though we were of different religions and political affiliations. While we often discussed our differences, we never fought about them. (I speak in past-tense as my husband died in 2003.)
2006-09-16 09:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by Emm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moving away from over-involved family.
2006-09-16 09:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by steelypen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
getting divorced
2006-09-16 09:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by mikebrennan_us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talked to my husband honestly, without the fear of hurting his feelinzs or making him mad
2006-09-16 09:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by justhanginout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband joined the army and I started therapy...LOL
2006-09-16 09:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by stall_out 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i made sure i was really in loveâ¥
2006-09-16 09:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i learned to deal with my anger better (a little)
2006-09-16 09:05:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋