him to beat the guy up and get into trouble and i know her will...what should i do
2006-09-16 09:05:54 · 22 answers · asked by amber 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok.. i just told my husband and he is very mad at me! (he was there that night) he told me i was being flirty! i wasnt i didnt know nice was flirty! i have no interest in the guy i love my husband the only reason i didnt tell him right then and there was cause i know for sure he would have hurt the guy! im really upset all i was trying to do was look out for my husband i dont want him to be in trouble!
2006-09-16 09:16:38 · update #1
Some things really are better not told. You rejected his advances, so you did the right thing. Try to keep your distance from that guy.
2006-09-16 09:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
report it. If you love your husband you cant keep this from him. He has a right to try to protect his family and he should know if a friend is not a friend. That is according to the UCMJ an assault or molestation. Maybe threatening to turn him in will be enough.n If you dont tell your husband this man will hav e your secret ov er your head and you will have a lie on your heart. ev entually your husband will find out. He will never believe that you are innocent if you keep it from him and he finds out later you did not tell him. This protects the dog and some dogs with rabies need a lesson.
2006-09-16 16:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lynnette G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't hav to tell you husband if you think YOU can handle the situation on your own. BEsides you said he TRIED to kiss you, stand you ground and be the strong person. Tell him your happliy married, etc and you won't put up with that, let him know IF he tries that again you will make sure your husband puts a stop to it....also, just don't be around the jerk, you can take responsibilty and keep yourself out of the situation.
2006-09-16 16:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by dlmvm0612 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell your husband, but first make him promise to listen to everything you have to say. First tell him you don't want him to hurt anyone and get into trouble. I hope he is a Christian. If so, tell him to think of Christ's teachings about forgiveness and remind him that Christ commands that we forgive each other and not do violence against one another. Then tell him exactly what happened. Emphasize that you love him and would never cheat on him, and that's why you're telling him. Emphasize that you do not want him to hurt his friend and you do not want your husband to get himself into trouble. Remind him that if he gets disciplined by the military, he will be punishing you, too, indirectly.
2006-09-16 16:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would totally tell my husband! Why would you want him to continue being friends with someone that obviously does not respect him or you. But I would ask my husband not to fly off the handle and be the bigger man in the situation!
2006-09-16 16:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by stall_out 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I am a military spouse, I absolutely positively have to say that you tell your husband. This is your marriage, you can't keep such a secret. It is highly likely that your husband will pound on him, if not in a group way. That's not your problem to solve. You have to protect yourself. Your marriage. Your reputation. It's God, Country, Wife--no friend in there.
2006-09-16 16:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, never tell your spouce how stupid you are .don 'hurt him because you let something go to far...... now your husband will hurt him and his friendship is over.if you don 't want to temp someone or yourself then don 't put you self in that position. in other words don't **** where you eat and don't eat where you sit. just be faithfull from this point on . let your husband know that he's theeeee only one and make him believe it.and in the future don't be so nice to guys we sometimes miss under stand. love your husband and be faithful even if he's not , atleast you go on with no guilt. good luck .............steve
2006-09-16 16:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by rtrujillo39 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm with this guy and tell him that this behavior of his is unacceptable and if he is a true friend to your husband that he shouldn't be trying to kiss you and for him to leave you alone. You have given him a warning and if he still continues to try to kiss you then tell your husband.
2006-09-16 16:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by asia s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why are you with this friend? This friend shouldn't be around you too much if your husband is not around. Why are you seeing this friend so much? To stop this nonsense, you need to stop having him over or going out with him. No wonder your husband call you a flirt.
2006-09-17 05:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your hubands friend to go over to Iraq and sacrifice his freedom and possibly his life and stop flirting with married women who's husbands are busy defending our country. He sounds like a real Jerk! Don't tell your husband.....just stay away from this idiot!
2006-09-16 16:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by johnny b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋