Marriage & Divorce - 29 August 2006

Do you argue about "little" or ultimately unimportant things? Or the same big thing over and over?

2006-08-29 13:48:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is in the music business and he recently start to work with a female artist, but for some reason I feel uneasy around her. Once she dropped him home at 2 in the morning, and now he works LATE hours, but other artist are around. He uses his texting feature on his phone now more than ever, he never tells me who he is texting, but now the texting has gone on through late night hours. I came out and asked him if he was having sex with her and he reassured me that he was not. But everytime I hear her name I get this feeling in my stomach that makes me sick. I am very fearful that he is having an affair but I can't prove it, he has worked with other artist before, but it is something about her that is uneasy. She is also married, but it just makes me wonder if she is happy in her marriage and looking for comfort in other places like my husband. My husband is very honest and sometimes too honest to where it hurts my feelings, should I believe him when he says he is not cheating?

2006-08-29 13:40:54 · 30 answers · asked by n/a 1

We work alot of hours, we both are very tired @ the end of the day. But, I want to spend quality time w/him, ie kissing touching cuddling talking. But we come home, watch tv, talk about work and go to bed. We used to be laugh, cut up, passionate, always touching. Now, we can go thru the day without talking about nothing but work (we own our business). We dont go out anymore, dance. We have been together 6 years. Sometimes I feel that he is bored with me/us. He will cut up with the guys either @ work or when they come here. But when its just him & I, there is not much of that. He will say hes tired, but when the guys call him, he laughing, telling jokes..etc., when he gets off the phone, its the same (really not acknowledging that I am there. Ill try to conversate, but I really dont get much back. I have talked about it, but he brushes it off or gets upset (says I am trying to argue). I am 40 & think maybe i am just going thru the change (emotionally)? But I cant shake it.

2006-08-29 13:40:48 · 17 answers · asked by aries 1

I've been with my husband for 12yrs. been married 2yrs. He just recently went out of town for 2 months for work he wasn't far but still he was gone. Two weeks before he left he wanted nothing to do with me sorry but we didn't even have sex the night before he left. I ended up hearing a girls voice when I asked all he did was laughed and said I had problems and was hearing things whats funny is 3 of "HIS FAMILY" members heard the samething I did thank god. The whole 2 months all he did was put me down and didn't want to touch me or even have sex with me and he needs sex everyday I felt worthless but I didn't let it bring me down. I ended up going where he was and found oh my goodness stains & lip stick marks {I wear lip gloss} on his shirts, shorts, suits etc. I asked about it and he said I don't know what that is and how it got there"RIGHT". He's back now and I'm still asking and he says he didn't do nothing and oh now he wants to have sex and touch me. What do you think???????????????

2006-08-29 13:25:49 · 33 answers · asked by ~JustKeepSmiling~ 1

Would you stay with someone if they could'nt have kids. Even if the person wanted you to try for ivf. But then said they didn't have funds for ivf. And then turned round and said that it would have to be 2 years before you could go for it. Even though you was not getting any younger. Or do you just turn a blind eye and stay with them. This is a question for the girls sorry guys.

2006-08-29 13:17:10 · 32 answers · asked by nicecupofteanicecupofcoffee 2

We have sex daily, sometimes twice. We do everything together, laugh, love, fight. We have four children, all of which are Straight-A Students, and have been married for 15 years. What concerns me is that we only knew one another for 28 days when we got married, which means we acted out of lust. Do you think this marriage will last?

2006-08-29 13:16:42 · 24 answers · asked by InternetPosterChild 2

I have tried to focus on my husband, spend more time together, but I can't stop thinking about this other guy, to the point its driving me mad. Is it possible this other man is really who I am suppose to be with? How do you really know? The say 70% of people who leave a spouse during an affair regret it, I don't want to be one of those people, but I don't want to lose what could be the greatest love of my live?

2006-08-29 13:15:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

EVEN IF SHE DONT GIVE ANY SIGNS THAT U CAN SEE.

WHAT ARE THE SMALL THINGS THAT I SHOULD LOOK FOR

2006-08-29 13:09:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-29 13:09:18 · 7 answers · asked by kitty19612003 1

My wife of 10 years started talking to an old high school boy friend from 20 years ago i didnt have a problem with it he's married with 3 kids until i found out she had been sleeping with him for 3 months. I confronted her and she admited it. I thought about leaving her but I love her and if we split up she would move to another state with my 8 year old son. She broke it off with him and said she loved me and wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. Then i found out 1 months later from cell phone records she never stopped talking to him. She said they stopped seeing each other not talking. So I called his wife and told her they were still talking. My wife said they were not going to talk again.Then she got a new cell phone so i couldn't check the records anymore she said she need her privecy. A month later she was still talking to him. She said she needed someone to talk to and he was going through the same thing in his house.
Should I leave, can she ever be trusted

2006-08-29 13:03:22 · 20 answers · asked by z1bill2001 1

A month, two years, what? How long?

2006-08-29 13:01:32 · 15 answers · asked by *babydoll* 6

we have been together for 2 and half years and it has been a struggle for us both. I recently met a new woman who is paying me alot of attention that i as missing from my wife. Now i dont know if i should stay with my wife who desperatly loves me and feels sorry for neglecting me as she has asked me to give her another chance, or try a new relationship with the woman of 1 month who helped me when i was feeling down and showed me support.. I have cheated on my wife twice and she forgave me but should i forgive her for neglecting me. Should i stay or go? they are both good women and both love me.

2006-08-29 13:00:45 · 32 answers · asked by ANGEL ALEXANDER K 1

is every single day that iwant some

2006-08-29 13:00:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

First divorce, second, third, etc. if applicable.

2006-08-29 12:57:14 · 10 answers · asked by *babydoll* 6

I'm looking for a place to vent, talk with other people going through some of the same things. I am devasted emotionally- 15 year marraige, he leaves and is seeing someone else. he never let me know about it in case he didn't want to leave me for her, he left. i have been really sick and stuck in my house.. i feel really really alone. i haven't worked ouside of the home. anyone got any good places they know of?

2006-08-29 12:51:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has been married before and him and his ex have 2 children together. Whenever he calls her or she calls him he leaves the room, or he calls her when I'm at work but he never ever talks to her when I'm anywhere near him. Could he be cheating on me!

2006-08-29 12:49:05 · 19 answers · asked by KEY 2

I am 21 and my husband is 23. We've been married for almost four years. We are always fighting about porn. He tries to hide it sometimes and has spent plenty of money on dvds and internet porn. He would look at everyday if i don't say anything about it. I don't understand what men look for in porn, but a simple nut. He said he was trying to go porn free for 30 days, but only lasted a week. I don't understand why he can't chill out on it or even give it up.

2006-08-29 12:36:57 · 36 answers · asked by martin24 1

would you be upset if your husband didnt want to wear a wedding ring?

Keep in mind that he works in the medical industry and would have to take it off and put it back on constantly.

2006-08-29 12:26:33 · 25 answers · asked by RedEye 3

If a husband was open about sharing everything at the beginning of the marriage then slowly takes everything away after being caught on some things, nothing too major, is there something going on or does he just desire more freedom of privacy?

2006-08-29 12:20:00 · 11 answers · asked by Skypride 2

My husband and I have been together for seven years. We have not had a good marriage together. We do not agree on anything anymore and I can't have a simple conversation with him without him over talking me. Our relationship has been violent for the past two years and we have not even discussed putting our wedding bands back on. We have both been unfaithful in our marriage which has caused us both pain. I have gotten over it but he has not. We can't agree on raising the kids. We can't put our money together to pay bills. I am not on my inlaws favorites list. Frankly, I am tired of the @#$!. I want to fix my broken marriage but every time things are going well some things happen and the tension returns. Man, what should I do. I am afraid of leaving him because through all the !@#$%^& I still love him. I just want things to work. But, after two years we are at a stale mate. Please some one give an intelligent response. T.Y.

2006-08-29 12:19:40 · 16 answers · asked by VON 2

my husband is sitting infront of the TV for 4-9 hrs every single day. I think it's totally unhealthy.

2006-08-29 12:19:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think my husband is cheating. This women he works with, whom I meet personally, calls his cell phone constantly. I was desperate to find out what was going on and I checked his voice mail. I have been burned by him before so this time I didn't want to take any chances. She calls him "baby", and she calls day and night. She also left a pretty scathing message describing what she wanted him to do to her in bed.He also calls her a lot. When I asked if he was seeing her he said she was just a friend and she was probably gay.

2006-08-29 12:14:17 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't want to disrupt our 3 year olds school year, so I want to stick around at least until June of 2007. What can I do in the meantime to make sure that I have myself together mentally, financially, etc?

I also plan to talk to an attorney, but I would like some advice/suggestions from the yahoo answers community.

BTW - In terms of working things out, we tried counseling (2 separate times), books, moments of kindness, etc. and nothing has helped so far.

2006-08-29 12:05:05 · 8 answers · asked by hrmom02 2

the question is WHY do you bother

2006-08-29 11:58:36 · 9 answers · asked by bull 5

2006-08-29 11:57:31 · 15 answers · asked by geminilady90044 1

Married 6 years. Husband’s alcoholism progressively got worse, although he still retained his job as a school administrator. He loves the bars. I tried to keep up with him for a while, but couldn’t. He became verbally abusive, flirted with other women (I can’t prove adultery) and refused to get help. His mother and extended family try to talk to him sometimes, but don’t really force the issue. After all, he is the favorite son and cousin. He and I are both 54. I nagged, begged, made excuses, etc. I went and got him when he couldn’t find his car many a ‘next day’. He is the Cell Phone King and loves to wife bash. He has told lies about me, even sober. He lost his cell phone when he was out TWICE in bars and guess who he blamed? He finally left after I continually told him that if he wanted to live the single life, he needed to live it outside of our home. He has been gone a month, living in the same town. He has not tried to call or communicate. I don’t want the drama anymore, but I wonder if he truly doesn’t really care and I need to accept it. Is the fact that he doesn’t communicate a sign that he is ready to move on? I can’t ask him anything; he refused to talk about anything serious when he was home.

2006-08-29 11:51:35 · 38 answers · asked by watergirl54 2

2006-08-29 11:38:17 · 33 answers · asked by MR 1

2006-08-29 11:31:08 · 10 answers · asked by alina 2

Wanting to know the amount of stress different types of affairs have on a relationship.

2006-08-29 11:30:17 · 14 answers · asked by maxheadroom 1

Husband of three years spent summer on assignment in another state. I know he saw his ex girlfriends, and just discovered messages to a woman he used to work with. They were arranging to get together with a lot of, "I miss you so much," "I can't wait to see you again," and actually sign off "Love, [name]". Is it possible this was just a social meeting, not a tryst? Hubby does not usually express himself so emotionally with friends, or even with me for that matter. Am I stupid? Is it just painfully obvious? What should I do?

I felt terrible reading his email, but he's been so distant since returning; I just had to know what he was sending and receiving. My blood ran cold when I read what they've been sending to each other.

I know that if I ask about it, he'll deny it and focus the discussion on my snooping. Are we doomed?

2006-08-29 11:25:22 · 15 answers · asked by RiverGrrl 1