If a husband was open about sharing everything at the beginning of the marriage then slowly takes everything away after being caught on some things, nothing too major, is there something going on or does he just desire more freedom of privacy?
2006-08-29 12:20:00 · 11 answers · asked by Skypride 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is the only one that can answer that question. Maybe he feels like he needs to keep some things just his. Ask him about it and understand when he says what he needs. You say he was caught on some things? Depending what he was caught on is whether it is just a freedom issue. An honest husband and wife can have their own space and still be upfront and open about it. No secrets needed. Just talk to him and ask whats up .That's the best way to find your answer.
2006-08-29 12:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, being married does change a person. And adding to things he gets caught doing something that probably didn't get your approval, can definitely add to it.
As long as you believe your marriage is healthy, I wouldn't be concerned. He might just be trying to find that stage of being independent. On the other hand, if he has been successful in hiding certain things on you and gotten away with if for an extended period of time, you now have invaded his space, which will require him to cover his tracks. The less you know and the less of a so called "paper trail" there is, the easier it will be for him to get back to his possibly sneak ways.
I'd recommend keeping an eye on the situation. Take 2 aspirin and call us "Answerer's" in the morning. You can't afford those headaches! We make house calls if things don't get better!
Hang in there!
2006-08-29 19:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be anything --- too much togetherness, a girl friend, fell out of love..... endless stuff. Ask him. If you're not satisfied, an ultimatum, but just remember, that when/if you give him the IF/THEN contract....." If you don't change, Then I'm leaving" then you pretty much have to go, or don't say something like this in the first place. Sometimes you can learn what you want to know by such phrases as, " I'm uncomfortable. Is there something I should know?" Don't accuse him of anything, that sorta sets them back and they become defensive. Express your doubts, not what you think he is up to. " Is there something that I am doing wrong, that I seem to feel that I am left out of your thoughts?" "I feel uneasy, that I am not pleasing you. Is there something I am missing?" Get the idea? You'll never know, unless you ask..... good luck, sweetie
2006-08-29 19:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't necessarily mean that something is going on. Maybe he feels he needs a little privacy in his life. That is understandable. Of course he could also be up to no good.
This would be a good time to have a heart-to-heart talk about the whole situation before it gets out of hand.
2006-08-29 19:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men like to have their privacy even in marriage. They are afraid of losing their identity. I tried that with mine but it did not work. So I just let him do whatever as long as he is not cheating on me.
2006-08-29 19:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by leyte6519 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I am having the same problem with my husband he used to share everything with me now he just keeps to himself.
2006-08-29 19:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by KEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask yourself whether you were using what he shared with you against him...
I would tend to think that if I shared something private about my past with my significant other, and then something happened and he threw my past back in my face... that I would be less perceptive to share other things with him in the future for fear of him misconstruing it to his benefit at a later date.
Never hold someone's past against them in the future... just deal with the issue at hand without digging up past dirt that may or may not be parallel to what is happening.
2006-08-29 19:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by Sue_Render_Urself_2Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be feeling the 'too close' problem. Where he feels everything is yours, or 'ours' and he has nothing of his own anymore....
2006-08-29 19:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is he giving and taking away? That may help us understand your question, so that we can answer it for you.
2006-08-29 19:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by bmoline 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More space for himself I think.
2006-08-29 19:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋