How do you cure lonliness after a divorce?

Answer 1

Start dating, hang out with friends. Reach out to people. Get a new hobby. Have fun.

Answer 2

There are many good answers already - try and stay busy, socialize (but only as much as you feel like getting out and doing that) but don't let friends FORCE you to do so. Like most emotional wounds it will take time to heal and don't let anyone tell you when you have healed because only you will know that.

Divorce is rated the same as the death of a loved one on scales of stress vs. impact on health and with good reason - part of you has been ripped away - even if your partner was unfaithful or you wanted the divorce too.

If you find yourself getting really down and low call a friend pr relative and talk. Try and avoid driving by places you used to go together until you feel you can do that without making the longing to be together again worse. Go to a movie because even if you don't know anyone there, being in a crowd that's enjoying a good film, and escaping for an hour or two can help. Go to the mall and look around for the same reason - there are other people there.

Keep your regular activities up and stay in the daily routine - go to work, go to the grocery store or the dentist or doctor when you need to, etc. Don't dwell on whether to go - just get in the car and go.

Not knowing the circumstances of your divorce, I want to say that you may feel like you will never meet anyone you want to be as close to as you and your partner and that may well be true, or you may just be lonely and really hate your ex for some reason.

Above all, when you do feel like dating again don't do comparisons or date someone only because they remind you of your ex.

For now, stay away from music that you listened to together and I'm not joking when I say avoid country music (if you like it) which can be overwhelming with its emotional prose especially if sitting at home alone. Later you can listen to it as you feel ready.

I know it seems hopeless now but it isn't. Hang in there and you will find that the sun will start shining again in both your emotional and social life. Good luck!

Answer 3

It's normal to feel lonely. Around the house, stay busy w/things you like to do or re-start a hobby or pastime you haven't done in awhile. Read. Watch movies. Invite friends over. Take walks. Go to places you haven't been in awhile: a museum, park, mall.

There's a difference between loneliness and being alone. You can actually be lonely with other people around you.

Don't put yourself on a timetable. When you start getting down, get out a journal and write down how you're feeling. Do that on a regular basis and you might see a pattern to those times.

Good luck! Enjoy your own company because you have to be w/yourself for the rest of your life (know that sounds corny, but it's so true).

Answer 4

I stayed busy. I am a divorced woman with three children. I started playing on a co-ed softball team. That was alot of fun. A few months later I went back to college. I graduated with honors. My life is going so much better now, that I tell people that I am happily divorced. The point is to get out there and meet people. Dont think that your life is over just because your marriage is. Good luck!

Answer 5

I know it must be very difficult for you bec i felt the same. The friends, neighbors or relatives do not know what is botherin you. Take a break, go to a place you've never been to. Go to a place where nobody knows you. You will feel encouraged , you get fresh perspective and understanding of the whole damn thin. Let your heart guide you and indulge in a bit in adventure by meeting and chatting with people whom you do not know. Try to get to know their minds. The World is h u g e and good people always meet more than one...this is my experience. I was fighting all odds with my back to the wall (may be exactly what you are feelin now.). Please do not worry and live this beautiful life and trust in the supreme power of God. Becus God is watching you every moment and believe in the adage "what goes up comes down and what is down goes up some day" and "everyday is a new beginning, a fresh start".
Good Luck !!

Answer 6

After a divorce the only thing that will keep your mind off of the subject is just to keep yourself as busy as possible. If you are working is a good thing..if you are going to school take some extra classes and if you are not doing either just try to work out and try to meet new people. The internet is a good thing. If you are still living in the same house..move out...or just don't be there often..if you have kids...you are going to be busy regardless.

Answer 7

Start with hanging out with friends, and maybe try taking a class or doing some volunteer work. Try going to church if you are at all religious. Do things that you haven't done with your spouse, so you aren't reminded of being without them. Talk to friends about your feelings, but not to new people. With new people, focus on what you can learn about them and what you might have in common, so that you make new connections. Eventually, this might lead to a romantic relationship, but first you need to learn to be comfortable being on your own. I'd agree with others that you need to be comfortable in your own home alone, so listening to music, watching TV, or reading something entertaining that distracts you from focusing on being alone are all good ideas.

Answer 8

Time does it for you. Get used to enjoying your time...get out more, meet new people..they are not going to knock down your door to get to you..they don't even know you are there. Invest in yourself for a change..you will be amazed at what you can accomplish. Start a new business that will grow with you. Make money (always the best revenge, isn't it?) Good luck.

Answer 9

Keep busy with work and other things you enjoy. Meet new people and make friends. Take a class or two. Look up old friends and get yourself reacquainted once again. If you have children, embrace the time you will spend with them. Take a deep breath....when things get tough. It gets easier with time. Wishing you much luck now and for the future.

Answer 10

marry again
cause lonliness has occured due to divorce
search for a companion

Answer 11

Forget about divorce totally,and go on,go forward,be alive.you can start to date again,or you can go out with your family,friends,go to do exercise,walking,reading books,play an instrument,watch movies,play videos,watch wrestling,boxing,etc. The idea is to have your mind and time busy,never empty.Also you can practise some sports like swimming,go to the gym,play soccer,hockey,and on and on.Talk with your friends or email them.Finally ,if nothing of this is working,go to the church and spent more time there, praying,singing and making good friends too.Good luck. Remember,never be alone,that is dangerous.