My husband has been married before and him and his ex have 2 children together. Whenever he calls her or she calls him he leaves the room, or he calls her when I'm at work but he never ever talks to her when I'm anywhere near him. Could he be cheating on me!
2006-08-29 12:49:05 · 19 answers · asked by KEY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His relationship with her should be an open book to you. They have children to raise, but that's the extent of their relationship.
Usually, this sort of behavior is questionable. However, he may think that he is being considerate by not inflicting baggage from his prior marriage on you. You should talk to him and let him know that you don't mind if he talks to her in front of you. His reaction will tell.
2006-08-29 12:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest simply asking him why he leaves the room. Its better to be upfront and honest with him and share your concerns including how you feel when he walks out the room. He may be doing it to avoid disturbing you with the conversation, gain privacy to speak freely without upsetting you (which doesnt mean he's cheating) or he could be up to something. Whatever the reason, talk with him and give him a chance to answer, then decide how you want to respond. Remember, he had the children before you were together, you married a package not just him.
2006-08-29 12:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Probably not, my husband does the exact same thing. He was married before with 2 kids. He always calls when I am out of the room. So you tell me and we will both know. I don't like it either.
2006-08-29 12:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has an ex, they share 1 child. He tries to keep me out of the situation cause he doesn't want me to get upset by the fact that they HAVE to communicate. But, if I ask him what the conversation was about, he never hesitates to tell me.
So, my suggestion is this, if you do want to become part of this 2 way relationship, let it be known, if he still tries to shut you out, ask him why?? Don't be afraid to voice your concerns, might be he's just trying to spare you any discomfort and is just going about it the wrong way. Remember, your vows include trust and honesty, that's a good start.......
good luck
2006-08-29 13:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by Torri * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just to have a quiet phone call is a bit of a leap to go to cheating. Lots of people leave the room when on the phone. Though in this case it more because you don't want to hear what he will say and he does not want to put up with you for hours afterwards..(he will say on the phone 'sure, see you later' and hang up..and you'll go on and on 'so your gonna see her later?')
2006-08-29 12:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He could be cheating on you or being respectful around you by leaving the room because he's talking to his ex. Maybe you should talk to him about it.
2006-08-29 12:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by James B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell you what I would do sweetheart, I'de get a cell and ask 10 friends to call every night , then I'de also leave the room.. show him how it feels, bet he gets the idea..Your friend from Tennessee...ROB
2006-08-29 12:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered that maybe he just doesn't want to discuss their issues in front of you out of respect for you? I wouldn't jump into the conclusions that he's cheating though if you have any doubts, ask him directly why his conversations with her are so private.
2006-08-29 13:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are blowing this out of proportion. If they have children together I am sure their are items about the children they need to discuss.
2006-08-29 12:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Asking whats going on. Number one problem in a relationship is no communication, which leads to mistrust and dishonesty. If your married to him you have every right to know what is going on,
2006-08-29 12:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋