I am 21 and my husband is 23. We've been married for almost four years. We are always fighting about porn. He tries to hide it sometimes and has spent plenty of money on dvds and internet porn. He would look at everyday if i don't say anything about it. I don't understand what men look for in porn, but a simple nut. He said he was trying to go porn free for 30 days, but only lasted a week. I don't understand why he can't chill out on it or even give it up.
2006-08-29 12:36:57 · 36 answers · asked by martin24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, he definitely has a porn addiction. You have seen it yourself with your own two eyes, he can't even last a week without going back. This addiction is very similar to alcohol addiction, he needs to seek some help. If he keeps relying on such filth to feast his eyes on, it will erode his view of you. If he keeps this up, through time, it will be the only thing that will keep him excited. If he values you or the marriage, he will at least try to quit. Please look into covenanteyes.com and x3watch.com One is free and one is not. They are both accountability software. Take care and good luck.
2006-08-29 12:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Porn is HIGHLY addictive for some people. Those people will sink deeper and deeper in to a dark fantasy world and lose their ability to function in an intimate relationship with a real person. If he couldn't go porn free to 30 days he may have a problem.
2006-08-29 12:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every guy watches and loves porn and theres nothing we women can really do about it...But if he's doing it as much as you say he is i think he is getting addicted to it....I understand why guys watch porn but i think if your going to be paying attention to that more than your wife there's a problem...My bf watches porn every once in a while. To tell you the truth i really dont like when he does it but guys will be guys and as long as he does it every once in a while i could deal with it...I would also fight with my bf if i see he's paying more mind to porn than me...I think there's a problem there
2006-08-29 12:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by VaLeRieZ_MaMii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much of anything is harmful. The problem here is that he's spending to much money, just as if it was a drug addiction or a gambling addiction. There's nothing wrong with looking at porn, just in moderation and it's more exciting with a partner.
2006-08-29 12:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by Hey You 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say that most men like porn no matter what they say to your face. Just let your husband do what he wants to do instead of fighting him. Maybe join him in watching. Nobody wants a naggy wife. Just let him be, at least he is not at a strip joint or cheating on another women.
2006-08-29 12:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like an addiction... To be doing *anything* compulsively every day is crossing into addiction, be it porn, gaming or eating at McDonalds. Nothing's wrong with looking at porn every once in a while, but it's unhealthy to obsess about it like he does.
2006-08-29 12:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It does sound like he has a real problem since he can't go without it for more than a week. I would be afraid that eventually he would want to try out some of those scenarios. Suggest counseling. If he refuses, I would tell him to leave and come back when his addiction is cured. Enough is enough already!
2006-08-29 12:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh, yes, you betta believe it. It is like any other addiction, and just forget the cure --- there ain't one. They will come home, sit in front of a monitor, watch that stuff, drink until they pass out, and there is about nothing you can do to get them away. They will twist off their heads at the beach oooooogling a 13 year old little girl in a bikini. They will turn you down stark naked to watch the stuff, then try to hid it. They prefer jerking off and watching it to you..... It only gets worse......
2006-08-29 12:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say it, but if you were giving him what he needed, he would not look in other places. Porn, true enough is an addiction, but by giving him more of what he is looking for, he will give it up and be satisfied with you.
2006-08-29 12:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by Richard B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it's not hurting you, why hurt him?
This is not about you, has nothing to do with you, in fact.
men have a sexual libido TWELVE TIMES that of women.
and the sexual tension builds and builds and builds until there is a release.
For every time you THINK about sex, a man has though of it 12 times.
Can you put this into perspective? And there is nothing they can do about it. THIS IS NOT W R O N G .
2006-08-29 12:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋