I don't want to disrupt our 3 year olds school year, so I want to stick around at least until June of 2007. What can I do in the meantime to make sure that I have myself together mentally, financially, etc?
I also plan to talk to an attorney, but I would like some advice/suggestions from the yahoo answers community.
BTW - In terms of working things out, we tried counseling (2 separate times), books, moments of kindness, etc. and nothing has helped so far.
2006-08-29 12:05:05 · 8 answers · asked by hrmom02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make sure you are financially secure. Don't ever depend on the man for support because although you may be agreeable at the end feelings usually surface and things can change. So make sure you have a job and money in the bank. Also get a place to live nearby your childs school so things go smoothly. Mentally its never easy. It will take a long time to adjust but let yourself be sad for awhile. You will have lost part of your life but look forward to the new one that you are about to have. Don't jump back in the rebound saddle right away either. Take time for yourself when the mess is done. Its always sad when you end a relationship.
2006-08-29 12:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by smile4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you get copies of all important papers, tax forms, bank statements, credit accounts, mortgage, deeds, immunization records, birth certificatesetc. Try to stash some money back, but don't take more than your fair share. You will likely end up splitting property 50-50, but don't stress little things too much, they are just things. You will also likely end up sharing custody, so never down talk your spouse to the kid, try not to involve the child in any argument. Pay down joint debt as much as you can and don't incur any more. Get any job training you might need while you have help. Hopefully you won't need any advice, but remember to act like an adult, good luck.
2006-08-29 12:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by Unknown Oscillator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an appointment to an attorney and some of them will give you a free consultation. Make sure to open a new account for yourself and do not let your husband know that you are opening one. Close any credit card that is both in your name as long as there is no monthly bill coming. Any bills incurred in in time of your marriage you both will be responsible for it. Paperwork any important one make sure you have a copy like your house. Emotionally that I cannot help. You just have to be strong and if you have a good friend that you can trust or talk to that helps. Family is nice to have but they can be a pain. Goodluck to you and say a lot of prayer for guidance.
2006-08-29 12:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by leyte6519 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the state you live in, you may have to be separated for 6 months to a year prior to the dovirce being filed. Look over your finances, where you are going to be living, how your debt (if any) will be paid and by whom. Just take it one step at a time and it works itself out. I have been divorced for 5 months with a year separation prior to that. A good attorney will help you with advice that you need to adjust. Good Luck!
2006-08-29 12:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by lorideer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not get separated now but live under the same roof. This would allow both of you to get things in order. I would talk to an attorney ASAP - there are a lot of things that are different in each state such as bank accounts (even if in one name only) are joint property, if you own a house or in a lease agreement how is that going to be divided.
Please get an attorney now it is easier to just get things over with than dragging it out.
2006-08-29 12:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that it's come to this. Does your husband know of your plans yet? Maybe you should sit down with him and discuss your problems and tell him that you've decided that it would be in everyone's best interest to separate. Have a date set and tell him that you're planning it for that date so that you can both tally up the finances and find other housing and have the time to talk to your child about all this. My prayers are with you.
2006-08-29 12:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by swrong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was in your Shoes i would start putting money aside now so that you'll have something to fall back on once you leave... A lot can happen in one year..... good luck
2006-08-29 12:16:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried prayer??
2006-08-29 12:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋