If you consider yourself "happily married" how often do you fight with your spouse?

Question

Do you argue about "little" or ultimately unimportant things? Or the same big thing over and over?

Answer 1

My husband and I don't fight very often but when we do, it's usually about stupid, little things. We don't have "big issues" to fight about but once in a while we get irritated with each other. It's not what you fight about that's important, it's how you fight about it. We don't scream, yell, bicker or cuss at each other. If one of us need some breathing room we just tell the other that we need to take a cooling off period. When we're sufficiently level headed, we talk about it in a calm manner until it's resolved. Sometimes we agree, sometimes we compromise and sometimes we agree to disagree but we don't let the small stuff ruin it for us.

Answer 2

Just because you and your spouse argue doen't mean you don't love each other or that your in an unhappy marriage. Look at it this way, arguing is a sense of therapy, when you argue you get things off your chest while letting your spouse know whats bothering you, so over all you feel better. Not arguing and holding every thing in is a bad choice, it causes you to hold so much that one day your bound to explode and there will be no making up. I have been married for almost 3 years and my husband argue, not very often but it happens, but even though at the time it bothers me, I know that everything is going to be ok, because we understand each other and always listen to what the other person has to say.

Answer 3

I am fortunate enough to be happily married for almost 25 years, we have learned to not try and change each other and accept the small annoyance in life and marriage we argue once in a while (ever 2-3 months) and we usually decide that we both contributed some selfishness and try and find the solution.
Once in awhile we get into a fight and really tell each other off, this is when we are very stressed and a lot of things like life's stresses are overwhelming then we realize how nice it is to be able to have each other to go through the rough stuff with and sometimes the end result is to agree to disagree.
I cherish my husband and I respect him because he loves me for me and I thank God for him everyday.
I hope that answers the question and love is good to you!

Answer 4

I think that you can still be in a happy marriage even though you all argue. After all an agruement is just a disagreement about an issue. You do not want to have someone always feel the same way that you do all the time. It is nice to see things from a different perspective sometimes. That is how you get to know what your partner likes and does not like.

Answer 5

If you don't have some fights, then you are not comunicating at all. Some fights are good. When I say fight, I don't mean punching and slapping. A fight can help with communication as long as it doesn't go on too long. I would say that we fight at least once a week and it is usually over little things that end quickly.

Answer 6

I think it depends on the issues you fight about and how you fight. Personally, I thinks it's a good thing for couples to fight once in a while, otherwise you build up tolerances for intolerances and one of you will blow up in a bad way. I think my husband and I fight a few times a year usually about money or keeping the house clean. Your basic fights

Answer 7

My wife and I don't fight or argue.

We have disagreements which we talk about.

If we do feel that we are both getting hot under the collar, we just chill out and keep quiet. After a few minutes then we talk again.

Yeah, there will be times when my wife explodes (during her period) but I just let it be. When I explode, I lock myself up in the bathroom and viciously pound the walls with my knuckles until they bleed (I'd rather hurt myself then hurt my wife or my kid).

Peace.

Answer 8

I consider myself happy in my marriage, my wife and I rarely fight. We pretty much agree on a lot of things and we realize that fighting does not get you anywhere and sometimes you just may say things that you don't really mean. Why fight, it is not worth the aggravation.

Answer 9

Can't remember the last "fight" but we have disagreements over things that come up. Doesn't seem to be the same over and over. We manage to settle them peaceably with each giving what seems to be their fair share of times.

Answer 10

i have been happily married for 10 yrs and me and my hubby hardly ever fight but when we do its over little things and the fight doesn't usually last that long.