Is he cheating?

Question

My husband is in the music business and he recently start to work with a female artist, but for some reason I feel uneasy around her. Once she dropped him home at 2 in the morning, and now he works LATE hours, but other artist are around. He uses his texting feature on his phone now more than ever, he never tells me who he is texting, but now the texting has gone on through late night hours. I came out and asked him if he was having sex with her and he reassured me that he was not. But everytime I hear her name I get this feeling in my stomach that makes me sick. I am very fearful that he is having an affair but I can't prove it, he has worked with other artist before, but it is something about her that is uneasy. She is also married, but it just makes me wonder if she is happy in her marriage and looking for comfort in other places like my husband. My husband is very honest and sometimes too honest to where it hurts my feelings, should I believe him when he says he is not cheating?

Answer 1

In this respect we as a people are ether physic or phyco. You know if the relationship is not the same. You know when the bootie is different. You know how much and how long your sex last. You know if his attention level to you is normal. You know this man better than he knows himself. You can and do tell him how he will act and react in a given situation with a reasonable amount of accuracy. If all the above things are normal he may not be sleeping with her but having a relationship that is not in fact sexual but more dangerous!! You see we men can have sex like playing tennis! We don't even think about it when the games is over. But a deep and caring friendship with someone he is not having sex with far far more dangerous, because if by chance they should finally go there the sex will be enhanced by the feelings and you tell me how would that be different than having sex with you?

Answer 2

I am not even going to suggest you doing any P.I. work or investigating. That is wrong on so many levels. Remember this is your husband you are talking about! You stated that he is very honest and sometimes too honest, so why has that suddenly gone down the drain with one female co-worker?
He may be cheating, anything is possible. But if he is, finding it out on your own isnt going to make the pain of it any less.
My suggestion is to just concentrate on yourself for now. Pressuring him or accusing him of things isnt going to make your marriage better or make either of you happy.
You asked him already, so accept what he has to say as truth until proven otherwise.
Like I said, work on yourself and what makes you happy. It will only benefit you nomatter how things turn out. Good luck.

Answer 3

Honey, you are just jealous, music artists are always working late hours, and like you say, he has worked with other artists before. Look it is really hard to say. But if he has never given you a reason to think he has been unfaithful to your before, why would you think it now, unless you have noticed a chance in his feeling around you. Are you two still making love and a regular basis as before, are you to still going to family gathering like before.

Look my dear, if you let jealousy fill your head with this type of thinking then you and him are driving down the road of destruction. If she is married then let it be. You know he has late hours working. Be attentive about who he is with but don't accuse him of cheating, as if you do and you keep acting like you believe he is, he just might do it.

It is a hard question, and i know your feeling are at a very high peak of defense right now. So be very careful about how you approach him on the subject. Maybe you just need to relax and trust him more. Good Luck

Answer 4

i would have a real strong heart to heart with him about this situation and the texing seems fishy, check the cell phone bill and see if he has been texing and calling her and how much it sounds like there is some chemistry going on the same thing happened to my sister she caught him by checking cell phone bills he finally fesed up anyways why does she have to text if nothing is going on ?? why dont she just call the home phone if you have one i would defenitely do some research on this one.. good luck to you and im so sorry oh another thing if they work all hours of the night together what would be so important that they need to talk to each other and text also?? be carefull and i wish you the best

Answer 5

You just might be paranoid but if you really feel uneasy about the situation, then what you should do is be there when he is around that woman. Follow him everywhere he goes. What have you got to lose but your sanity?!? You are gonna go crazy thinking what he is up to 24/7.

Answer 6

Well you can believe him or hire an investigator to follow him around. tought call. Maybe you should aragnge a "double date" to get to know her and her husband better, maybe this will give you a better feel for her. If your husband remarks about it, just tell him that becuase she is so imortant to him as a "friend" that you'd like to be friends with her too! Maybe even just a short coffee lucnh break. See if this makes you feel any better.

Answer 7

Sounds fishy to me. Get his cell phone and check the messages. If he won't let you have it, then that is a big, giant red flag. If he has nothing to hide, there should be no problem with letting you see his phone. If he will, go through the messages to either alleviate your mind or confirm your suspicions. If there is something there, you have to make some hard choices and stick to them.
Good luck

Answer 8

First of all I believe women have a sixth sense. Saying that you very well could be right. Ask him to show you a few of his text messages. If he gets all pissed off you know he is trying to hide or put the blame on you then something is up. If he refuses then you know he probably has her ankles pinned by her ears.

Answer 9

Honey in case you have already got data he's cheating ("So i think of my bf is cheating doing the internet element I do have data, yet he hides his "cookies" temp data that can hint what you're doing on line.. ") why might you elect for to proceed torturing your self searching for greater data? in simple terms kick him to the shrink noone merits to be cheated on. i comprehend its much less perplexing pronounced than finished because of the fact i'm advantageous you like him, yet love your self greater. No guy is ever properly worth your tears.

Answer 10

I don't mean to hurt your feelings but it sounds like he could be. I never thought that I would cheat, but sometimes there are opportunities and you take them. I haven't cheated but sometimes it can be tempting. So, I would spy with a friend, and that is the only way to really know for sure what is going on.