Marriage & Divorce - 27 August 2006

2006-08-27 14:45:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

he wants us to be together but befor we do that he wants me to get a divorce from my husband who shows no affection and literally never talks to me i have to do everything from working to fixing the car to all the house work when i ask him to help me sometimes he will but most of the time he just sits around and sleeps we havent grown together but apart but i still love him any suggestions ?

in the begining i beleived that god had picked my husband for me when i was born but now i wonder if i made a m istake i have grown up and changed and he has not this other man i met online has a sense of humor 2 kids and his hands full at work like me he understands what im going through the work i do i can get anywhere please help me im desperate i feel like my life is being held down from progressing

2006-08-27 14:36:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for six months now, but I have known him for five years. He is wonderful....just truely a wonderful person, our relationship has been great and I couldn't ask for anyone better for me. When I am with him I think about our future and I know I want him in it, but I can't help but think that my dreams may never become a reality. My boyfriend is currently seperated from his wife. She had an affair and moved on with the person she cheated on him with, but they still talk because there are children involved. Even though it has been a year since the seperation...there hasn't been a divorce yet. He doesn't want to talk about divorce and I am concerned about this. I know he is hurt, especially having been cheated on by someone he thought was in it for the long haul, but it makes me wonder whether I just need to give him more time to grieve or that this means he can't let go and that if she wanted to work it out with him...he would take it? Am I wasting my time?

2006-08-27 14:34:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-27 14:34:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife bores me should I leave her?

she is younger than me but we have nothing in common, she went on a trip for 2 months and it was like she never left. I didnt miss her and when she got back it was just the same. we never talk or go out and rarly have very boring sex. She is watching tv and I am on line asking questions here because she is so boring I want to scream!

When I take her out all she wants to do is look at a movie and bore me to death. Sex is so boring that I dont even bother anymore. In the past sex with others was always hot and exciting. When she calls me on the phone it is like no one is there she is a non person. All weekend she watches tv or sleeps. I had so much fun while she was away for 2 months visiting family I didnt miss her at all when she came home it was just like when she was gone BUT MUCH MORE dull and boring. I want out but Im scared of being alone but being with her is just like being alone. I took her to 2 councelors they both told her to learn to talk she never did. I left her for 4 months a year ago but she is so lame she cant survive on her own and her family is all overseas so I feel sorry for her and stay with her. I am so depressed and bored im lonly and sad every day I get no sex or love or even conversation. Im married to a nonperson a lump in front of a tv.

2006-08-27 14:26:55 · 15 answers · asked by motard 1

i hooked up with a guy couple of times because my husband would never **** me. Am I guilty?

2006-08-27 14:21:38 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

Seriously. I know this may sound silly, but I am having no luck whatsoever with attracting me. I also have a yahoo360 page so you can view more photos there.

I'm educated (getting my master's), funny, and a good friend. Everyone says the usual "you're so pretty!" or "you're a great person! you'll find someone eventually!" I'm really just looking for casual dating, but I can't even get to that.

So what's wrong? Should I lose more weight? Do my hair differently? Get colored lenses? Because being myself is not working!! :-) Thanks!

2006-08-27 14:21:01 · 13 answers · asked by Thaelia 2

Should I just honor her by letting her go for the next few years,,,,If you just cant understand and except... why keep trying ,,, but hurting each other,,,she doesnt except my truly finding a wonderful life with my husband. really,,,he is soooooooo good to me,,and so excepts all my cob webs of the past,,,but I wish my daughter would understand....Her father ingnored her for her first 16 years,,,she resents me,,, I protected her from all that her father was,,,still why does she blame me,,,,I have wanted to aske this question for a few months,,but,,,,kinda didnt want to be judged on here,,,,would really appreciate true Mother and Daughter advice,,,
sincerely I thank you for your answers,,,because my preciouse 4 year old grandaughter is involved. If I dont see my daughter,,,I dont see my grandaughter,,,,,I love them both,,,~~~

2006-08-27 14:17:20 · 2 answers · asked by ~~Penny~~ 5

Do you believe that somewhere in your heart you hold a special little love for all your past relationships, good or bad, as simply a remembrance of the times you shared with different people? I believe that love is a circle and it never breaks or ends. Yes, people move on and yes, contact ends eventually....but don't you think in your heart, everyone has a special place for everyone they met who touched them in some way, even if they didn't end up together?

2006-08-27 14:14:19 · 14 answers · asked by Rachel 7

ok...my boyfriend has a myspace page..(i cant stand it) i have told him he needs to delete it cuz i feel like he could go behind my back and talk to other girls on there..he says he is gonna delete it but lately it has been all talk and no action..i have explained to him how i feel and he has agreed many times totake it down..but he still hasnt done it...whenever i ask him its like "o ill do it when i get around to doing it type of thing" and i know he is just putting me off...we have been together for almost 2 yrs and i feel like there is no possible reason that he would need to have one..he says if i keep bugging him about it then he wont delete it...but the thing is i wouldnt have to bug him about it if he would just do it...right? ugh this is really pissing me off...and im not trying to be controlling...but i dont know that mightbe how he is taking it..girls i want your advice...fellas what do you think my man is thinking ?

2006-08-27 14:14:05 · 9 answers · asked by kelkel0514 3

~~~ thank you all for your wonderfull response,,,to me this is not about who gets the 10 points,,,this is truley advice I need from other mothers,,,I will take a few days to read each and every anwer you all have given,,,. 1st,,,I grew up in a very abusive home. 3 other siblings,,,married when I was 18,,,I just wanted to be a mom,,,,I dont think he wanted children,,,he just ignored my daughter who now is 23,,,my son, he was physically abusive to,,,I blame my self for letting this go on, but you women who have been there, well,,,you know. After 20 years , I divorce. My son is my wondreful son. He understands why I stayed. Your an abused wife,,your beat down physically and emotionally you are beneath dirt in your mind. You cannot do it on your own. Then one day you wake up. My son 22years old. he understands. My daughter,,,she doesnt. Im looking to understand,,,should I just let go of my daughter right now? should I let her take time.....even if it is years before she understands?

2006-08-27 14:12:11 · 3 answers · asked by ~~Penny~~ 5

I married a really attractive, slender woman over 8 years ago. For the most part, she has always been an attentive and sweet woman...still is. Up until about 2 1/2 year ago, she was also athletic and HOT! I couldn't keep my hands off her and the sex was great! She would often push me away because I could never get enough. I'd buy her cute clothes and lingerie and she really wans't hard to look at. I got spoiled...

Since then, she has literally doubled in weight. I love her to death, but I just don't have a physical attraction for her anymore. She always wants to have sex, but I'm not aroused due to the lack of physical attraction. So she feels rejected and is always upset because she feels I'm not showing her enough "affection."

When I try to get her to work out with me or even just play a game with me and the kids, she always says she is too tired. She is always telling me how sad and rejected she feels, but she never seems to have any regard for my feelings. What can I do?

2006-08-27 14:04:18 · 17 answers · asked by Leroy 5

How can I get my husbands cume to taste good and not salty??

2006-08-27 13:59:49 · 27 answers · asked by Crystal M 2

2006-08-27 13:57:24 · 13 answers · asked by san 2

2006-08-27 13:54:53 · 3 answers · asked by Gabrielle 6

My wife and I have been separated for seven months. It began with a restraining order filed against me. No physical violence ever occurred. I found out she was lying about an affair she had last fall. I got really moody, often shouting and cussing. Since that day in court I went to our hometown, met the other man, got some dirt on her. I've made some drastic adaptations to the pseudosingle life. I got all our debts knocked out and managed to get a new, but smaller house. I've also met a few ladies, had some fun. I've started making plans as to my post military career (I have about 13 months left.) We have a 2 year old and on visitation she often talks about the idea of dating me again, getting to know me again. I can sense that she wants to come back. She confessed her affair and she states that she's made some changes. I still love her, but I wonder about her motives, since she talks about how hard she has it economically. Plus now I have done some things. What shoud I do?

2006-08-27 13:53:53 · 16 answers · asked by Thomas K 3

2006-08-27 13:52:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-27 13:47:58 · 6 answers · asked by Harry 1

2006-08-27 13:46:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

What were some of the more difficult obstacles you had to overcome in your marriage? How did you finally resolve them?

2006-08-27 13:46:36 · 12 answers · asked by EVE 3

2006-08-27 13:45:27 · 14 answers · asked by lady peach 1

2006-08-27 13:41:05 · 4 answers · asked by TERRI H 1

My wife read an article in Essence about men's trips to Brazil. The article talked about how great women treat men in Brazil. They cater to them, cook, make them feel special, give them great, erotic sex - 2 girls, 3 girls, whatever and they are 10's / beautiful. My wife said, hey you and some of your friends should go. She said that could be an annual trip as long as she does not find out. What does this mean? If a wife truly loved her husband, would she suggest this?

2006-08-27 13:38:47 · 27 answers · asked by Confused 1

2006-08-27 13:35:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

~~~ thank you for all your answers,,,My new husband of 7 years treats me wonderfully,,,,like a queen,,,and I have told my daughter that I am so happy,,,,she is only 23 and in her 2nd marriage,,,,my first marriage was abusive I stuck it out for 20 yrs. I love my grandaughter, 4 yrs old,,,she use to come over every few weeks to have fun spend the night,,,my daughter is in her 2nd marriage,,1st one very abusive,,,new one of 9 months he is hard working,,but I never saw the " love " aspect ,,,now she is pregnant again,,,she wants me to be there for her and her daughter 24/7...did my job,,,raised my 2 children,,,she still resents my new of 7 years husband....my son,,,he does not get along with his sister,,,he says she has anger issues,,,still,,,,what ever I say or dont say,,,,do or dont do she is angry with me,,,,she is angry because I did not bring a camera to her wedding,,,,I dont own a camera,,,I worked 10 hours drove to vegas,,,was tired,,,didnt want to party with everyone,,,,she is mad

2006-08-27 13:33:50 · 6 answers · asked by ~~Penny~~ 5

2006-08-27 13:21:02 · 9 answers · asked by Alphonso W 1

would it be wrong to divorce because of a language barrier?

We have a little girl who is 5 years old. If we divorce, my wife would have full custody.

I have been thinking that it was foolish and desperate to marry. I keep regretting that we have a language barrier.
in the 6 years we have been married, she has come to learn English. She works graveyard shift at place where they make medical equipment. I work days as a looser telemarketer.

If I leave her, she will be poor with a 5 year old to take care of.

I will be poor, I have no friends and no family. No mother, no father, or brothers or sisters.

maybe it would be a favor for her if I leave. she could find a man who will love her better.

2006-08-27 13:17:02 · 24 answers · asked by bradlitazole 2

2006-08-27 13:16:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mother in law is very mean to her son and she is always in our business. How do i tell her to butt OUT. nicely!!!!!

2006-08-27 13:09:04 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3

so i had my wife served today. not because i want a divorce, but because i had to get one. but what if i made a mistake. oh god. i miss her already. i still love her. but her motives are very questionable. we tried a therapist, but our problems were more fundamental than that. but i can't stop crying...the pain is SOOOO much right now. i just want nothing more than to hold her. we were gonna have our 1 year anniversary on sept 7...so close. i miss her...but it's over for sure now. i wish things were different. just to hold her one more time....just once more. even though i still don't know if she really loved me...i did love her.

2006-08-27 13:09:02 · 21 answers · asked by pinched 2