I'm in love with someone on line?

Question

he wants us to be together but befor we do that he wants me to get a divorce from my husband who shows no affection and literally never talks to me i have to do everything from working to fixing the car to all the house work when i ask him to help me sometimes he will but most of the time he just sits around and sleeps we havent grown together but apart but i still love him any suggestions ?

in the begining i beleived that god had picked my husband for me when i was born but now i wonder if i made a m istake i have grown up and changed and he has not this other man i met online has a sense of humor 2 kids and his hands full at work like me he understands what im going through the work i do i can get anywhere please help me im desperate i feel like my life is being held down from progressing

Answer 1

Please be realistic in this matter. Your husband needs to know exactly how you feel about your relationship with him, your needs for the affection you feel he is not giving you and his failure to spend quality time together with you. Before you jump up and run to get a divorce from a man you know very well to be with someone you have never met, personally, you need to work on improving and possibly, saving your marriage. Becoming a good mate is what you both must be willing to work on. That is true regardless of who it may be. Why complicate your life with another man who-like the husband you already have- has his hands full with 2 children and his work? He is likely to sit around and sleep too, when the novelty of a new relationship wears off. Boredom is NOT a good reason to walk away from an otherwise successful marriage where there is trust, committment and possibilities for improvement. I advise you to work on communicating with your husband and evaluating your own role in keeping your current relationship alive before risking an equally frustrating entanglement with a stranger.

Answer 2

To be honest, you need to get your own life in order before thinking about a new man. You have to clean up the mess you are in right now. You owe it to your husband to try and work through this. Try counseling or some other form of marriage therapy. If and when things don't work out you can talk divorce. Your husband does deserve to be part of this decision.

Once you are divorced then contact the other man. Don't do it until then. Also don't be surprised if the Internet guy doesn't want you once you are divorced. You don't really know him. You know only what he has decided to tell you.

Answer 3

What you have to do is ask yourself an essential question. Are you willing to leave a relationship without trying to work it out for another relationship that seems great (now) but may not always be great?
Your husband was great at first, that's why you married him, right?
So what makes you think this man won't be any different? I think before you get into a divorce you and your husband should seek marriage counseling. Sometimes divorce can be avoided by simply communicating.
Only you know what's right for you so, you'll see.

Answer 4

Sweetie, you need to straigten out your marriage first. This guy online isn't a solution to your problem sweetie, though right now I know he seems like a savior. He's only another complication. And if you end your marriage, do NOT do it for this other man. Do it for you. You see, the others are right; you need to get to know him in person, because the truth is, what you show to each other is only the best 5% of yourselves. You don't see him when he's stressed and angry. You only get him when he's in a good mood and online it's very easy to fake a good mood.

But my therapist gave me some really good advice once==fix THIS marriage, because if you just give up and end it, chances are really good that you'll take those problems with you into your next relationship. Take your husband and go see a counselor. Go see one by yourself if he won't go with you. You want him to help out more around the house? Stop doing stuff. He won't do it b/c he knows you will. My mother went through this with her husband recently. What did he need to get up and clean for? He knew darn well if he just kept bugging her and giving her excuses she'd eventually do it herself. If you still love your husband, work it out. Talk to him. Do NOT tell him you're in love with someone else. But your husband isn't the one keeping your life on hold, sweetie. He only has that power b/c you gave it to him. You're the only one who move your life forward. I know. Been there done that with my husband.

Answer 5

Hold your horse's there first you have to get out of your bad marriage and see where you stand. because you are just jumping out of the frying pan into the fire your on line boyfriend what do you know about him? Other than what you wanted to hear. I can also be understanding and loving on the net, But in real life I might be a pervert, crazy. abuser child/wife. or any bad type of guy.When you are at the weakest point in your life some people like to take advantage of other people I'm not saying all people are that way. But just watch where you step. the first step is a long way down.

Answer 6

Another would be cheater huh,i dunno what it is about tonight,but you're all dropping like fly's!!Get rid of this player/chancer/user,you do not need him,even though you think that in certain circumstances you do..you dont.Give that man of yours a damn good wake-up call,"its our way,or the highway" sort of thing,but lay it on real thick.As you have said,you still love him,so you should both try and put some sparkle back into your relationship-and do the counseling bit too,if nothing el's it may re-inforce the wake up call:/Get other family members involved-you must try every available avenue and chance open to you both before the divorce court..AND GET RID OF PIN-HEAD ONLINE,YOU DO NOT NEED HIM,HE IS ONLY USING YOU,BELIEVE!!

Answer 7

First and foremost, you should end a relationship before you go ahead and start a new one. Make sure this is what you want and never jump into anything. Before you make closure I suggest you confront your husband, tell him how you feel and see if you can both sort things out. (it doesn't happen overnight) You might want to try marriage counselling. If things don't go your way, close the chapter, get to spend time with yourself and then move on. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 8

You are bored with your marriage. Which makes you think you are in love with someone who is paying attention to you. If you leave your husband it should be to make your life what you want it to be not for a person you hardly know. It is very easy to lie online.

Answer 9

I think you have pretty much answered your own question--Move on. Life is too short. You might sit down with hubby first and discuss the issue--see if anything can be worked out.

Answer 10

You are setting yourself up for alot of pain. Sounds like you need to climb in bed with your husband and leave the internet alone. (It is much more fun)