Mothers and Daughters,,,,,?

Question

~~~ thank you all for your wonderfull response,,,to me this is not about who gets the 10 points,,,this is truley advice I need from other mothers,,,I will take a few days to read each and every anwer you all have given,,,. 1st,,,I grew up in a very abusive home. 3 other siblings,,,married when I was 18,,,I just wanted to be a mom,,,,I dont think he wanted children,,,he just ignored my daughter who now is 23,,,my son, he was physically abusive to,,,I blame my self for letting this go on, but you women who have been there, well,,,you know. After 20 years , I divorce. My son is my wondreful son. He understands why I stayed. Your an abused wife,,your beat down physically and emotionally you are beneath dirt in your mind. You cannot do it on your own. Then one day you wake up. My son 22years old. he understands. My daughter,,,she doesnt. Im looking to understand,,,should I just let go of my daughter right now? should I let her take time.....even if it is years before she understands?

Answer 1

You've been thru alot. Give her time. She needs to cope. I understand where you are coming from. Only those who've been there can understand. People will always say "why don't you just leave?" If only it were that easy. They don't realize how beat down you get. How you underestimate yourself. I'm glad for you. You'll be fine.

Answer 2

she may never understand why you stayed all you can do is talk to her, let her know that you love her and make the relationship between you and your daughter a better one. PLEASE never let your daughter go, she may be mad, she may not understand, she may even tell you to leave her alone but DON'T do it, she will realize that she needs her mom and TELL HER YOU LOVE HER!!!!!!

Answer 3

Your daughter will eventually come around. Just give her time.