How guilty am I/?

Question

i hooked up with a guy couple of times because my husband would never **** me. Am I guilty?

ok Let me Specify a little more. I waited over a year. HIs excuse was that he was always stressed from work . NOW please answer ...

Honesty please!!!
I personally don't think that I am guilty.
They say that if you don't have sex with your husband for a year that's separation and is not considered marriage. DUH

Answer 1

I did the same thing to my husband and didn't feel guilty at all, so what that told me was I needed to leave. If I didn't love him enough anymore to not feel guilty about falling into an affair, then he deserved better, his fault or mine. I am very happy now, on my own but happy and will never rush into marriage again like I did the first time.

Answer 2

Obviously, you know you are guilty or you wouldn`t feel compelled to ask advice from total strangers. You should NEVER cheat!! Especially when you`re married! If you have problems in your mariage you should talk to your husband, maybe get some counceling. If nothing else, at least get a seperation before you persue sexual relationships with other men. Think of how unfair this is to your husband! Would you want to be cheated on? Wouldn`t you want the respect of at least knowing there was a problem to fix and being warned that something was really wrong with your relationship? Cheating on someone is the ultimate slap in the face! It makes the cheatee feel less of a person and you wouldn`t believe how bad it hurts! Stop! Get help with your marital problems or get out but stop cheating! It makes you a bad person and you will feel it later, too. If you don`t already.

Answer 3

Cheating is lways wrong - instead, how about going to a therapist with him to see why he doesn't want to. Relationships - marriage are all about trust, love, honor, respect, honesty and communication - if you don't have that you don't have anything.

You have to confess and deal with what he says and learn from this - it didn't happen once. You are obviously also dealing with some self esteem problems - since your husband was not interested at some point, you needed to feel wanted from some other man and that is not right. Marriage is for better or worse - and men and women can not have a high sex drive due to life changes, stressors, medical reasons, etc - you have to be his wife and work through things with him. I am sure there have been times that you didn't want to but he didn't do this - it is never the answer. Talk to him - the truth will set you free~

Answer 4

Yes, you are. If that was the case, you should have been open with your husband. Talk to him. Now, your marriage is not only non-communicative, but it is also dishonest. That doesn't make for much of a relationship. Put yourself in his shoes, and do some serious soul searching. Don't say that you wouldn't mind just because you are the one cheating. How would you feel if he did it to you? Sounds like you two need some counseling.

Answer 5

What a ridiculous question...you can't honestly think it is okay to cheat on your husband just because he hasn't "f*****" (very tasteful by the way) you in awhile.

Marriage is a serious commitment - it shouldn't be taken lightly or disrespected - both of which you are doing by cheating and then posting meaningless questions on the Internet.

TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND - like any grown-up would do - and find out what the problem is - then try to work the problem out. Get counseling if necessary - though you may be surprised what can be solved just be communicating with him.

But I hate to say...if you have cheated...you better hope he is the forgiving type, because in my book - that is the kiss of death. You apparently have no love or respect for your husband to do that to him...I feel sorry for you both.

Answer 6

Not sure where it says if you don't have sex for a year you are separated. In addition, I can't say that I blame you! The bottom line is that you were married and cheating - you should have resolved the issue at home before you took on this affair. Maybe that is a divorce, seeking outside counseling, getting his permission to have sex outside the marriage or whatever. Hope it all works out for you.

Answer 7

Any time you hook up with a guy before you leave your husband you are guilty and a cheat.It must be a reason for your husband doesn't want to **** you.Have you guys talked about it,it could be a medical problem,the decent thing was to do is talk to him and see.Only you know your husband, have you gave him a reason to want someone else, that could be the case too.He might be getting some on the side and not doing it with you.You need to talk if you want to save your marriage.

Answer 8

If you made a fidelity commitment to your husband and you slept with another man then yes you are guilty.

The very, very tired excuse of we don't have sex anymore is no excuse to break a commitment. If you want to have sex with other men then make a new vow or deal with the guilt. Good luck to you. I do not envy what this may lead too for you. Peace.

Answer 9

yes you are. you should be more guilty when you hooked up with a guy not once but 2 times. the only person who can **** you is your husband, you need to tell him that you cheated on him 2 times, why couldn't you just talk to him in the first place, and ask him why he doesn't want to have sex with you. Trust me, talking to him in the first place and ask him why he doesn't want to have sex with you and work things out, is worth more than going behind his back and hook up with some guy not once but twice. you ought to be ashamed of yourself.

Answer 10

Well, First of all my suggestion to you would have been dont do it. But you have already done it and now you have to figure out what you are going to do about your husband. Yes you are guilty. There are many things you could of done before getting to that point. Counceling, talking to your husband good luck