whats the best way to tell ur mother in law to mind her business politely???

Question

my mother in law is very mean to her son and she is always in our business. How do i tell her to butt OUT. nicely!!!!!

Answer 1

Your husband needs to tell her. Not you. You need to support HIM doing this...it's HIS mother, not yours.

Also NOT sharing your business with her will help keep her out of it. I had to learn with my parents that if I don't tell them stuff, they have a hard time running my life as an adult...who doesn't live with them.

You can also try the following phrases:

"Thank you for your opinion. and I will definitely keep that information in mind while we make our decision."

"It's always interesting to hear your opinion."

"We'll do what we feel is best, but thank you for your concern."

"Your experience with this is always good to know."

I used these with my father....who liked being in my business and tendering his opinion when none was asked for. The key in all these phrases is to acknowledge that what they're giving you in an opinion, thank them, and to point out...politely...that you'll decide what's best.

When asked why you never take their opinion..you get to say, "I always appreciate your opinion, but we get to make our own mistakes and decisions, just like you've done in your life".

You are soooo going to need "good luck".

Answer 2

Move and don't tell her where you live or give her your phone number. Barring that, point out that obviously out of respect for her, your husband has chosen to remain silent on the matter, however, you have no loyalty to her and are quite tired of her intrusiveness. When you want her advice, you'll ask for it and expect it to be given kindly instead of the current way. If you say this with a smile on your face with your teeth somewhat clenched and a lilt in your voice she'll get the message.

Answer 3

There is NO wasy to tell her nicely.
Some people don't understand 'nicely'.
So...you are going to have to be a real woman and get the heifer out of your business...once and for all.
I suggest that you give her a real good cussin' out...from your gut.
Trust me, this is a magical process.
Your world will be a better place when you put her in her place.
When the dust settles...when she calls/comes by to apologize to you, don't back-pedal and don't apologize to her.
Git r done (smile)!

Answer 4

Be sure to stand up for your husband without sounding like a b***h. Just be cool and polite with what you say. Don't even think about getting drawn into an argument.

Say something like, thank you for the insight. We will decide what to do from here.

Answer 5

Boy! That question made a lot of women take notice. My wife and mother hated each other and my mother wanted to boss her. I was the one got it from both sides. HOW?

Answer 6

Stop telling her things that she doesnt need to know about that way she cant put her 2 cents into it.. if that doesnt work, then u just simply tell her, "my husband and i will handle it" and change the subject.. and if she still doesnt get the drift.. then u bluntly let her know that u and your husband will solit her opinion or advice when it is needed, but untill then its up to you and your husband to live ur lives as u see fit..

Answer 7

Wish I could figure this one out myself. I have tried telling my husdand that his family needs to butt out of our business but it seems to get worse instead of better. We have it so bad we cannot tak a vaction alone hat they dont call.

Answer 8

You have to be blunt and to the point. Do not be nice about it. Let her know enough is enough and the (blank) is getting old.

Answer 9

just say Butt out...in a nice voice

Answer 10

Your husband (not you) is the one who should tell his mother to stop her disrespectful behavior. You are not his mother; he's old enough to handle this on his own.