Marriage & Divorce - 21 July 2006

My husband doesn't seem to understand that every thing doesn't evole " Just around us". I need people outside of what we have.( friends) I thought that If I could be myself and not " Cheat" and do other things that other married woman do,( which I have not) would be all right. It's not that like with him. He has been hurt so many times that I can't have any outside contact with any one. No females or males. I'm hurting so much without a cause. Any one, any one please help me. My soul is litterally being torn apart.

2006-07-21 10:13:07 · 11 answers · asked by Beth 4

yesterday my fiance (who currently lives in a another country) didn't message me by phone all day (which we do everyday) so today im trying to be strong and not message him back he send me messages today in he morning and afternoon saying ''why dont u answer me..u dont care..'' then he said ''can i call u'' and i still didnt answer but im thinking ''ofcourse u can call me'' why do u even have to ask!!'' but no he didnt even call. i feel maybe he doesnt care..what should i tell him if he calls me today or tomorrow since i didnt answer back his messages/call him. please help!

2006-07-21 10:10:20 · 12 answers · asked by sep 1

2006-07-21 10:09:31 · 5 answers · asked by H 2

I have jealousy issues with my b/f. We have lived together for 2 years.

We don't socialize much with other people becuz he was in w/a bad crowd right before we met. And my friends all went off to universities where we are at a Community College.

I am a jealous g/f bcuz I have been cheated on in the past w/almost every possible scenario. My current bf has not cheated but his character is charming. When we do bump into someone he used to know he puts his 'charm' on. He acts like we did when we first met. But its not who he is at all. He no longer acts charming to me :(

He wants to socialize more but I dont becuz the ppl we always socialize with are losers pretty much. But it is really starting to bother him so we resort to hanging out with losers.(kids in their mid20s living w/parents that will amount to nothing)

Now we have started arguing over hypothetical situations and dwelling on them. He blames me for us having no friends,he wont say it but he does.

What do I do?

2006-07-21 10:08:05 · 9 answers · asked by Poestalker 4

3 years ago I cheated on my husband and I just learned after 13 years of marragie 3 kids and his pill addiction, he is now cheating on me After 1 week on knowing her he said he loves her. He is still doing pills, wrecking cars and big trucks I have been very calm not like myself at all I'm so torn, Big if "If he comes home should I forgive him like he did me?" I do love him I just can't live with him doing pills. Of course this could be his soul mate lol

2006-07-21 10:07:29 · 8 answers · asked by fetter_2004 3

2006-07-21 10:07:07 · 9 answers · asked by oilertonya 1

backhands me for no good reason other than back seat driving. Hey, what can I say, I get a bit nervous when she's driving. Do any of you do this? Do your spouses hate it?

2006-07-21 09:59:56 · 10 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

My husband doesn't think he loves me anymore but has agreed to try and sort out our problems - he would have walked if i hadn't convinced him it could work. Am I being unrealistic or can this work out?

2006-07-21 09:56:09 · 6 answers · asked by H 2

I've been married going on 2 years but with him for 9 years on and off. we have two babies together, one who is 2 and the other is 9 months. For the past months weird things been taking place, such as I found girls #'s, hang up's on his phone when I answer and the iceing on the cake is for the past couple of weeks he tells me over and over how he doesn't want to be with me and how he is not in love with me. Already teo times he has walked out on me and the kid's while stating how over it is between us. What should I do? I love him so much. I can't imagine life without him. My kid's are so sad when he is not around. Do I just give his space or will that cause him to nevr to come back to me

2006-07-21 09:54:41 · 17 answers · asked by sad 1

im a handy man with a good heart why do women treet us like **** after they get what they want? and why do women play us, knowing that we are so dosprit to be loved by somone???

2006-07-21 09:45:46 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

(And If she is I have nothing against it) Go lesbians!

ps And I am straight too

2006-07-21 09:45:12 · 14 answers · asked by Eve 2

im soo confused ive been wiv my bf sence i was 16 six years now we have two wonderful children hes neva been a very loving person and it has always been me cuddling and kissing and giving all the affection and loving words ive finally had enoth and said i need him to be affectionate and loving back as i need 2 feel loved and needed in return hes says hes an emotional wreak and he says he wants to have a break but i have said its all or nothing so he said hes doesnt love me anymore and its not fair on me that i should get on with my life as im still young (hes 11 yrs older ) he thinks hes been holding me back from doing things i dont belive he doesnt love me anymore he cant just switch off hes love just like that i love him sooo much im in such a state as if i dont have him i have nothing his my life i know nothing else i have no other family im not sure that i can cope wivout him i need him soo much i dont know what to do :(

2006-07-21 09:42:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

oksy, my husband and i seperated back in june and i decided to move back home to virginia and he stayed in dallas. we were going thru hard times and i just decided i need time to myself. (we have 3 kids) well he cheated and of course i got pissed off, but i forgave him because we have been thru alot in our relationship as well. okay so, we have moved past all the childish things and i plan on going back and working on our marriage. well today he calls me from work and he was on the girls phone that he cheated on me with. he said that she has been telling him how she feels about him and he says that he has told her that she was a mistake and that he wants to work things out with me, his wife. he also says that she has been buying him almost anything that he wants, but i don't get it, why would he call me form her phone? and i have caller id. i believe my husband but, from a guys point of view why would you call your wife from another womens phone.

2006-07-21 09:36:24 · 17 answers · asked by lateshafinley 2

2006-07-21 09:34:17 · 8 answers · asked by consigliere 6

It's not that he doesn't satisfy me but sometimes he's at work and I get so horney. Isn't a vibrator better than cheating?

2006-07-21 09:29:31 · 23 answers · asked by Summer 2

I mean alot of people when they get comfortable stop showing the emotion in marriage...do you still kiss and hug and cuddle??? I do....Do you???

2006-07-21 09:26:09 · 14 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5

when do they do it, and what do they think about?

2006-07-21 09:23:34 · 20 answers · asked by druvard 2

My ex has custody of my son and daughter, 15 and 16 respectively. He has been abusive, and she finally ran away and came to stay with me. He called the police, and they took her to protective services. What happens next?

2006-07-21 09:19:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you think your ex was better in bed than your new companion?

2006-07-21 09:14:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband cheated on me several times... before we were married and afterwards. We have been seperated now for a little over a year. We have been hanging out as friends again and getting along ok. I dont trust that he wont cheat on me again but i dont know for sure and he says he learned his leason when i left him. Should we get counseling and try to save the marriage or should I not waste my time anymore? Are cheaters always cheaters????

2006-07-21 09:04:08 · 17 answers · asked by Ashes 3

I married my husband 3 years ago in NYC. We were married by the pastor of his church and we had not applied for a marriage certificate at the time we were married. About a month later, we went down to city hall and applied for the certificate (AFTER the wedding). When we got there, we found out that NY state requires a waiting period. After you've applied for the certificate, you have to wait a certain amount of time before you get married. (We married Prior to this) This made me curious...are we legally married?? ALSO...(VERY IMPORTANT), I just found out that my husband was married before. When we applied for the marriage certificate he stated NO, he was never married. Is the marriage certificate valid if he knowingly lied on it? If so, are we legally married? If he never got a divorce, is our marriage valid? For the record, things are going horrible and I want out! I'm still there because he says he'll make the divorce a nasty one. If the marriage isn't valid, can I have it annulled?

2006-07-21 08:56:14 · 21 answers · asked by Kim H 1

2006-07-21 08:55:23 · 6 answers · asked by ericthemadirishman 2

2006-07-21 08:52:11 · 10 answers · asked by zombie 2

My wife has lied to me for four years about her son, witch I was in the process of adopting. She told me that she ultered the paturinty test to get her ex out of her life. I recently found out that she cheating on her ex and got pregant. Her ex knew the whole time and forced her to stay with him. I have suspected that this was not the truth, so I have asked 4 or 5 times in the last year or so if I knew the truth. Each time I ask she tells me I know the whole truth about her son. I have never lied to her about anything and have never judged her. Should I stay with her? Will I be able to trusrt her agian? Please Help!!!

2006-07-21 08:47:11 · 15 answers · asked by Chuck B 1

White guys always complain that their wives don't want sex. While the wives complain that they need romance to have sex. But instead of the wives taking some initiative with romance and recognizing that a marriage is an actual PARTNERSHIP, they just expect the man to take care of bills, be psychic,and take care of all the romance! Next thing you know the poor guy has to drag his wife on Dr. Phil or Oprah and tell his sob story!

Sex is a chore for most white women. I wish I could tell all these white guys that if they bothered to try dating black, latina or asian women (basically women with actual sex drives) they would've never had this problem.

2006-07-21 08:37:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i still love my x but new one is so different just a little rough on the edges im 45 yrs old and really mixed up and how did i get so tangled up in this life . I dont think i will take the x back but i really care for him still, new bf is not quite as romantic or outgoing and now im getting email from guys i havent seen in 20 yrs wanted to get together ive got young guys wanting me what decision will i make to screw up my life this time

2006-07-21 08:35:39 · 18 answers · asked by bakergirl 2

2006-07-21 08:32:10 · 11 answers · asked by reb3mo 2

I feel awful, I knew he was keeping something from me but I didn't know what. While he was in the shower I looked in his truck and that is what I found. I asked him why and he said because he wanted to try something different and thought he could get some ideas from the porno videos. Should I believe him??

2006-07-21 08:31:20 · 22 answers · asked by Summer 2

I've heard a lot of bad stories about strippers doing private "sessions" and knowing how "men' are, if it's there, they'r gonna take it. I don't know if it's my insecurity or if I'm being reasonable.

2006-07-21 08:28:17 · 20 answers · asked by Summer 2

Thanks to everyones great advice. The problem is I just seperated from him for the 2nd time in our marriage. I made him leave and it lasted 2 and half months. He called several times a day crying and telling me he understood and all he wanted was to be with me and the kids. I thought he finally understood and he came home. In one week everything was the same. I know he needs free time to himself I have always allowed him to do whatever he wanted but he has never chosen me in all these years. He has also never allowed me to go and do things. No girls night out, no dinner with a friend, always accusation if I got home late for work etc. Out of control. He can do what he wants when he wants but I wasn't and that sucks. I have a very stressful demanding job also and I am not given free time to get out. He says, Go its fine do what you want. When I do, he calls me several times while Im gone and what to know who and where I have been the whole time. Im a grown adult!!!!

2006-07-21 08:25:57 · 31 answers · asked by jenecho 1