I've heard a lot of bad stories about strippers doing private "sessions" and knowing how "men' are, if it's there, they'r gonna take it. I don't know if it's my insecurity or if I'm being reasonable.
2006-07-21 08:28:17 · 20 answers · asked by Summer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, NO, NO! It is not bad not to want your husband in strip bars! I would be horrified if my hubby went to a stripbar. Why should you be ok with your husband looking at other women naked? Why would he do that but for the only reason that it must turn him on? Is there another reason why men go to the stripbar? And personally, if my husband is being turned on by another woman, I don't think I could handle it. It's sick and just another way of cheating as far as I'm concerned.
2006-07-21 08:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by sammytoes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we used to go with a group of guys. Most of the time, we'd be at our table talking among ourselves and not paying too much attention up on stage. They are long pauses between sets in some places, others not. Also, a lot of the talk is wondering if the boobs are real or not or if laughing because the girl is so ugly that we don't want her dancing near us. And if there is a sports game on then, we were wathing that. This was all in Canada. In the US, they do give you more pressure for the hard sell for lapdances, but if he goes with a group, its not a concern. If its by himself, that another story. In Canada, many woman go along with their husbands now. But a lot of strip clubs of closed too and you will only find them downtown now.
2006-07-21 15:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by Rockford 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strip bars are stupid. What is the point of a man watching a woman strip and dance around that he's not going to get it on with. If he wants to see a stripper then strip for him. Buy some wild outfits, and make him strip for you too. It's all about fun in the bedroom.
2006-07-21 16:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should have eyes only for you. When men look at other women in a sexual way it takes away from the marriage relationship. He is getting something sexual in nature from these strippers other than from his wife. The women in strip clubs are also taking money away from your household. They don't dance for free. You need to talk to your husband and find out why he is really going to these places. Any women who would let there husband go to a strip club may trust there husband to not do anything with his body but what about his mind? My wife says that she would let me go if i wanted to but i don't. And i would not be comfortable with her going.
2006-07-21 15:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by Esoteric 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being perfectly reasonable. This isn't insecurity (at least not on your part). You are correct - if its in a man's face, they take it. I also don't see why men who are in committed relationships where they are getting regular sex need this kind of stimulation. It just seems a little sick to me. My husband sums it up best when he says "Why would I go somewhere where all I can do is look and get sexually frustrated when I can come home and have the real thing?"
2006-07-21 15:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about trust...there are some really sleazy places, but most strip clubs, the guys are not allowed to touch the girls other than giving tips...even for the private lap dances...they have to keep their hands to themselves no matter what the girl does...I don't mind my husband going...I know who my man comes home to...if you are that worried about it, maybe try going with him a few times untill you are comfortable with it...it's fun going together....and all men are not going to take it just because it's there if they have something worth coming home to...
2006-07-21 15:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your husband, he should not be going to strip bars. This is not unreasonable at all. Would he want you going to a male strip club or to a singles bar? I think not. The same standard applies to both partners. If he is unwilling to stop going, tell him you are not going to be second best to anybody, including strippers. Don't wait for him to make the decision, make it for him!!!
2006-07-21 15:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by rockinout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Private sessions are just dances. The Strippers aren't allowed to let your husband touch them, they just get closer to him, he can't move his hands. So don't think these "private sessions" are all about sleeping with strippers.
2006-07-21 15:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by nick m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being reasonable. If he doesn't stop going, maybe you should start going out to bars with your friends and leaving him at home. A married man has no business at seedy places like that. It only leads to trouble. Besides, he should not do things that he knows upsets you, including going to strip bars. He should consider your feelings.
2006-07-21 15:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not a bad thing to not want him to go there. I don't blame you. Why would he want to in the first place? Isn't he satisfied enough that he has a loving wife at home? For men, it's all primal, I suppose. Just tell him how you feel about it, and explain why you feel that way. If he cares, he'll understand, and he won't go.
2006-07-21 15:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by Maico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋