Family - February 2007

My ex-mother-in-law keeps trying to convince that I will regret not getting back together with my ex-husband. She thinks that I will feel bad because I can not find anyone else and will be alone for the rest of my life after my parents pass away. I currently live near them.

I think that its better to be alone than live with a controlling and abusive man. My ex-husband may be handsome and talk nicely at times, but he still wants his way all of the time.

His mother thinks that he is right in what he says when he gets upset with her or us. I don't agree.

It is lonely being alone and hard to not have the structure of a family to fall back upon. But, I think that its harder to live with a controlling and manipulative man.

What does everyone else think?

2007-02-22 23:49:24 · 26 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

they abuse you during your childhood (emotionally and physically), they continue to verbally abuse you after you reach adulthood, how do you repay them?

2007-02-22 22:54:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am 28 and i got a good job, i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, we have ups and downs, but generally we are quite happy, recently i think about my future alot, i can honestly say that i am so happy to just keep my single status, its so much more convinient, if me and my bf don't work out i can simply move on and find somebody else, without worrying about divorce, or losing half of my money or assets, also i belive people changes all the time, so me and my boyfriend may not suit each other in 5 years and i can easily move on, but if i am married to him and one day we are changed, it'd be harder to get out, i don't think marriage keep people more commited, it just keep them more miserable if things don't work out, do you agree with me?

2007-02-22 22:51:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

She has alzheimer's and my sister will not tell me where she is at. She is supposedly nearby Lubbock, but that may not be entirely true. I live in South Dakota, but I do want to see her this summer. Would the state have a record maybe? Is there someone that I can contact to help me? Anything would be appreciated. Thank you.

2007-02-22 22:43:46 · 5 answers · asked by rellimztik_arual 3

My mum split up with her husband before xmas, he tried to hit my sister!, and is taking him back in the near future!! She told me and my sister last night that 'she is going to date him the see how it goes' they have a daughter together, our little sister (15months) they have been married for nearly 6yrs. He has always been a rude, lazy, ungrateful and violet person. He is also 'a recovering' alcoholic that still drinks!!! i currently live at home with my mum and 2 sisters, i have always been open and honest. I find myself brewing up inside with anger, telling my mum what does she think she is doing?! but she is depressed and finding life a struggle at the minute. But i can see this having a huge effect on the family, like not speaking/seeing each other much at all. Am i over re-acting, or do think my mum is out of order? and what would you do in my situation? pls help ta xx

2007-02-22 22:30:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi there,

I am about to leave this service as I no longer wish to be part of a Community that will not allow Freedom of Speech.

People go on about the Democratic way things should be
and yet this Yahoo service is rife with sad morons who just act like little no brains they can't wait to report others ( I call them proffesional abuse button pushers)

Why dosen't Yahoo inspect the reports before they act on them.

In a short space of time I inserted many questions (not just "answering" questions to create points) some good,some not so good and have been verbally attacked by a few and praised by many but that's o.k. that's surely is what its all about.

I would never ever report anyone for abuse because I believe Freedom of Speech it used to be called "Print or be Dammed".
I'm sure the limp lump no brains abuse reporters cant wait to reoport this one .

I wanted to be part of a Community that allowed Freedom of Speech otherwise what is the point

Good Bye Friends

2007-02-22 22:27:15 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am one of 3 sisters, all adults with children. We have lost our mother recently. This has prompted the discussion around heritage. One of my sisters has led a difficult life (divorced with two young children, several years unemployed etc), while also needing some "external status symbols" (sports car, designer clothes etc). My father leads a very cheap life, but also owns quite a lot, having had a good career. He spends money to support causes in underdeveloped countries. He has helped my sister financially when she struggled, paid her debts back etc, telling her that this support would be deducted from her heritage to come. She is now adamant that it is our father's responsility to help her and the money was "due" to her and she owns nothing back from her heritage. What is your gut reaction? Is she right?

2007-02-22 22:00:22 · 3 answers · asked by Claire 4

2007-02-22 21:41:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

i belong to another state in india-i presently live in gujarat.this is a wonderful place with beautiful memories.my soul is attached to this city. i have all my friends here who shower love and life on me.i need them . this place has taught me a lot-how to live,behave, walk, talk, everything.my dad wants to shift back to his native place but im totally against it . unfortunately i cannot put my wish in front of him. its futile, he wont listen to me. i have tried doing so earlier as well.he is presently at our native place since 10 days.pls give me some practical ideas so that i can stop him from shifting from where we are presently. im just 13, so suggest something which is possible by me!!

2007-02-22 21:41:43 · 9 answers · asked by sourchilli 1

This is a serious question and it needs serious replies only. When I was 17 years old my little brother (age 14) whom I was very close to went to prison for rest of his natural life. There are still appeals going on and debates on if he really commited the crime or not. I hung out with the wrong crowd, and we just accepted in the group cause he was family. Now I feel guilty about it. It has been 10 years since and I am not sure how to keep him included in my life. It is hard for me to sit down and write him because I am not sure what I should tell hom and what is better left unsaid. I love my little bro, but how do I relate to him and how do I share my life with him without feeling guilty about him being locked up and me being out in the free world? I was at school the day the "crime" went down and had no knowledge of it, so I know I am not at fault for that, but I feel guilty that I let him hang with the really bad crowd. Please help me before I lose my mind, THANK YOU!

2007-02-22 21:34:01 · 10 answers · asked by Someonesmommy 5

I have 2 children and the father only pays bear minimum of $49 pw for 2 and declares his income as low and gets more than claimed as he gets cash in the hand. I am paying rent and a block of land of and working p/t and studying. Is this fair that life be so hard and I have to work that little bit harder.

2007-02-22 21:32:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents hav built a new hme for me and now they want us shift and We shift then I will hav to change my school and i hav my G.F in the school so i dont want to shift then wat should i do.....

2007-02-22 21:32:13 · 3 answers · asked by Aki 1

i dont know how to deal with family members that, to me, dont really seem to care too much about keeping in touch with me,my mother, or my older sister...... to me,theres only a handful that SHOULD give a damn about you.. and thats family! everyone else, they dont have to keep in touch or care for you or anything like that cause they dont know you or been there with you half as much as family has.... ...i have tried to get a hold of some family members every now and then , but then it just always ends up that im the person doin all the work to keep in touch with them... im tired of doin that, but at the same time hurt because they dont make any efforts.... i would just like to know.. has anyone had problems like this?and how did you deal with it?

2007-02-22 21:24:09 · 4 answers · asked by lolitab. 1

2007-02-22 21:04:37 · 47 answers · asked by suchi 1

Do I have the Courage
"to spare my Parents on the event where
they are willfully 100% wrong and I being 100% right"
Let me declare as it is now,
and explain why so..

2007-02-22 20:39:29 · 5 answers · asked by Karsan 3

I am looking for my boyrfriends dad. John Miller is scottish and is now living in Liverpool, he has two other sons. I think called Ross and Callum. I think this wife is called Sue and he has a sister called Kay and a brother called David. My boyfriend is Jonathan Miller and he hasn't spoken to his father in a while. Anyone Help?

2007-02-22 20:07:42 · 3 answers · asked by ¸¸.•*´`*♥Emma♥*´`*•.¸¸ 3

my boyfriends cousin has invited us out next Saturday. i only met her on Tuesday this week and i wasn't keen really. she's dead rowdy and annoying. The worst thing about her is she gets all flirty (in a joking kinda way) with my boyfirend. i know they're cousins etc but theres something wrong about bumpin and grinding with your own cousin. She seems a little "too" fond of him!

Should i go or not?? i don't wanna cause any arguments with my feller, as it's his family after all !!!

2007-02-22 20:00:02 · 23 answers · asked by Miss Tickle 4

She always says that she tries to make me happy, but she doesn't act like it when she yells at me.
I don't do bad things like smoke, drugs, I get good grades and usually does what she tells me, but when I try to make myself happy by like going on to the internet, eating food, playing with the dogs inside the house, she gets mad no matter what.

She usually yells more if ask her why she's mad, but she never gives a good reason and glares at me. She throws fits and throws trash at me.

I also feel that she doesn't respect me because when she does things that she knows annoys me and I ask her to stop, she continues as if she's having me in a bad mood.

I feel like I want to shoot her when she goes into my business while I don't do anything to bother her, and it just makes me so upset.

She's a single parent who is also a workaholic and never has time for me in on the weekends, so I usually go to my Dad.

2007-02-22 18:29:43 · 17 answers · asked by Pristine 3

My mother passed away at an early age and I was raised by my grandmother My grandfather had passed away long ago and I never knew my father.

Anyhow I attended college here in AZ and have stayed 2 years after graduation in order to make sure she has some family member in the state. However, since I have remained in the state I am not using my degree or working a job that would advance my career in any way. I have watched friends leave and start lives and now I need to do the same.

I have stayed because my grandmother is very needy and demanding (all though she'll never admit it) and last June she "accidentally" burned her house down to the ground, and I had to deal with insurance compaines etc.. to get it rubuilt in a timly manner while she complained about being to old to handle these things (she's 74).

I'm moving to Japan, and she has no friends or family. Where can I leave contact information if she is sick or passes away? Are there free ederly check up services I could use?

2007-02-22 18:29:38 · 7 answers · asked by Geki-cho 2

2007-02-22 18:20:42 · 1 answers · asked by jessika 4

I had full custody of my daughter for 10 years. She reported to her father (who has NO rules and allows her to do ANYTHING, she's SIXTEEN now) and he took her and KEPT her from me for FOUR months!! Again this was 6 years ago.
I KEPT telling him that she would end up pregnant since he never checks on her, etc. I tried to talk to him about us parenting TOGETHER no matter where she lived. He simply hangs the phone up. I will NEVER give up on getting along with him...for HER. She is going to give the baby up for adoption which is a mature decision, but on the other hand, selfishly, I hate the thought of never knowing my grand-daughter! Yes, it's a GIRL! I realize that kids do things that are not wise, that's why they are the children and we are the adults and parents. I really wish my ex would understand we need to communicate. I had NO IDEA she was even pregnant until she was 8 months along! HELP! I just need some viewpoints.. I realize no one can tell me how to handle this.

2007-02-22 18:08:56 · 16 answers · asked by â?¥â?ªâ?«Karenâ?«â?ªâ? 2

My Grandpa just told me he got some Grape Nuts and seemed really depressed. I'm worried that this could be a serious medical condition, but I went to WebMD and couldn't find anything on the condition. What did he mean when he said he got Grape Nuts and what can I do to help him?

2007-02-22 17:53:56 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm having a real hard time dealing with life right now. My mother told me that my 30 something year old sister slept with my step father. Both denied this, but my mom refuses to believe them. She divorced him after 28 years of marriage and disowned my sister. I love my dad very much, we were very close before all this BS, and now if I call him on the phone and she finds out, she yells at me and makes me feel like I'm stabbing her in the back like she feels my sister did. Growing up, my sister was my best friend in the world and now I can't talk to her without feeling extremely guilty. My mom has no reason to make up such an ugly story, but she has no solid proof of any of this and it's so hard to beleive. Should I keep my distance from all of them until I figure out the best course of action for me? This has taken it's toll on my marriage and my family. Please help. Any reasonable advice would help.

2007-02-22 17:50:02 · 12 answers · asked by monicastocker74 3

What is the Las Vegas Nevada rule on the age the child can decide which parent they prefer to live with ?
The child is stating that the other parent is neglecting the younger siblings when all the time is spent by that parent surfing the web or playing online poker. the house is a mess, dirty clothes everywhere, smokes in the house when children are present.
is running a n unlisenced day care at home.
Someone please help...the child has already stated about running away or doing something worse to herself.

2007-02-22 17:46:49 · 6 answers · asked by concerned Dad 1

i m satisfied with my job and family....but sometime i feel me not happy....i feel no body care me...me alone in whole world...nobody need me...that time me totally furstated....i wanna i leave every relation and go outside of the world...please help me...please guide me..

2007-02-22 17:44:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm trying to find my father but all i know is his first and last name. I dont have any money to pay anybody but ive been trying so hard i dont know what else to do...does anybody have any suggestions...btw my mother wont help me shed actually rather i dont find him but im 17 and i think its time i meet him, ive tried a lot of free searches but they are only free to tell you yes the person exists and then u have to pay, ive also just looked on like a phone book website and i found some and i called but none were him,,,i really need to find him

2007-02-22 17:40:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom is begging me not to go. I told her it would be like taking the silver spoon and running away to Canada. How do I break it to her and make her understand, this is for me? And for my country. This will be a great endeavor. Please give me any tips.

2007-02-22 17:36:54 · 12 answers · asked by Razberry 2

How many tears must I cry b4 u realize im upset? How much blood should I bleed b4 u notice im in pain? How long do I have 2 stand infront of a mirror crying till u no how much i hate myself? How much alcohol does it take 4 u 2 realize my attempt 2 escape? How many drugs must I abuse b4 u realize I have a problem? How many fights must I b in till u notice my build up of anger inside? How many more smiles should I put on till u notice there fake? What more do u want from me 2 satisfy u? How long must I hold u till u realize im alone? How much longer must I shake from substance abuse till u see I need help? How much longer must i slowly kill myself till u realize its 2 late 2 turn back? How many more yrs must I live this way till u notice im truely unhappy? When I die how long till it hits u that u could have saved me but ignored all the signs?

2007-02-22 17:24:01 · 8 answers · asked by Ellen B 1

I need you guys/gals opinions. Ok, the other night my mom called me. Well, she brought up a very interesting question that i'm trying to figure out. My parents are divorced. My mom is still single but my dad got remarried. My mom didn't make enough money to have her own place so she is staying with her sister. Well, her sister hinted that she wants my mom to move out. My mom doesn't have anywhere to go. So, she is supposed to come visit me in june/july. She asked me if she liked idaho could she move in with me until she got a job and got her own place. Well, this has put me in a bit of a bind. I'm married and my wife and i are fairly young. (23 me and 19 her) I haven't talked it over with my wife yet because she's still in italy and i'm in idaho but that's gonna change in a week. So, here's my question to you guys. What would you do if you were in my situation? My mom lives in Texas so i would have to shell out money to help with gas and moving her stuff.

2007-02-22 17:22:54 · 13 answers · asked by wwfattitude_98 2

He looks at me and he gave this note to this boy in my class.than he look at me.Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-02-22 17:19:58 · 12 answers · asked by Jessica W 1