2007-02-22 21:41:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My best friend.
We were best friends from 7th grade all the way through high school, college, our weddings, the birth of our children. Then she got sick.......
And during that year that she was sick...... I don't know what happened to me. I went to see her the day she told me she had cancer. I sat there hugging her, holding her hand...... telling her that if there was anything she needed, just ask!! And then I went from talking to this blessed friend of mine almost every day for over 25 years ..... to just nothing. I couldn't face her. If I faced her..... if I called........ if I visited...... I had to face the fact that she was really sick. And I couldn't do that. I never let my mind go there. So I just stayed away. Completely. And I still can't believe I did this.
I hate myself for being such a coward at the time she needed me most. At the time her family needed support.
(this was definitely the short version....... but you get the idea that I sooo need to beg forgiveness!)
2007-02-24 00:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person that I would be forgiveness from in my family is my grandmother. I was just 11 years old when she died and didn't understand what dementia and Alzheimer's was. I said some really mean things to her. I was really close to her and didn't understand the first thing about life and death. About two weeks later when I went to say I was sorry, she died just before I could reach her and say that I was sorry. You know those movies when you reach for someone and just as you get there the machines start beeping to tell you that they have passed, that is what it was like. I replay that in mind almost daily. It has been almost 15 years, and I am just starting to let go of the guilt that I hold because of it. In my heart, I believe my granny forgives me.
My suggestion is to do it now, for when the time comes for death there are no second chances. It is better to love them be on good terms when they die, then to hold the guilt in all your life.
2007-02-23 05:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by Someonesmommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly... i know you may think it's too late but it's not.. there will be a gap where theres a change to make up and it may be a struggle... but if you want to do something then you can.. talk... persuade and act and you will get it... familt is precious and it wont last forever..
If i would beg for forgivness, i dont think i would... everything ive done ive tried to do to my best ability and if ive failed then that was then and this is now and if another person can't see that then there silly.. people change and so do circumstances..
If i could make up with someon i wish it could be my dad... as much as i detest him in a way.. i wish we could have a fresh slate..hes 68.. and still as stubborn as me.. maybe one day we'll speak again..
x
2007-02-23 06:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by neeneeuno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never too late. If you don't do it now, you will regret it for the rest of your life. Whether he accepts the apology does not even matter. You will never be able to forgive yourself until you at least make the effort to resolve this problem. This goes for family, and long term good friends as well.
2007-02-23 05:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus Christ is the one you should be asking. DO NOT take me wrong, I understand your question, and I also miss my dad and wish that i had told him more things then i did, and am not happy with myself for some of the things I did while he was alive. However it is too late now to do so, BUT if we ask Christ for forgiveness, and we are good enough to spend eternity with Him at that Day, maybe our family members will be there too so we can start all over with them and be happy forever together.
2007-02-23 05:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When is forgiveness too late? My answer to that is that you can't help to hurt someone you love. It just happens. It's better late than never. You could even improve your relationship with your father. Time heals. Maybe he has already forgiven you but haven't admitted it to himself... Just make it sincere and make the effort to do it. T-A-L-K... and ask for it.
2007-02-23 05:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by roma_balbin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course, everyone wants forgiveness. its never too late, as long as he's still alive that is. go for it, what have you got to lose??!!
2007-02-23 05:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very painful to be unabe to apologise to someone esp. someone you love....But if you trully feel it in your heart no matter where your father is he will know.But if your father is alive go for it....It will take a load off your chest.
2007-02-23 05:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sins I don't know you father, I would probably not.
2007-02-23 16:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God.
-NmD!
2007-02-23 05:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋