i dont know how to deal with family members that, to me, dont really seem to care too much about keeping in touch with me,my mother, or my older sister...... to me,theres only a handful that SHOULD give a damn about you.. and thats family! everyone else, they dont have to keep in touch or care for you or anything like that cause they dont know you or been there with you half as much as family has.... ...i have tried to get a hold of some family members every now and then , but then it just always ends up that im the person doin all the work to keep in touch with them... im tired of doin that, but at the same time hurt because they dont make any efforts.... i would just like to know.. has anyone had problems like this?and how did you deal with it?
2007-02-22 21:24:09 · 4 answers · asked by lolitab. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have the same situation. I took the time and effort to track down and connect with various family members and they acted like they were happy and excited to hear from me but it didn't last long before it ended up being one-sided so now I just don't worry about it. The way I see it, they know how to contact me and if they don't I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. My life is too important to waste on worrying about who likes me or who doesn't. I have my husband, children, parents and brother who love me and respect me and that's all that matters.
2007-02-23 02:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would imagine alot of people have this "problem" as you call it. I am the eldest of four kids. I don't know my mother's relatives very well, I have two aunts in Phoenix and an uncle somewhere in Prescott I think, scads and scads of 1st and 2nd cousins scattered all over AZ and UT. My father's side of the family I have an aunt who lives in PA and another who lives in CA with my four cousins nearby her. My siblings are scattered around the country as well. My firstborn son lives over 2000 miles away from me and his two younger brothers. We contact each other as we feel the need.
I don't contact the cousins in CA because they tried to get money from my mom when she was newly widowed. Then they tried to put the "touch" on me when my mom died.
My sis and I IM each other every once in awhile. It's just not a priority. We each have our own lives to live. We reach out when necessary. That way it's not a guilt trip. Hallmark cards take care of the rest.
2007-02-23 05:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by Pixie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you are coming from!
And Please keep up the good work, and never get tired of it! Because that's not you.
You got a good head on your shoulders and just keep on keeping on. Don't worry about how they "DON'T" keep in contact with you as long as you are staying in touch, cuz it really truly matters. You might not think so, since you are the one doing all the work. But Believe me it does matter. Don't stop NO matter what, cuz you will regret it in the long run. Not to mention how lonely you will feel. Keep it up, hold that head up high and never, never say GOOD-BYE! Cuz at least you are giving it a try, so that makes you a hell of a good guy! You even brought a tear to my eye!
2007-02-23 06:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by ghostguff3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother and I have had the same kind of trouble with my brother for over 10 years. The trouble is he is a deluded jerk who makes trouble and has no remorse for his bad actions in the past. I wish I had a real brother or even a sister instead of that person but like your neighbours, you cannot choose your relatives.
2007-02-23 05:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by kicking_back 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋