Is it ok to never marry and just co-hibit with my boyfriend?

Question

i am 28 and i got a good job, i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, we have ups and downs, but generally we are quite happy, recently i think about my future alot, i can honestly say that i am so happy to just keep my single status, its so much more convinient, if me and my bf don't work out i can simply move on and find somebody else, without worrying about divorce, or losing half of my money or assets, also i belive people changes all the time, so me and my boyfriend may not suit each other in 5 years and i can easily move on, but if i am married to him and one day we are changed, it'd be harder to get out, i don't think marriage keep people more commited, it just keep them more miserable if things don't work out, do you agree with me?

Answer 1

Hmmm... you need to check out the concept of Common Law Marriages.

Common-Law Marriage - Wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common-law_marriage
"In fact, a common law marriage is just as legally binding as a statutory or ceremonial marriage in some jurisdictions — it is just formed differently."

Common Law Marriage FAQ - Nolo Press
http://www.nolo.com/article.cfm/objectID/709FAEE4-ABEA-4E17-BA34836388313A3C/118/304/192/FAQ/

Common Law Marriage Fact Sheet
http://www.unmarried.org/common.html

I think you should live as you want as long as anyone involved with you agrees. I posted the links so you could find out how not to fall into behavior that could legally bind you to another person.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

The whole problem of marrying or not marrying and being in a long term relationship with someone is the fact that most people, especially females worry about changes in the relationship that may cause separation, whether they take place or not. In a truly committed cohabitation, both partners are interested in working together to keep that relationship running smoothly because they honestly feel it is more important than anything else in life to make their unity as a couple work. Without such a committment, the relationship is on shaky ground. When it is very easy to just walk away, most people will walk instead of working on making things better. That is a miserable way to go through life, giving up before ever trying. Often, these people's lives become a series of meeting someone new, getting emotionally and physically involved, discovering a problem and walking away from it. When children are involved, they must endure the financial consequences of being in a single parent family. They also may have emotional issues from being raised in homes where there is always constant changing of caregivers and they might also learn the same miserable way of relating to others:
"When the going gets tough, just walk away." This does not make the world a better place nor does it make anyone a happier person for very long because no one is going to be "perfect all of the time". Marriage, indeed does not keep people more committed anymore because there is always "divorce on demand" and "no-fault divorce". Everyone is seeking a better person to complement themselves instead of trying to become a better person to complement their significant other- who SHOULD be a SPOUSE.

Answer 3

YES, I also agree, i've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, & I don't want to get married either. Like you said, if it doesn't work out you can move on without the hassel of a costly dirvorce.
Because people do change, not only that I can't believe the amount of money people spend on thier weddings, I'd rather take that money and buy a house or even better go travelling.
I don't want to ever get married, i've known that for a long time.

Answer 4

Blah blah blah...aside from what everyone (including me says) everyone wants to one day settle down. I did what you said...for 2 1/2 years...and boy oh boy...let me tell you...Anyhow...common law marriages are just a ***** too. But on the relationship side, I can say that most men in the future even if they say no now, will ask for your hand. They tend to feel that if you don't want to marry them, it's a sign that you are not totally committed...and they wonder " well why..is she planning on leaving" or "is she seeeing someone"...so definately consider if you love this man enought to play the wifey, why not marry the guy??? Like I said...common law are just as much a *****!!!

Answer 5

Marriage is about committeemen!

You should think about your future with open eyes instead of lobeito.
what art you going to do if you get hurt and can not work anymore?
what are you going to do if you have kids and they see you having sex with other man?

Marriage is something special its about love ,hope and understanding.

Losing half your money? why not think gaining a partner that will help you through thick and thin.

Everyone can make more money but partners are few and far between.

When you grow up you will know this.
I hope you hear what I said.
Good Luck to you.

Answer 6

With that attitude, no you should not marry. You are already talking about what if it doesnt work. Who is ever sure about anything working? Who will buy the cow if the milk is free. Do your thing, and I hope some day you can figure out what you DO WANT.

Answer 7

That is entirely up to you. You are the one that has to live that life. No one can answer this question for you. However, that fact that you obviously feel the need of others opinions on the subject, is a question within itself. How do you feel about it, how will your family feel.That is between you and the God you serve, your family and your boyfriend. Those are the questions you need to ask yourself. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 8

If you are not willing to marry your boyfriend then you are uncertain that your relationship will last and you are uncertain that he is the one. I know I didn't want to marry the guy I was co-habitating with. I ended up breaking up with him eventually. Sounds like your boyfriend isn't the one. You will be willing to commit and marry a man that you truly love because you get to say...this is MY husband.

Answer 9

yes i agree with you, but also i'm a romantic so if i was in love i wouldnt want to think about 'what if we dont make it' there is no reason why this isn't good, you should do what makes you happy, as long as your bf doesn't really want to get married, but you two sound fine the way you are hon :)

Answer 10

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