My mom is really really mean to me and she yells alot. She makes me mad and very fustrated.?

Question

She always says that she tries to make me happy, but she doesn't act like it when she yells at me.
I don't do bad things like smoke, drugs, I get good grades and usually does what she tells me, but when I try to make myself happy by like going on to the internet, eating food, playing with the dogs inside the house, she gets mad no matter what.

She usually yells more if ask her why she's mad, but she never gives a good reason and glares at me. She throws fits and throws trash at me.

I also feel that she doesn't respect me because when she does things that she knows annoys me and I ask her to stop, she continues as if she's having me in a bad mood.

I feel like I want to shoot her when she goes into my business while I don't do anything to bother her, and it just makes me so upset.

She's a single parent who is also a workaholic and never has time for me in on the weekends, so I usually go to my Dad.

Yeah.. I am asian.

Okay. First of all CindyLu, I am quite aware that she is working her *** off to provide for me.

I am not spoiled, rude, or whatever, but I am indeed worried about my mother and our relationship which is exactly why I'm here asking strangers for a way to change this.

I don't mind your opinion that you think I'm a brat, but it's last thing I need right now.

Answer 1

Try to stay away from her, I am a yelling mother when my kids don't listen, and don't pick up after themselves, my teen boy wants to be on the phone till 1:00am or make rules here at my home, and in trouble w/the law, and goes to a bad boy school. I am tired and wish I could go to work, and sometimes I act like your mom.

She loves you just trying to understand maybe she's mad at herself about something, send her a note to see a counselor, send it in a post card, with like a fake address or something figure it out so she wont think it's you and that someone is concerned about her behavior w/you at home. She might be jealous of your relationship w/your father.

I'm sorry you are going through this it's not your fault, don't let it get to you. Ignore her when she has fits, and go write in your journal, hide it from her, or you could set it up where you write in one, making sure she finds it, and put stuff that will make her think about how nasty she is, and make her feel bad, by putting all kinds of good things about her you like and how you admire her and appreciate her, but how deeply hurt you are with her treatments, might help! Give a card telling her how much you love her! You might want to ask her what you can do for her to help her out more. She might have problems at her job, could be many things...

Answer 2

Sound like you need to do more to help your mom deal with her life. Adults are all under a lot of pressure from the world. Paying bills is a big part of all the stress. Electricity is not cheap, and most internet access from home is not free. I'm sure your mom is also worried about other things like you getting involved with a boy, and possible relationship troubles of her own. Do you think your mom dreamed about being a single parent and working long hours to make ends meet? I don't think so. She's probably taking out her frustrations by yelling at you.

Doesn't sound like your mom is all that bad. Give her a break and be extra good to her by cleaning up without being told, or being sensitive to her feelings. Make sure she feels respected by you, and then you may get some respect in return.

Answer 3

Well, I feel for you... I believe your mom is taking out her frustrations on you, and you know what ? it's very common, being a single parent is not the easiest thing, being a workaholic is worst because she probably thinks she is in more need of money than she use to when she was with your dad. I also think that you seem like a nice and mature young lady by asking like you say "strangers" for help,
I would suggest for you to have a little more patience. I believe your mom loves you and cares for you, but sometimes is really hard to show it. When I am mean to my son, who is about to turn 13, I feel really guilty, and you know what I do ? I wake him up in the middle of the night to hug him and tell him how much I love him, and how sorry I am for being mean to him. So, please be patient, sooner or later she will realize that you are actually there and that everything that has happened to her, is not your fault. Both of you are human and are entitled to make mistakes, so just continue to do your thing and please don't let this situation make you take the wrong road, this experience will be positive for you when you have your own children, by not being and behaving like your mom. Take very good care of yourself and remember to be patient and that she loves you no matter what !!!!

Answer 4

Did this happen suddenly?
My mum told me that when she was little, her mum was about 40 or over and her period was stopping. I can't remember the actual name, but when a woman's period stops, she starts to become VERY short-tempered. But it ends some time later, dunno how long though

My mum's mum was also angry at her for little things but she still loved her. It's just a part of life I guess.


I don't think asking why somebody is mad is a good idea, well, I always get more angry if somebody asks me why I'm mad or upset.


So the main reason she's usually angry is that she's stressed out with her work, or her period thing is ending ( I honestly can't remember the name)

so try not to make things too hard for her and if she's snooping through your stuff, maybe she's a bit worried that you're up to something.

Maybe buy her a nice little present to make her feel better. ^_^

Hope that helps ^_^

Answer 5

Your mother may be burnt out from working so much. Do she get any rest or take vacations? When a person is sleep deprived, it can make the person cranky and irritable all the time. Give her a hug. Tell her you love her. Why not help out with housework and cooking? This way she can get some rest because that's what it sounds like to me. You only have one mother. I lost my mother when I was a teen and believe me, I miss everything about her including her yelling at me. Love her while she is still here because tomorrow is never promised to anyone. Take care and God bless you and your mother.

Answer 6

i can feel your pain and i am so sorry please forgive your mom i am a single father and its not easy i can tell you that you mom is try to hide behind her work i used do the same thing then one day i hear my kids i have two boys 10 and 13 talk about me as i was dead its scare me thing like what you said i dont have time for them and they were right so now i am makeing the time and they are happy now good luck and if you need a friend e mail me

Answer 7

try and talked to her, also just becouse you want to have a better relationship with your mother doesn't make you a brat. under no circumstances is your mother allowed to throw trush at you and take out her stress at you :( try and help your mother with the housework before you do whatever you wanna do.my mom goes into my bussiness all the time and i would be worried if she didn't, it shows that she cares how would you feel if she didn't care about what is going on your life?
p.s hope you and your mother work out things,try putting yourself in your mothers position.

Answer 8

well i think you answered your own question. maybe your mom thinks that she is slaving her life away for you and the only thing you do is spend time with your dad. i think that makes her hurt and rejected. why dont you two have a girls night out ?you two can shop, have a manecure, watch a movie or just talk. my mom is also really busy so, i save the weekends for her. i always fix a schedule for us to do, and i tell her beforehand so she can join. i also buy two copies of books(like fiction or novels) and give one to my mom and keep one for myself. so, after a busy day we can chat about the book during dinner.give your mom another chance. she is doing so much for you.

Answer 9

Don't change your outlook in life. Keep working getting good grades, don't go down the wrong road, and when you turn 18 I think you know what you have to do! I wish the best of luck.

Answer 10

Hang in there. Your Mom is taking her frustrations out on you. Tell her that you aren't the person responsible for her distress and it just isn't fair that she take everything out on you. You might try asking her what it is that you can do, to help alleviate some of her problems.