my boyfriends cousin has invited us out next Saturday. i only met her on Tuesday this week and i wasn't keen really. she's dead rowdy and annoying. The worst thing about her is she gets all flirty (in a joking kinda way) with my boyfirend. i know they're cousins etc but theres something wrong about bumpin and grinding with your own cousin. She seems a little "too" fond of him!
Should i go or not?? i don't wanna cause any arguments with my feller, as it's his family after all !!!
2007-02-22 20:00:02 · 23 answers · asked by Miss Tickle 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no she needs to learn some manners.
2007-02-22 20:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by denny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go this once and in the meantime try to be open minded. She may behave better, if she doesn't whatever you do don't let her see she is bothering you flirting with your boyfriend, annoying as it will be. If she becomes rowdy sounds like you don't need to be told not to join in..........just rise above her level. It is only one night and just put it down to experience. Afterwards tell your boyfriend how you feel and in no uncertain terms tell him you don't want to go out with her again. If he doesn't want to cause problems within the family there are loads of excuses he can make. I am not saying you will never have contact with her if your relationship becomes perm. as you probably will at family occasions but hopefully in a crowd you can avoid her as much as possible. Also she may eventually meet someone herself and if she's any sense won't flirt with her cousin in his presence. For the moment don't make a fuss as even if you know you are right remember blood is thicker than water and the family may gang up against you. Hope this is helpful?
2007-02-23 13:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take my advice young lady if it's the last thing that you'll ever do! Because this is coming straight out of the mouth of "BEEN THERE" & "DONE THAT"!
The first THANG-A that you DO-A (perferably without an audience and definitely without the COUSIN) is you TAKE-A YOUR-A FELL-A firmly by his PER-PELL-A and you TELL-A YOUR-A FELL-A exactly what the HELL-A are you doing with COUSIN-ELLA?
Then you round up this "dead rowdy and annoying" so called COUSIN-ELLA and you PULL-A her A-SIDE-A (but only in a joking kinda way)and you simply TRY-DA GUIDE-A to the nearest TAXI-RIDER and send her BUMP-IN-GRIND-A HOME! And by all means "GO" and have a fantastic time!
2007-02-23 05:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by ghostguff3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go, but tell your boyfriend that you don't want to stay out too long. You've only met her once but see how she is on this meeting and if she is the same way well in the future you can make up excuses for why you don't want to go out with her. If she is still full-on with your boyfriend again, whether she is joking or not I think that you should mention it to your boyfriend and see what he has to say about it.
Go but be open-minded about it, because if you don't you won't have a nice time, but if she is the same way and she starts to get on your nerves fake a headache and get your boyfriend to take you home
2007-02-23 05:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would go. I know you don't want to cause any arguements but not going could turn the family against you and not make a very good impression. Also it will give you a chance to observe this cousins behaviour and see if you are correct. She could have been in a wierd mood last tuesday.
2007-02-23 04:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by sam_sam0501 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
difficult one. if u go, u are probably gonna end up getting angry at her behaviour, and in the worst case scenario, it might end up with your patience snapping and u saying something to his cousin. if u don't go, u'll spend the night wondering what the cousin from hell is getting up to with your boyfriend ! if i were u, i would try to have a talk with your boyfriend. i wouldn't mention the flirting to him, but i would say something like: 'i know she's your cousin, and i want to get on with your family, but i really don't like her very much'. if he wants to know why, mention the rowdy behaviour. he'll probably think that u are paranoid if u mention how u feel about the flirting. if her flirting gets worse, then u would need to sit your boyfriend down and explain how it makes u feel. try to keep the conversation calm & sensible. u don't want to end up looking like the one who's doing wrong here. good luck. hope it goes well whatever u decide to do.
2007-02-23 04:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try tickling your boy friends cousin and make him jealous, that way he wont want to go out with both you and his cousin at the same time. You may come home late some day and find him bumping and grinding with his cousin, but at least you can say you tried. Who knows, if you have tickled her before he does, then maybe all three of you can get together and have a tickle fest.
2007-02-23 04:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by Bud#21 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you don't give an age--but you can give a benefit of the doubt--go and have fun--don't look for trouble--if there is any... it will show on its own. then you can ask to talk about it. sounds like she won't change--and if you aren't married, there isn't much about all this that YOU will change--Next time it is bad--don't go--but explain why--she can do anything she wants---you just won't be there to see it. Have fun, smile, be nice--- good luck
2007-02-23 05:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go or you'll regret what could have had happened. Better see for yourself more if she really is that flirty. But hey... They are cousins. Better talk to her. But befriend her first. Maybe she doesn't realize that she IS flirty. Maybe to her she is just friendly.
2007-02-23 05:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by roma_balbin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult, If you don't go you'll be thinking about her allnight and if you do go you'll be annoyed, best idea is go to be polite and to show her and everyone else that he is your partner but if it gets out of hand don't join in just plead illness and go home hopefully with your other half. Hope it goes ok
2007-02-23 04:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by decrepid1958 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are talking this way, somebody you met only once you are concluding on her.
well, the choice is yours.
but i know you've not really known the kind of person she is meeting her once is not enough to know the kindly of person she is.
i can assure you there not going to be any arguments, and you will enjoy every minute you spend with her
2007-02-23 04:50:31 · answer #11 · answered by babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋