Family - January 2007

I ask because I have people that I don't associate much with anymore... they expect me to answer nosy question, they guilt trip me into meeting their expectations. They make me feel bad about myself and so I have decided to do what is best for me. Not be with them... despite the fact they think I am oligated to them because of family ties...

Is it selfish to do what is best for you without obligation? Or does family blood mean you are olbigated to these people, despite the effect they have on you, and even subtely on your children...

2007-01-29 07:47:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am 13 and my dad is very old fashioned is extremly masculin and rarley shows emotion(ive seen him cry once at church and he stopped the second he started) and i take after my mom (being VERY emotional and talkative)so i dissapoint my dad all the time because im the masculin son(brother cooks in the kitchen and cleans house) but im too emotional and sensetive and i need to know how to deal with this

2007-01-29 07:46:02 · 4 answers · asked by sgt.kropf 2

i am 18 and about to get married, My parents said that if i stay at home for a few more months, they will give us $2500 to help with the wedding. I would be all for that, if i thought they actually would, but my parents LOVE to bribe me with stuff then tell me "oh, well i forgot to tell you, you had to do this too" and then i ended up doing exactly what they wanted without getting anything they promised. Also, they said i don't have their blessing on my marriage unless i do what they say (again, holding things above my head). I really want their blessing, but i also feel like i am old enough to make my own decisions and take care of myself. Also, IF they did give me any money, they would want me to get married right then (they said this summer) but i want to wait a little while to get married. We are still taking pre-marital counseling and i want to make sure i do everything i can to help our marriage BEFORE i get married, but i feel like they are going to pressure me into it.

2007-01-29 07:42:46 · 6 answers · asked by Andii 3

what it is?

2007-01-29 07:14:45 · 9 answers · asked by victoria M 2

I love my girls both very dearly - but what is up with the constant fighting. They are 11 & 4 and all the bigger one does is argue and push away the little one. She says so many hurtful things & terrible comments to make the little one cry (mind you the Little one is no Angel). It hurts me to see this, any advice on how to handle it?

2007-01-29 07:10:52 · 9 answers · asked by Theresa J 3

He has made his bed let him lie in it? I kinda feel this at the moment but I cant help feeling really awful and upset His mistake is so stupid and yet the whole family has to be affected by his actions. If only I could just switch off and stop feeling responsible for his well being

2007-01-29 07:08:22 · 17 answers · asked by debrett 1

My Mom, and I had a argument on Saturday. I then left the house, and both did she and we both went to two different places for the day.. We both came home late Saturday, and ever since then my Mom completely ignores me when I try to talk with her. How can I get my Mom to stop giving me the silent treatment

2007-01-29 07:06:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

He doesnt talk much, he doesnt express much either, he is so distant, and when he talks he usually picks, like he makes jokes that irritate.
It is uncomfortable for me because I have no idea what to say to him, he is so short, to me it seems like there is something wrong, like he has a problem, but my husband says, that it is just his personality

2007-01-29 06:48:30 · 8 answers · asked by Alejandra 1

he jst irritates me, if he asks me to go to the shop, i feel like screaming he has his own car plus he can also drive my car, why does he want to spoon feed him everything!!! i may also add im venting sorry!!! i just need to, any way i know its me, but i cant seem to have a civil conversation with him

2007-01-29 06:40:47 · 16 answers · asked by misssherlock06 3

2007-01-29 06:36:49 · 9 answers · asked by horse 1

my daughter had a best friend for 16 years . and now they no longer speak to each other .its been seven month since they spoke . over something stupid .her friend has been around our family all those years .now my daughter dont want me to speak to her or ask about her because they dont get alone .do you think its right for her to ask me not to communicate or ask about her .when she was always cool with my family .the friend use to spend nights over for weeks at a time .please let me know if im wrong , or is my daughter wrong thank you.

2007-01-29 06:31:06 · 7 answers · asked by ms sassy 1

2007-01-29 06:27:28 · 2 answers · asked by lucky 1

Would you move across the states to help your family in need? say your kids if they have been torn by a natural disaster?

2007-01-29 06:21:35 · 9 answers · asked by Gina 4

2007-01-29 06:18:18 · 17 answers · asked by dipti prakash 1

hes just 12 i donno why he hate blacks..what s the best punishment for this kid?

2007-01-29 06:03:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 27 years old, and a single mother of 3 kids. Back in May of 06, I allowed my mother to move in with me to help her out, (she was staying with my aunt) I have started dating a guy with whom I am really serious about and she is also dating a man about a week now) I have seen numours times, on her instant messages with her boyfriend. she talks about how lazy i am and that i am worthless and all kinds of other crap, she also says she would take my kids away from me, but she is mentally unstable to raise kids! The situation in the house is I do EVERYTHING, plus work, I work 40 plus hours a week, the come home and take care of the children, cook and clean. If i rest one day, its the end of the world.she told her boyfriend that the only reason why she stays is because of the kids, if it was just me, she would be gone!! SHOULD I TAKE MATTERS IN TO MY HANDS AND TELL HER TO GET OUT OR WHAT? Among talking trash to the boyfriend of hers, she acts like she dont want mine around!!

2007-01-29 05:58:46 · 12 answers · asked by merrittmom03 2

I was molested at a younger age by my step dad and my mom doesn't want to come with realization that it has happened. I have tried to get this out in the open with her many times but it just doesn't work. I want a relationship with her .... a mother-daughter relationship but it just won't work unless she realizes this because its not fair to me. If anyone has gone through a similiar situation please write. I need advice and help on how to deal with this.

2007-01-29 05:55:37 · 9 answers · asked by girliegirl2483 2

I have nothing in common with her, and I've been avoiding her. I know my husband doesn't like the situation, I've tried to be with her, but she makes no sense. I work full time & she doesn't work, I go to university & she never finished her school, I have kids & she doesn't, I'm always on time & she is always late, I always do things in timely manner & she procrastinates, I'm more logical and act upon what makes sense & she is emotional and she acts with her emotions. It is very painful for us to be in the same room.

2007-01-29 05:49:50 · 15 answers · asked by Pluto 3

I mean... She's a total control-freak. Just because I started smoking for a while at 15 she began controling EVERY aspect of my life. I don't have any privacy and I'm 17 now. I mean, she doesn't let me have any friends, she is constantly nagging me about school and I get very good grades, she never agrees to what I like(music, books, films,TV Shows etc.). She hates the way I dress and every time I try to talk to her, she blames everything on me. She always says that I'm the one that's changed and that I'm unaproachable and stuff like that, but after 2 years, shutting her out is the only sollution I could come up with. And now I can't even see her without my blood boiling and becoming somewhat snippy. When I tell her what's wrong she only shruggs it off and blames it all on my non-existent friends. I mean... What am I supposed to do? I just made it to the point where I hate her and I hate myself for what I feel. I'm just miserable. Help me a little please... I'm desperate.

2007-01-29 05:42:46 · 13 answers · asked by Arista E 1

2007-01-29 05:41:26 · 11 answers · asked by beer buddy 1

and i'm not talking about Solomon in the Bible. i'm talking about nowadays. I'm seen 13 kids in one family ( my old piano teachers family, she was the oldest), and i've heard of 16 in one family (the one in Arkansas where all the girls have hair styles from the 80's and their names all start with J). have you seen or heard of any families larger than that?

2007-01-29 05:41:18 · 11 answers · asked by i totally agree with you!! not 3

2007-01-29 05:15:42 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have lived with my aunt for about 4/5 years, we fought alot then I moved to my dad's house where it is just he and I. The problem with that is one minute he acts like he wants me there then another minute he outright tells me to get out his house. Should I remain there or go back to my aunts and risk the arguments and inevitably being put out again?

2007-01-29 05:13:30 · 3 answers · asked by Andi 1

I am not very good at forgiving,especially when the person who hurt you has never apologized or admitted any wrong doing.

2007-01-29 05:06:21 · 17 answers · asked by wendygirl1000 2

Troubles with his divorce right now are making things difficult enough- see other ? - however his 28 year old daughter is adding to his stress - she is much like her Mother and spoiled - so she "needs" Daddy 99% of the time and she is not open to having dinner with "us". She has even stooped to using her son as a ploy to get his time away from me. She claims to him that it is not me specifically nor is it that she does not want for him to be happy, just that she needs time to get usto it - though she will not take an oportunity to get usto it. I feel there may also be outside influences with her as - more specifically - my best friends husbands best friend is my boyfriends nephew - read that twice. Irregardless, she puts demands on him that give him guilt trips or leave him feeling as though he HAS to do something. How and what do I do to get this to stop? Is there anything I can do or because it is his daughter, I am just supposed to step aside? Is this relationship to complex?

2007-01-29 05:06:17 · 6 answers · asked by martiek7 3

2007-01-29 05:01:51 · 2 answers · asked by Vanillabean 2

We live in South Africa, my brother is moving to UK on 17 Feb. I want to buy/make him a going away gift, i was thinking about a little photo album with pics of the family, my mom said no, that it would make him homesick. He's 21.

2007-01-29 04:55:26 · 8 answers · asked by robyn l 2

She's a great student, but things are starting to look bad. No drugs (that I'm aware of, but she's trying to mess around with boys {she's too young} and she lies about it.)

2007-01-29 04:48:17 · 17 answers · asked by Karate Kid 1

I just asking because I want to find out what others think and weather or not I'am looking at things all WRONG and how would you take men like that ?

2007-01-29 04:38:39 · 22 answers · asked by ? 2

She presently lives in a group home in Des Plain, Ill but she needs to be close to her immediately family so we can help with her and have her interact with her family. She is unable to take care of her special needs.

2007-01-29 04:34:11 · 1 answers · asked by Renlovebird 1