How do you forgive?

Question

I am not very good at forgiving,especially when the person who hurt you has never apologized or admitted any wrong doing.

This person is my mother. Whenever the subject does come up she gets mad and doesn't want to talk about it. I don't either anymore, but they always say you have to forgive to move on.

Answer 1

When you forgive, you open your heart to joy.
Thats what I tell myself when someone has done me wrong...
I have had things happen to me that I choose to forgive but not forget & then there are things that i'd just as soon forget than forgive.
I suppose it depends on what happened & the circumstances.

Answer 2

You just need to forgive her in your heart. Mothers usually do what they think is best for you. It may seem like failure to your mom to admit she was wrong and hear your forgiveness. If she doesn't want to hear about it then just forgive her in your heart and don't let this stand between you. You will just ware yourself out worrying about it and you should enjoy your time with your mother while she is still here for you to enjoy.
Good luck!

Answer 3

Do you not find that it takes a lot of energy carrying around resentment of another person for some thing they might have done. I say might because they do not seem to be aware of the problem, only you, so you took some thing they said or did personally. when it was not intended, so they blithely go on their way and you sit and stew. So who is the winner in this situation, Try to be a bit more thick skin-ed and not take every thing personal. your life will be so much better

Answer 4

forgiving and saying sorry need a brave heart. it is easy to hurt some one but difficult to forgive. whenever u r not loosing a great deal....just forgive and see what peace of mind u get and how much others will value your kindness.

Answer 5

i feel like it is your design if you wish to forgive or not but living with angry will let that person win so show them how much of a better person you are and try to forget what they have done to you . there are some people out there who think they are better then the rest of us but that in my eyes is not true you must love yourself enough to just go on and live you life

Answer 6

yeah

first they should say what they did to hurt you

then they should apologize

then they should ask for forgiveness

if they didn't even mean to hurt you, by em lunch and make a friend

if they did, forgive em anyway but maybe avoid that person in the future they will just hurt you again somehow

if they won't say what they did , let em deal with their own bad selves, AND stay away from them.

Answer 7

you forgive if you can. forgiving is easy in words and theory but in reality, human nature, hurt, etc makes it very hard. one thing- never forget the lesson you learned or you may make the same error again.

if you can't forgive- trying putting it away, at the back of your mind. it seems she's doing that. you are only torturing yourself.

Answer 8

We where made to forgive, not to hate. Our Lord has made us to forgive.....Once you make to choose to forgive that person you are releasing your self from that emotional debt. We feel that, that person has done us an injustice without any sorrow for what they have done . But we also have to realize that their perception of life my not be as we see it. So if he is marching to a different drummer then you are let march alone.

Answer 9

You cannot forgive someone who hasn't asked for forgiveness. Not how it works. You can't answer a question that isn't asked.

Answer 10

You start by telling that person that they hurt you and how they hurt you. if they dont except their wrong doing then just let it go but don't forget what they have done to you. By remembering what they did you will not allow them to hurt you in that matter ever again.