I was molested at a younger age by my step dad and my mom doesn't want to come with realization that it has happened. I have tried to get this out in the open with her many times but it just doesn't work. I want a relationship with her .... a mother-daughter relationship but it just won't work unless she realizes this because its not fair to me. If anyone has gone through a similiar situation please write. I need advice and help on how to deal with this.
2007-01-29 05:55:37 · 9 answers · asked by girliegirl2483 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i have! sorry to hear that she's not responding well, but i'm sure you'll be happy to hear that it's only normal. it's too difficult of a reality to take it in, so don't expect your mum to be too supportive....if you've given your relationship your all and it's not working, it's time to move on. find someone else who can take her place. I sure did with mine.
2007-01-29 06:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by googlemaniac 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off, give up on trying to get her to admit it. I have spent way too many tears and time getting my family to admit to what they did. It's like beating a well deserved dead horse. I had to give up on my "fantasy family" a long time ago. It wasn't easy back then and still isn't today. But the more I would try to mend things the worse I would feel, naturally. She's not your mother, she's not anything to you. She's a monster and so are all the other ******* that have commited these crimes. I had to accept the fact that I was all alone in this world and as scary as that may sound, it's very peaceful because you know you'll never be hurt again. It's time to move on with your life and leave all that garbage where it belongs.
2007-01-29 07:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation growing up. My mom knew it was happening and let it continue. When we pressed charges, she stood beside him and claimed it never happened over her 4 kids saying it did. I have been through serious counseling over it. You should go and get a handle on how to control your feelings over this. Then maybe you can have a relationship with her. It will take a lot of time. I have an ok relationship with my mom, but not the mother daughter relationship it should be. Good Luck.
2007-01-29 06:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jodi C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your mother can not respect and support you on this what sort of relationship will you have. I think your you justification is real but your expectations are not going to be met, she has to support you step dad for what ever reason, and so you are left hanging in the wind, with a step dad who molested you and a mother that will not recognize or support you problem. I believe that there is no way you can win as your mother is the one that will have to change and for what ever reason can not or will not, and you are going to have to accept that as well
2007-01-29 06:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have worked with children and adolescents who have made similar disclosures. You cannot force your Mom to accept, or confront this if she's not ready. What you can deal is ask your G.P or Physician for counselling to deal with how you feel about the abuse. There are also support groups for survivors of childhood abuse. You are very brave for wanting to deal with this, some people go their whole lives without ever being able to deal with this issue. I wish you closure and a better future relationship with your Mom.
2007-01-29 06:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey. I just want to start off by saying keep your head up, there is gold at the end of the rainbow which is happiness.
Have patients, it will all come out good in the end. Love your mother no matter what happens. She will eventually realize that her daughter is hurting. She is confused and scared and don't know what to do. Not every parent is going to think on our level that we need to believe your child. She will eventually come around, just don't mention it any more.
I wish you the best!!! :-)
2007-01-29 06:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by theonenonlyladyvee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi soz about that i have been though da same **** and it ant very nice 2 deal with da all al thing that help me 2 deal with it was cuttin myself but i really don`t want u 2 do that because that is just as bad because i am still doin that so please don`t do that . i think u should sit ur mam down and just tell her how u feel and keep tellin her until she listens 2 u and if she doesn`t want 2 know tell heer u will go 2 da cops about it soz if u would like 2 talk more 2 me about u can email on lauraward1987@yahoo.com i will love 2 help u more just email
2007-01-29 06:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by happyduck1987@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am truly sorry for what has happened to you, but I feel this is not the place to reach out for that kind of advice. Please seek professional help in both mental health to help thru this emotionally and report him to the authorities for sexual abuse to a minor. It doesn't matter your age now, they will still listen and you can still prosecute.
2007-01-29 06:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um ,why would you want to have a relationship with her?She knew it was going on and did nothing. She did'nt say or do anything because, She did not want to give up her man! Read "bad childhood Good Life" by Dr.Laura Schlesinger.
2007-01-29 06:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋