Family - January 2007

My brother does and says things that I feel are disrepectful. When I ask him to stop, he will not. He seems to think that I am 'different' 'too senstive', or whatever... he doesn't think he needs to stop what bothers me. We are now in our 30's and I have kids. Now he is not respecting my kids or me when we feel we need to ask him to back off abit. It is bothering me more and more and so I emailed him. I told him 4 areas that I felt he crosses our bounderies. He emailed me back and said 'I will try to be a better person. I must really be hard to be with. I am so terrible. etc'. I emailed him back and told him that he is a good person, we just had crossed bounderies and I am so so glad that he heard me! He emailed back and said 'apparently you don't recongnize sarcasim.' I took that to mean he doesn't give a crap about my bounderies. I told him that until he can respect us, he is out of our lives.. that includes us not going to family gatherings...

2007-01-29 15:07:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

how can i aproach her and let her know she smells w/out hurting her feelings??

2007-01-29 15:05:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am strongly considering going to take care of my 14 year old daughter who lives in another state. Her Dad has legal custody of her and has moved to another state due to job reasons and left her with his Mom. As a mother, I want to step to my responsibilities and take care of my child.

My parents are saying that I should not travel to the other state and just let nature take its course. My child is in a lot of pain and I feel that its my duty to take care of her.

My parents feel that my ex will take advantage of me if I go to live with my child in the other state.

They say that I should just go and pick up my child and come back. She does not want to change schools and move, etc.

How can I be strong and live up to my responsibilities and face up to my parent's opposition? I don't want to discuss it too much with them because they only hurt me by bringing up the past.

2007-01-29 15:02:31 · 7 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

He is my great great grandfather I have been looking for his role number for my family and no luck. He has a son named Pepper and Pepper is still alive. But I am at a dead end? Please help

2007-01-29 15:01:43 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can they tell me that I can't go places and that I have to be home at a certain time legally?
I don't party or anything..it's little things, like seeing a movie.

I am an adult now.

2007-01-29 14:56:06 · 23 answers · asked by morethanitseems 2

My friends mom died yesterday and my friends birthday is in a little more than two week. How can I help give her a happy birthday? She hasn't had a birthday party since she was little and she was actually going to celebrate this year and now. Yeah. So what can I do?

2007-01-29 14:54:35 · 8 answers · asked by Liz 2

My boyfriend was in a accident last night and passed away , I dont know what to do I feel like I am going to lose my mind . back in 01 my dad passed away from kidney cancer 2 yrs ago my daughters father ( we had been engaged ) passed away my daughter who is 6 now has kindney problems I was dx with MS and TM and have been in and out of the hospital and now my boyfriend passes away , I feel so Tired of hurt I have talked to counselors and talked to family but it doesnt help I dont know what to do I have to tell my 6 yr old what happened and I dont know how I feel like crawling in a dark place and just staying there or going on top of a mountain and screaming I feel like I want to hate God for taking my best friends away from me but I know that would be wrong please someone help me

2007-01-29 14:22:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know this is a little hard unless your in the specific scenario, but I don't even know where to begin even in an e-mail. I'm as close with her as I can be living on opposite sides of the country. When Im out in CA its easier to talk cause Im there, but when Im in front of a box, its a little different. The reason this is hard for me is because I only really get to talk to her when its a holiday or birthday, on the computer which is really rare, and when im out visiting her. She was married to him close to 60 years and i know she absolutely broken inside but still puts on a smiling front because she doesn't want to make anyone else upset. I kinda think she may need counseling, and I just try to dodge the subject or anything about him in general cause i dont know if it hurts or helps her more, but it needs to be brought up before something happens to her, she holds everything in, and shes pretty much out there alone. I feel so bad for her, any suggestions at all would help thanks

2007-01-29 14:21:36 · 4 answers · asked by scottryhan 1

Just curious.

2007-01-29 14:20:59 · 16 answers · asked by Matt H 2

We discovered a few years ago my 14 year old sister's attraction for women. However, I was the only one in the family bothered by this. My mother scolded me harshly when I brought it up with her in private. "Do you have a problem with your sister's sexuality?" she would say. Lesbian sleep-overs were allowed in the homeand my mother would turn a blind - eye to drugs being used. My mother allowed her daughter to spend all her time with people far older than her, and some even older than me, and this led to her being "raped" a year or so ago. But this didn't create any response from my mother still. Then she began dating a 19 year old and again I tried to draw the line but failed.

This relationship is probably illegal (however, I live in Canada and I am not sure), so what can I do to stop this? How do I get my once Christian mother to see how sick this is?

2007-01-29 13:59:33 · 10 answers · asked by concerned_son 1

2007-01-29 13:58:23 · 4 answers · asked by yayi´s 1

lunch in school. She could get free medical and free lunches for her kid's in school. I asked her why did she not get the free lunches for her kid's ? She told me if i don't buy them to stay out of it. What the problem is she's always at my door when she need money. What do u think?

2007-01-29 13:53:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-29 13:45:42 · 3 answers · asked by dreamchaser 1

I will be turning 19 soon, and I am ready to move out of home. I haven't told my parents that I want to move out yet. What and when is a good time to tell them? What should I say? I was "RAISED" LDS (MORMON) and I also need to tell my family that a Mission isn't for me. What is a good way to break that to them? Its a TOUCHY subject. Thanks!

2007-01-29 13:45:33 · 11 answers · asked by Whistler 2

2007-01-29 13:43:28 · 9 answers · asked by Haley 1

if you guys have been following my few past posts about my dad this is the closure part of it. an email i got today from him:

2007-01-29 13:43:05 · 3 answers · asked by Back*To*Me 4

I babysit two days a week for her. She pays me a little bit to compensate. Tonight her boyfriend is flying in. She'll be back at 8:30. She wants me to drive home, wait 3 hours, and come back at 11:30 so she can pick up her boyfriend from the airport. Is this a reasonable request? Because it's really inconvenient and annoying to me. Would you agree to do it or not?

2007-01-29 13:35:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Gift certificates are always a safe bet, but not too much fun. I don't want to go the "too mean" route about turning 40 as he's recently been through a lot of negative stuff (seriously ill parent, job issues, etc.).
Any guys out there have suggestions? Preferably of the legal and under $500 sort? lol

2007-01-29 13:31:41 · 7 answers · asked by zoni_tonya 3

My parents have been at each other for as long as I can remember. My father verbally abuses my mother, although he no longer does so physically. My mother used to fight back, but now, she has taken to blaming me. I've always thought my father a victim of abuse by my grandfather and my mother a victim of my father.

I always tried to be a "good kid" to now worry my parents: no dating, no drugs, no partying, no sex, etc. But one thing that has been difficult for me is to not talk back. I just find it so unfair that I always have to keep my mouth shut. It doesn't matter that I hold my tongue most of the time. It just takes one time that I rebel for my parents to make me feel like the worst kid in the world. And the fact is, I'm no longer a kid. I'm an adult. My father always says I have an attitude problem and that I'm not "mature" or "wise".

Am I being rebellious? Do I need to seek help about my attitude? What can I do to make things better?

2007-01-29 13:28:19 · 25 answers · asked by Books and Cleverness 1

My sister, a sophemore in High school, has been getting really bad grades. At home she does what my parents tell here, clean her room, etc. (ordinary chores) She does however act strange sometimes, specially with me, she gets mad for no reason. I got a her password from her myspace account and found out many bad things she does at school explaning her bad grades, fighting for guys and other stuff. My parents have done so many things to try to help her get back on track for school so she has a future but she still gets the low grades and does stuff at school. They ask her what they can do to help her yet she does not take advantage of it.I try to help my sister but its no use. Im currently in college and dont spend much time with her, just on the weekends. I have brought her to some of my engineering classes so she gets an idea of how college is and how important it is for her future. Still she does stuff behind our backs at school and still failing classes. What can we do to help her ?

2007-01-29 13:27:07 · 3 answers · asked by spb 2

I would like to know if in a family of conniving, plotting, and secrets (like the family in "the lion in winter" by, james goldman) could possibly also posses unconditional love for each other?
thanx.

2007-01-29 13:26:37 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-29 13:20:51 · 15 answers · asked by debrett 1

I don't think what I do is any of his business, but because we're twins he thinks he should get to say whatever he wants. I want to get him back. Any ideas?

2007-01-29 13:15:36 · 10 answers · asked by Stephanie S 1

2007-01-29 12:51:58 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Almost perfect child, gets all A's, gifted classes,involved in sports, student council, I am a room mom, team mom, I stay at home, new home, middle maybe even upper class, we eat every dinner together as a family, movie nights,2 loving parents. Any little problem arises, totally exaggerates it, cries, tries to run away. What does this solve? where does she think she is going? What am I doing wrong?What should I do?

2007-01-29 12:34:46 · 11 answers · asked by The McK's 4

i feel like a little gurl cuz i got bad grades in my report card so how do i calm him down!?

2007-01-29 12:28:22 · 9 answers · asked by short stuff 4

sometimes i see my sister mad and when i ask her what is wrong she tells me but her explanation is empty---she also talks to me less now and started hanging with my older sister. Plus, i went into her documents (because her's is easier to get into and she dosen't care) and i saw some questionable stuff she wrote on a fiel---something about our mom. i know i shouldn't pry but something's going on

2007-01-29 12:19:08 · 22 answers · asked by Josee G 2

2007-01-29 12:17:04 · 9 answers · asked by white_tiger_0610 1

“My Grandfather”


So many emotions hitting me at once, not knowing what to do,
Not knowing anything, helpless, without a single clue.
I don’t want to see you go; you meant so much to me.
That one day when you reach the gates of heaven, you will see.


I look to the corner of the room, to see you sitting in your chair.
It breaks my heart in two not to see you resting, not seeing you there.
You will always mean everything to me, no matter the years that may pass.
I will always miss you, but I know that I will see you again, at last.


When you are in God’s arms, safe and healthy again, we will dance.
Because when you were healthy, I never had a chance.
Dancing was a way of life for you, something you did each day.
Now all you can do is sit in a bed talking to Jesus and pray.


There was not one thing in you that had ever made me fret.
Never once have I ever seen you as a threat.
They say you only have little time left on this place.
It will be hard to imagine you no longer here, and but in God’s warm embrace.


Sometimes I hide my feelings and try to be strong and well.
But really on the inside, I am scared, hiding like a snail in its shell.
I have to be strong for you, I cannot let you down.
For it would break my heart to ever see you make a frown.


So as for now it is goodbye, but not for long.
You must always be there, watching over me, staying strong.
One day, I will see you again and we will dance.
And this time I will be sure to get a chance.

2007-01-29 12:13:08 · 9 answers · asked by Brittany 2

my son is 2 months old and his father and i want to change his last name from mine to his fathers. how would this be done?

2007-01-29 11:57:51 · 1 answers · asked by as12jk34 1