How can I stop perversion in the home?

Question

We discovered a few years ago my 14 year old sister's attraction for women. However, I was the only one in the family bothered by this. My mother scolded me harshly when I brought it up with her in private. "Do you have a problem with your sister's sexuality?" she would say. Lesbian sleep-overs were allowed in the homeand my mother would turn a blind - eye to drugs being used. My mother allowed her daughter to spend all her time with people far older than her, and some even older than me, and this led to her being "raped" a year or so ago. But this didn't create any response from my mother still. Then she began dating a 19 year old and again I tried to draw the line but failed.

This relationship is probably illegal (however, I live in Canada and I am not sure), so what can I do to stop this? How do I get my once Christian mother to see how sick this is?

To the liberals: How can you say that I'm disgusting for choosing right from wrong and at the same time say a family member involved in pedophile relationships is something wonderful? You people are sick. Instead of telling me to accept her repulsive actions, why don't YOU accept that I have values and morals in my life?

Answer 1

Wow, there's a lot going on there. Would your mom be letting this go on if it were men sleeping over with her? I guess she would from reading your question.
What your mom is doing is contributing to the delinquency of a minor & that's a crime in the US. You need to check the laws in your area, talk to some adults & maybe get your sister some help before it's too late. She may get mad at you, but one day she'll see you were only trying to help her.

Answer 2

Take him to a juvenile center. Make preparations with them and clarify your challenge and your challenge. and have him stay a night or 2 there that he's not the guy of the living house. additionally talk over with the college so they be conscious of you difficulty and you are able to't be held as an irrelevant parent. additionally take each little thing from him and punish him for his habit. Take your 12 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous advice and take him to the wellbeing practitioner, and have them have a communication with him and locate out if something could be incorrect with him. which incorporate having a not undemanding time with you and your husbands separation. The courtroom might look at you as a greater robust parent while you're taking action and get your son help instead of letting it pass. Plus a parent can call the law enforcement officials on your son for spying (for being a peeping tom). Take action in the past it gets worse. sturdy success and supreme desires.

Answer 3

Ok number one, there is nothing sick about your sister being a lesbian. She is who she is and if you cant handle that then there is no reason for you to be getting involved. You need to be concerned about the fact that your sister is using drugs and is seeing older people. and she got raped!! i mean have you even talked to your sister about this or are you so "disgusted" that you chose to ignore her too. you have no idea the kinds of things she is going through right now. She is a lesbian which is is hard for her because of all the discrimination gays do get. and plus on top of the matter she got raped!! do you know how hard that is for her?!?!?! she is feeling extremely hurt right now and all you have to say is that its disgusting....

its disgusting that you arent acting like her brother and giving her the support she needs and talking to her and trying to get her off of drugs. your mother has turned a blind eye to this and she will keep turning a blind eye to it. you need to accept your sister for who she is and try to help her because it looks like you are the only one she has right now.

Answer 4

How does your mother deal with your heterosexual relationships? Is there equality in this? I do find it very hard to understand your mother's allowing sleepovers and for your sister to be involved with older women. Perhaps your mom is afraid to "deal" with your sister's homosexuality and really treat her and/or punish her equally as a result. It's hard to tell, not knowing you and your behavior in the home also as well as not knowing your mother's thoughts. The picture you are painting is not healthy for anyone involved. Your sister needs limits and since I don't know your age I can't speak for you. It would appear that there may be a legal issue involved. Check with the laws on the Internet regarding this. Get counseling for yourself as you are the only one you can change. Good luck.

Answer 5

This is something that your sister will have to learn for herself the more you push her the harder she will push back. If you love her and want to be a part of her life then just be there for her.
It will be hard but, some times the only way a person can learn is by them self.

Answer 6

You very obviously DO have a problem with your sister's sexuality. Bravo to your mother for being supportive.

So your sister is a lesbian. What's she supposed to do about it - kill herself? Force herself to have sex with men, when she feels no attraction for them? Remain celibate for the rest of her life? Wallow in self-hatred until she's suicidal? Go away to fundamentalist Christian sexual preference "reassignment" camp and magically become straight? Spend her entire life pretending to be something she's not?

And what's up with putting the word "raped" in quotes? Was she raped, or wasn't she? Did someone force her to have sex, or not? Was the rapist male or female?

It sounds to me as though you're a homophobe - and for your sister's sake, I'm glad you're not her mother, because gay teenagers are very emotionally vulnerable and have a much higher suicide rate than their straight counterparts. I'm glad that your efforts to indoctrinate your sister with self-loathing because of her natural sexual orientation appear to have been only semi-successful.

You do raise a valid point in that your sister should not be allowed to date much older people or do drugs (and are we talking marijuana, coke, Ecstasy, heroin here?) But despite this, your homophobia is so obvious that it will blunt the effect of any valid advice you may have to give. The fact that you are a sibling and not the girl's parent will also limit the amount of effect you have on the young lady's life.

If you want to set a good example for this girl, stop despising her because she's gay. Your hatred is probably palpable, and it can't be doing her self-esteem any good. Be glad that she's not acting out more drastically, what with a sister or brother who looks down on her as bitterly as you do. Gay teens have enough negativity showered upon them in our society without dealing with hateful behavior from their own families as well.

ETA: Simple - because HATE IS NOT A FAMILY VALUE. It's not "liberal" to refuse to hate gay people; it's simply a refusal to embrace cruelty, hatred, and bigotry. What I want to know is why you seem more upset by the fact that your sister is gay than about the fact that someone raped her? Why aren't you asking "My younger sister was raped and does drugs and Mom isn't helping her - what should I do to help?"

If you truly want what's best for your sister (and aren't looking to be patted on the head for what a good little gay-and-lesbian-hating fundamentalist Christian you are), if you truly want to be a positive force in her life, don't hate her for being gay. She has no control over her sexual orientation, and she CAN'T change it to suit you. She did not become a lesbian just to upset YOU. If you insist on calling her sexual orientation a "perversion", don't be surprised if she pushes you out of her life.

Answer 7

wow what the hell happened? maybe something happened to your mom in the past that she hasn't coped with and it has led to her not wanting to cope with reality? well what i say is that a person has to show their true selves at the beginning of a relationship and afterwards if a erson wants to change it won't be possible. i suppose it's too late to change ...

Answer 8

WOW
tell the school nurse your sister is a lesbian
and has trying to get you to eat pussy
the school nurse will fix everything

Answer 9

i'm so sorry mam, all you realy can do is pray, and quote the bible to them. don't force it on them. God can make a way where there seems no way, i will also pray for you pls. feel free to contact me [e-mail]

Answer 10

It's more likely too late. Sorry.