I am strongly considering going to take care of my 14 year old daughter who lives in another state. Her Dad has legal custody of her and has moved to another state due to job reasons and left her with his Mom. As a mother, I want to step to my responsibilities and take care of my child.
My parents are saying that I should not travel to the other state and just let nature take its course. My child is in a lot of pain and I feel that its my duty to take care of her.
My parents feel that my ex will take advantage of me if I go to live with my child in the other state.
They say that I should just go and pick up my child and come back. She does not want to change schools and move, etc.
How can I be strong and live up to my responsibilities and face up to my parent's opposition? I don't want to discuss it too much with them because they only hurt me by bringing up the past.
2007-01-29 15:02:31 · 7 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, think. It's your decision. My advice would be to strongly express your opinions and give them reasons that are supporting to what you believe. There's not much else I can say after that...
2007-01-29 15:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by devilishangelgirl10 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things are hard, yes. She is 14 years old, it's a rough age and she is separated from you and living with her father for whatever reasons.
Have you talked to your ex-husband about what is going on? Or have you talked to his mother about this, since she seems to be the primary care giver?
My concern is that this child will try to manipulate all of you.
I'm not sure that I agree with taking her away from her home there. There may be legal ramifications for that; are you and your parents prepared for that as well?
I think that you should first try to talk to your ex or at least talk to his mother about your concerns, if that is possible. All of you need to be united in the care of this child.
Best regards-
2007-01-29 23:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by autimom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you belive that you and your child will be happer by coming back to where you are then you need to let her know that your the parent and that shell do as you see fit, however if you belive that staying where she is might be easier then you need to expect that your parent will always say something just explain to them that even though you may of had problems in the past that you are doing what you see fit to take care of your child and that they will either they can support your decision or they can mind their own bussiness and say nothing at all!! either way youll do what you think is best
2007-01-29 23:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by lilbluemaninmyhead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a 14 year old child! You need to do what is best for HER!...................doesn't matter what your parents or anyone else thinks.
Be there for your child.
2007-01-29 23:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter needs you, then go to your daughter...Ask your parents if they would just let you hurt and if they would just say let nature takes it coarse....
2007-01-29 23:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go take care of your daughter-----you dont need anyones approval to do that! blessings
2007-01-29 23:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
please go and take care your daughter,at 14 she need you and you dont want her to hate you for not been there,do whatever it takes,to be there for your baby girl.
2007-01-29 23:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by hanagal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋