My Boyfriend passed away last night .... Help please?

Question

My boyfriend was in a accident last night and passed away , I dont know what to do I feel like I am going to lose my mind . back in 01 my dad passed away from kidney cancer 2 yrs ago my daughters father ( we had been engaged ) passed away my daughter who is 6 now has kindney problems I was dx with MS and TM and have been in and out of the hospital and now my boyfriend passes away , I feel so Tired of hurt I have talked to counselors and talked to family but it doesnt help I dont know what to do I have to tell my 6 yr old what happened and I dont know how I feel like crawling in a dark place and just staying there or going on top of a mountain and screaming I feel like I want to hate God for taking my best friends away from me but I know that would be wrong please someone help me

Answer 1

I can't even imagine the pain that you must be feeling. Please know that God never said that he could prevent everything from happening, but he did say that he would be there by your side to help you through it.

Answer 2

I can't begin to know what you are going through. You have had to deal with more tragedy than some people will have to deal with in a whole life time.

First of all, you are only human so hating God, feeling like you are going to lose your mind, and feeling like you want to crawl into a dark place are all normal feelings for anyone who has lost so much like you have.

Maybe if you can find a support group of people who have suffered loses like you have, it may help to talk with others who have some idea of what you are going through.

You are going to hurt because there is no way of avoiding it, but perhaps you can find some ways to help you cope with it as best you can (pray, cry, keep talking with others, etc.).

Also, keep in mind that your 6 year old needs you more now than ever, and perhaps you two can weather this storm together while you provide a source of comfort for each other.

My prayers are with you. I bid you peace.

Answer 3

God did not take away your best pleasures in life. Have you ever considered that Satan did? Think about it. God created life, booted satan out of heaven, what a better way to get back at God then to take something God created away? You don't hate God dear, you hate death. We all do. We hate the unknown of it. I am so sorry for your loss, yet nothing I can say can make you feel ok. A mere stranger like myself can say HOLD ON. HOLD ON all I have to say. Searching for answers in your heart that is held heavy at this time is common. The answers will come when you least expect it. Your bf death was not a punishment to you. You have to stop feeling like every tragedy in your life is lifes way of punishing you somehow. You want to crawl in a dark place but crawl into the light. Your 6 year old craves that light. Thats your job and purpose to make sure your child sees the brightest light in her life. You are her light.

Answer 4

"If God leads you to it, he'll lead you through it" I think back upon this saying once in awhile when I'm feeling down about my dad. He died suddenly and unexpectantly from pneumonia. Take things one day at a time, and think back on the good memories. I don't know what else to tell you. Everybody handles death differently. I was able to handle Dad's better than other people can because I still have my mom, brother, and sister to lean on. We're family and we all went through the same experience so we know what it's like for one another. I suggest you call up a good friend or family member of yours, and let them help guide you. I am sorry for your losses and hardships. Everybody's got them, but it still doesn't seem fair does it? Good luck. I wish you and your family the best.

Answer 5

First, let me say how sorry I am that you have had to face all these trials in your life. You must be a very strong person and of great value to God for him to allow you to face these things. Turn to him now to give you comfort. He has a plan for your life and developing your strength is leading you to it. I know it seems as if the hurt never seems to stop but it will in time. As the words of a song go: If you've ever knelt beside the rubble of an aching broken heart and the things you gave your life to fell apart...you're not the first to be acquainted with sorrow, grief or pain...but the master promised sunshine after rain.
So hold on my child...joy comes in the morning. Weeping only lasts for the night. Hold on my child, joy comes in the morning. THE DARKEST HOUR MEANS DAWN IS JUST IN SIGHT!!! May God Bless you and I will pray for you tonight. Again, my sympathies and understanding.

Answer 6

I cant even begin to imagine the pain and hurt you are going thru
My father is dying of co pd and that hurts .
My cousin died this year
in Irag
we are not victims but Victors
We cant help what happens sometimes but we can choose our response.
Joyce Meyers has some aw some books and tapes that helped me a lot. She has a prayer line that i call almost everyday.
I got to a bible study every Tuesday morning and my prayer partners and friends surround each other with love and support.
you got to be strong and go on for your little girl.
She and you need some counseling and support.
Take it one day at a time sometimes one breath at a time.
God bless you and your little girl you will be in my prayers

When all you got is Jesus you get close.
God didn't do this the devil did.
God works all things together for good.
You need to get in to a good church that will surround you with love.Those who sow in tears shall reap in joy
When all hope is gone hope on. Hope floats

Answer 7

first of all let me tell you that there are still ppl who love you. never ever forget that. when you feel like you are bummed out and want to crawl and hide from the world, just remember all those that are close to you.
im soo soo sorry. i dont know how you feel at all, so i cant help you with that. no one knows really. except God, who is the only one who can help you right now. pleeeese remember that. Satan wants you to hate God. God has a reason for everything, and i know thats not what you want to hear. i wish i could give back your regular life back. i really do. and right now, at this very moment, im praying that God will ease some of your pain. or at least give you a happy memory that will make you feel better when your feeling bummed out.

i hope i'ved helped you feel a bit better. just remember those who love you. remember your daughter. never forget those close to you. i've known four close ppl who've died of cancer and one who died in a train accident(the train hit his car), so i know what it feels like to lose a loved one from disease or freak accidents.

God Bless You.
~Theresa~

Answer 8

Hi, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the pain you have been through and are going through. All I know is that God loves you and your best friends and family. I know it's hard and it makes us wonder, why do things like this happen to good people. Just remember that God has a plan for everything, and in the end, although it was tough, everything works out. Life isn't always beautiful, but it is a beautiful ride. I'm so sorry for your losses and I will pray for you. May God bless you and your family and may your boyfriend rest in peace.

"Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted." -Matthew 5:4 NKJV -

"Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light." - Matthew 11:28-30 NKJV -

"Weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning." - Psalm 30:5 NIV -

"Rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer..." - Romans 12:12 NASB -

God bless you!

Answer 9

You have had it very hard. I am so sorry for your losses. Seek counseling and Prayer helps as well. You need to take mourning classes too. Go to your local hospital they have classes as such, maybe you can also talk to someone at your church if you attend. Even if you don't. You need someone now where you can vent and de-stress. Good luck to you. Remember life goes on. These were angels put in your life for a reason.

Answer 10

my dear friend i know what u r going through right now the stress that u r under the hurt i can only ask u to seek the help u need from a councillor st the nearest church to u that gives counselling please don't blame our lord for your lost he dose not take away your loved ones like that we are all on a time clock that runs down slowly when it stops then our time is up but we don't know when it will stop it can stop any time if u want to chat more go to my email god bless u and keep u all ways.

Answer 11

Anne b (above) has a great answer. We don't know why God allows things to happen and sometimes it's as if some people are overburdened by bad things happening to them. Life does go on and He is there beside us. Reading Psalms is comforting to me because King David was one of those who had a lot of troubles in his life also. You have my deepest sympathy in your loss.