I will be turning 19 soon, and I am ready to move out of home. I haven't told my parents that I want to move out yet. What and when is a good time to tell them? What should I say? I was "RAISED" LDS (MORMON) and I also need to tell my family that a Mission isn't for me. What is a good way to break that to them? Its a TOUCHY subject. Thanks!
2007-01-29 13:45:33 · 11 answers · asked by Whistler 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well Timbo I am not of your faith but my ex was. So I do realize that some values are pretty important with this sect. Let me begin answering this with my opinion. Firstly if you are a mature 19 year old youth I'm certain that your folks will be in full support of your living independently. Merely approach them and in a very frank and open manner inform them of your decision. As for not wanting to become a missionary for your church well you may be better to speak with a brother whom you have faith and confidence will not go around and spread rumours of what you want to ask him. Then tell him how you feel and how best he would think it would be to break this news to your parents. All parents have hopes and dreams for their children but need to realize that sometimes the child's wishes and ours are not on the same page. Providing you continue to lead a good life hopefully your parents will not be too upset, but even if they are over time they will get over it. Best of luck in all your situations and hopefully you haven't to worry about your parents reactions.
2007-01-29 13:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. There is no reason to get uptight or raise any voices. If they get that way tell them the conversation is over and you will talk about it again when they can have a conversation like an adult in a respectful manner. I think if you are completely honest with your parents they will have to respect it, even if they don't like it. In my family there are three boys and I am the only one that went on a mission, but it wasn't something I was always sure of and had to make my own decision. Missions aren't always right for everyone, although they are great. Religion is just a touchy subject. I married an agnostic and it bothered my mother at first, but she must accept it because we each must make our own decisions. Regardless of my choices I can't deny what I know is true, and you will need to find that out on your own. Good luck.
2007-01-30 03:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by straightup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... Don't break it to them until you are moved out and financially stable. Its a very touchy subject, I'd be worried about your family cutting you off somehow as a way to get you back into church. Try breaking it to them over the phone, or if you can't do that, at least have a friend with you when you do. Be sure to explain why you thing the LDS Chruch and a Mission isn't for you.
2007-01-29 14:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by Rae-Rae Nikkoles <3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just believe of this as a danger for a brand new ! I am also a shy man or woman but try and be a little extra outgoing do not be afraid to be yourself and talk to men and women!. I'm sure you are going to make lots of new pals :] additionally become a member of golf equipment and exercises to satisfy individuals who have an identical pursuits. Individuals maybe eager about you anyway when you consider that you're new so making neighbors could also be less difficult than you think! Just right success! :D
2016-08-10 14:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to push you in your decision but i would want to know why are you not going? Have you prayed about your decision and if so what was the answer? If you have not you should and also read the scriptures afterwards. I know people that did not go on missions but there some girls out there that will not marry anyone that has not go a mission.
2007-01-30 10:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by freedoma586 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Mormon too. Tell them when you think it's a good time.
but ask urself first, do you have a job? do you know where to go? do you have a place to live? etc. and tell them WHY you think that the mission isn't for you, give them a reason! they'll want to hear a reason. And pray and ask the Lord for his advice. I'm sure he'll know what's best for you.
2007-01-29 14:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by ★Donutz☆ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only think of of this as a risk for a sparkling start up! i'm additionally a shy man or woman yet try to be somewhat greater outgoing don't be afraid to be your self and consult with people!. i'm specific you will make lots of latest acquaintances :] additionally connect golf equipment and activities to fulfill people who've comparable pastimes. people could be attracted to you besides for the reason which you're new so making acquaintances could be much less annoying than you think of! sturdy success! :D
2016-09-28 04:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by carol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to move out, then make all your arrangements, rent an apt, and get your stuff packed (or almost packed) then tell them. don't give them a chance to talk you out of it or persuade you to stay. YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG. They will probably dissown you, but waht the heck, I'd rather be free than live in a concentartion camp with my family.
2007-01-29 13:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congrats on the independent spirit! Just tell them, and do it with love and care. The words will come.
2007-01-29 14:13:29 · answer #9 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
buy them KARTON of malboro n hand them 2 them when u tells them!!! that way they been happy n thinks bout smoking those tastly thingz!!!!
2007-01-29 13:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋