Can they tell me that I can't go places and that I have to be home at a certain time legally?
I don't party or anything..it's little things, like seeing a movie.
I am an adult now.
2007-01-29 14:56:06 · 23 answers · asked by morethanitseems 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You've heard the saying "My house, my rules" right? That pretty much holds true.
You ARE an adult now, but you're still living in your parents' house. Since they are (presumably) not making you pay rent, utilities or your portion of the grocery bill you're still operating at a parent/child level. This is normal, all through college I obeyed my parents rules while I was living in their house. (While I was in the dorms I did drink, stay out late and have boys over, but I had too much respect for my parents to push those boundaries in their home.)
If you think that you deserve more responsibility talk to your parents about it. They're far more likely to agree with you if you approach them rationally than if you just tell them "I'm 18, you aren't the boss of me anymore!"
Good luck working this one out... many families face this, and there are many different solutions, find one that suits both you and your parents.
2007-01-29 15:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by Nika 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, You are an adult, by law. You have the right to move out of their house ,get a job,get an apt. and pay your own way in the world and be free of any restraints or rules they set. Oh yea, you have to furnish this apt. if it isn't already. Then ya have to get in food staples,things you take for granted,like salt,pepper,ketchup,soft drinks,paper towels,femine hygeine items,soap,washing powder and of course a weekly trip to the laundrymat. Oh yea,all this freedom from curfews and being grounded costs so you need a job,at least a 40-50 hr week to pay for all this. Still in school,well now juggle that with a job to pay for your freedom and still maintain your future(cause highschool drop outs usually get remedial jobs) and so do entry level employees at minimum wage and see what kind of place you can afford and in what kind of neighborhood its in. Or you can abide by your parents rules and live comfortably. Because even on your own their are rules to follow and sleeping in on the weekends will be a thing of the past as you have to get to your jobs. Landlords usually have rules too,like no loud noises or radios or more than one visitor at a time after 10:00 pm. Now a few simple things at home with Mom and Dad doesn't sound so bad does it?
2007-01-29 23:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, I'm 19 and I'm going through the same thing. I'm very respectful to my parents and I don't party a lot, I just go out to the movies and hang out with friends. However, my parents like me home at a reasonable hour so I am respectful to their household rules. Basically, as long as I am under their house, their rules over-rule everything.
I think it's not so much a legal issue as much as a respect issue. If it's too much of a hassle or problem you could always move out.
Good luck! :)
2007-01-29 23:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
While they can't legally enforce anything, they can dictate what time you get home if you live in their house. I don't think it is right for a parent to treat an 18 year old like a child, but it's their house, so it's their rules. Sorry for the bad news
2007-01-29 23:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by elcidiv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are an adult and to lighten up a little. They may not be able to ground you but you do have to respect their rules if you live with them. If you can't take the rules, you are old enough now to get a place of your own or move in with a pal.
2007-01-29 23:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by jasperjazzy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you are an adult but since I assume you "are living under their roof", they can make demands of you and give consequences.
Legally no. But legally they can toss you out for not complying to their rules.
Try to act adult and discuss your issues respectfully. Maybe they will listen and ease off a little.
2007-01-29 23:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by Karrose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO STUPID legally you can make all the mistakes you want but why would you want to spit in the face of the only ones that love you enough to ground you? My granddaughter just did the same thing you want to. She told her father that loved her that this boy makes her happy but after catching him in many affairs and having a house on the side she's left him less her virginity. Her life is messed up don't make the same mistake she did. Your parents are just protecting you many parents don't care what happens to their children feel the love. There's plenty of time for you to screw up try to let them help you.
2007-01-29 23:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they can. Their house, their rules. I'm sure you probably hear that from them but it is true. Until you move out on your own you pretty much still live under the roof they provide you. It sucks some times but that is just the way it is. Believe me after 2 years of going to junior college and living under their rules, I couldn't wait to bolt to my 4-year.
2007-01-29 23:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by thoridiumh30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They shouldnt have a problem if you let them know where you going, You should have respect for them and they should have respect for you, but really you are still in there house so there rules apply. Becoming "18" doesnt me your grown, it just means leagally your parents are financially responsible for you any more.
2007-01-29 23:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by wonder woo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live in THEIR house? Are you financially dependent on them? Their house, their rules. Try to talk with them and negotiate rules you can both live with, but if you live in their house they do have a say. You are an ADULT when you are totally self-supporting and self-sufficient.
2007-01-29 23:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋