Family - December 2006

i live with my boyfriend of 2 yrs his cousins wife is always borrowing money and never pays back .she has borrowed over 350 dollars and has never attempted to pay him back .the only time she calls him is when she wants something .he asked what i felt about him loaning her more money and i told him that it was a bad idea .i think his kindess his being taken for granted.but i feel bad because i know we should help out others but i dont want him to be used anymore .was i wrong

2006-12-04 05:14:16 · 11 answers · asked by ANGEL L 1

I have been with my fiance for going on three years. We a son and I am tryign to finish school. My mom appears supportive, but when he couldn't find a job my mom kicked him out. Other than that she isn't mean about him. she says he has no work ethic, but he does when he finds a job.
His mom hates me and she has gone so far as to try to set him up with other people. No one is happy about us being together. Including our old friends. how do I handle this? I am a little passive but when I get mad you can't stop me, should I tell his mom off. Should I quit school and move in with him. Should I finish school and then us resume our life together? I mean we are still a couple and going to get married but he wants us living together. HELP!!!!

2006-12-04 05:13:18 · 7 answers · asked by blackwidow849 1

sometimes I feel like no one understands me or get where im coming from. where can i look for guidance?

2006-12-04 05:11:07 · 9 answers · asked by Queen_of_Miami! 2

All he wants to do is watch football every sunday and not hang out with me how can i get him away from FOOTBALL???

2006-12-04 04:51:31 · 12 answers · asked by Brtny 3

We Couldn't open more than one box of Cereal at a time. I thought that rule was pure B. S. and now I have about 4 to 5 boxes open my Step-mother would go nuts.

When I go home for the holidays she tries to enforce it and I respond with "I don't live here" ha ha

Tell me what I've won a mean stare from mom, and respect from my loyal younger brothers and sisters. Oh Yeah

2006-12-04 04:43:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Recently I moved back in with my mom to help her with my grandpa and to pay off some bills. My mom and I are best friends, but too much of eachother and we go at it. Recently my brother moved back in as well. My brother is horribly irresponsible and does so many things that are not right, but my mother doesn't really do anything to correct it. The other day she caught my brother snorting prescription drugs up his nose. It was like nothing had happened the next day after. Last night I borrowed a DVD of hers and went over to a friends house to watch it. I forgot it at my friends last night, and this morning my mom completely freaked out on me. When we fight, we yell at eachother. To get my point accross I feel like I have to scream. It's like when my brother screws up it's no big deal, but if I slip a little then all hell breaks loose. What is the problem here? And why do I always get the sh*t end of the stick whenever I am not perfect?

2006-12-04 04:25:44 · 17 answers · asked by M R 2

She graduated high school in May and within a week, moved in with a 26 yr old guy I never even heard her mention. She just disappeared and next thing I know, she was living with him. She had no job, no car, no money, is not on birth control. She has lost her mind.
My brothers wife fixed her up with a job, and I was taking her to work, trying to help her out. She did not show up for our family Thanksgiving because she couldnt see her boyfriend before he left for work if she came for supper. She manipulates me and I cannot handle her stupidity. Her boyfriend is a drunk and is not what I expected for her.
I am fed up, so I do not answer her collect calls anymore from the payphone at the gas station. She is living 5 miles away from home. I do not pick her up for work. I avoid her because she is bringing me down. I feel like I am enabling her to act irresponsible and disrespect our family.
Am I doing the right thing?.

2006-12-04 04:22:32 · 11 answers · asked by happydawg 6

All the memories I have that were great of my parents and me did not cost a thing. And these are the things that made the biggest difference. Riding with my grandfather on his tractor, sitting on my dad's lap watching Walter Cronkite, picking flowers and weeds, learning to make a garden, watching my pup have babies, my dad's laughter. I really don't get it today. I have to admit, that I grew up knowing we had some kind of cash, but my dad was tight and knew how to squeeze a penny. I'm the same way today. I don't get it. What's happening here?

2006-12-04 04:15:18 · 6 answers · asked by donewiththismess 5

To sum it all up i have a aunt 24 and i'm 18. we've known each other a year and i've only met her once so the phone is all we have i opened up to her because i wanted her 2 feel included in my life i took a while to realize that she never tells me anything about her life which i find to be pretty hypocritical she knows i have a bestfriend and she thinks because we're family i need to tell her everything going on in my life and i disagree with that. she has 2 bestfriends and i feel like she's all about her friends since she isn't real with me like she is with them it really bothered me when i picked up that she's been lying to me about things she didin't need to lie about for instance she'll tell me something and when i bring it up she says something different as if i don't remember what she told me originally. before i had a cell i use to call my friends who did and they'd call her for me or i would buy a calling card because she doesn't like calling my house i did all that for her

2006-12-04 03:57:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 14 year old daughter went to a friends house and snuck out to see this boy she likes. He is 18, I just found out that she slept at his house. So I am asuming that she is no longer as innocent as she was just 2 days ago. Her older sister goes to the same high school and is furious with this boy as well as her sister, I'm alsi furious but... I dont know what to do...do I have this kid arrested?We have warned him to stay away from my daughter already. If my other daughter tells her Dad what has happened my 14 year old will not be allowed to see the light of day.She is on an all star cheer team and this is a very positive thing for her to be doing right now, he will take this from her. What do I do? I dont know if I should have this kid arrested, do I tell her Dad? Help..............

2006-12-04 03:52:53 · 35 answers · asked by skipper 4

Hi,

My husband and I have been married 1.5 years. I'm pregnant with our first child, due in the spring.

Things between us are extremely stressful, in some ways because of the dynamic between his mother and me. She is so passive agressive! Every time she is over at our place or we're at her place, she takes over the disciplining of our puppy, interrupts me when I'm speaking, and says things to me that are extremely condescending. My husband is not sympathetic to my irritation, and gets frustrated with me when I share my irritations about his mother. I don't want to cause trouble but I am very concerned she is going to "bud in" once we have our child, and I want to set some good ground rules now! How do I tell my mother-in-law to back off without alientating her and all my in-laws and my husband?

Thank you!

2006-12-04 03:44:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-04 03:34:57 · 12 answers · asked by Llewellyn D 1

ANY suggestions will work

2006-12-04 03:29:51 · 12 answers · asked by mojoman1994 1

my cousin hates to bath we have personally talk to about this several times because the smell is getting ridiculos and she doesnt have no where to go because she lives with us what should we do when people come over im afraid they might think be one of us even though its her

2006-12-04 03:22:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am worried about my Dad, he is 56 and is in okay health. The only medicine he takes is one Asprin a day. My mom who takes almost 20 pills a day along with pain killers a few times a day is saying that she thinks my dad is in the beginning stage of Alzeimhers. There marriage has not been so easy my Dad works to death and my mom is not that responsiable with there money and that puts alot of strain on there marriage. My dad has been forgetting things like checks he wrote months ago, and his temper is very short. My dad has put up with alot from my mom she has been addictied to pain medicine she has been in and out of the hospital she is a negative and hateful person at times. Do you think I should be worried about Alzheimers disease or do you think my dad has had enough and could be experiencing depression or stress?

2006-12-04 03:20:31 · 6 answers · asked by Sari 2

He Like golfing. something that would tell him I care about him and something that isnt very expensive, like a golf ball but a cool looking one???

2006-12-04 03:08:42 · 4 answers · asked by shannon r 1

2006-12-04 02:54:17 · 13 answers · asked by Brittney G 1

I am excited for Christmas because I get to spend a few days with my family with absolutely nothing to do but enjoy our company. Have a few drinks, eat a lot of food, play a few games, go for a nice stroll in the snow with the dogs.

We normally spend Christmas with my family and then New Years with my wife's family. It's a compromise that works out well.

What are your traditions?

2006-12-04 02:35:43 · 8 answers · asked by KinfOfPly 3

Good morning, to make a long story short. Next year, my parents and I will be buying a house. They will have their floor and I will have my own floor to live in. The money that will be used to buy this home will come from a legal issue where my mother sued a company for chipped paint in the apartment. Anyway, the money was awarded to me 5 years ago and next year is when we buy a home.

However, I really wanted to live in my own apartment down in (NYC) Manhattan. I don't want to ruin their dream of living in a house what should I do. I really want them to live in a house. I want to pursue my goal of acting. I am 23, with a bachelor degree in computers. How do I tell them I don't want to live in a house? That I really want to live somewhere else.

2006-12-04 02:30:27 · 7 answers · asked by D 1

My huband and I were recently married in September of this year. We have been together for 6 years. My mother in law is all of a sudden making a big deal about the holidays. For instance she wanted us to go to her house this year for Thanksgiving and go to my moms next year.My husband told her this wasn't going to work because we want to be with both sides for the holidays. I offered to do Thanksgiving at my house so that we could all be toghether and she wouldn't have to feel that the holidays are a big rush. She refused my offer. So I thought we agreed on splitting the holiday we would go to her house at 11am and have appitizers with her. Her dinner was in the middile of the day and this year was our year to have dinner with my parents because last year we only got to spend a few hours at my moms. The night before Thanksgiving my MIL called my husband to discuss Thanksgiving and he must have told her agian about how our day was planned we would show up at 11 have appitizers and spend

2006-12-04 02:26:35 · 9 answers · asked by BabyDolll128 3

My mom hasen't I think that is harsh just a little to long to stay in your room don't you think!!!! I hope you respond to my question!!!

2006-12-04 02:23:22 · 6 answers · asked by Jessica C 1

Family history...abuse and ridicule from adult siblings. No one really gets along. I have a relationship with two siblings, one is going, the other is not. Had it out with sister planning the event over her lack of sensitivity (well, actually flat out rudeness to me). It's at her home. She and another sister are abusive verbally. Another sister is just unpleasant in general. My husband works 6 days a week for a total of 90 hours. Party is 2 hours each way on his only day off. I am opting out. I do get along very well with my parents but with just them and one nice sibling there, I really don't think the hardship of the drive is worth the trauma. What do you think. No abuse please. Just sincerity...

2006-12-04 02:17:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to get closer to my parents, but I just don't know how to do it; we've never been a really close-knit family, and now I think it might be too late. My parents are long since divorced by the way, so I need a way to connect with my mother, and another way to connect with my father (with whom I rarely speak).

2006-12-04 02:15:00 · 10 answers · asked by in_my2ndlife 2

Someone i hav'nt seen for years

2006-12-04 02:05:52 · 6 answers · asked by Charlotte W 1

My siblings are 50 and 54 respectively and are basically bums. They mooch off of my mother and soon she will not have a savings left. She already pays their bills and hands them over cash. When my father passed away my mother put my name on the accounts -- is their anything I can do to protect my mother? She feels sorry for my siblings -- but they have caused their own financial difficulty with drugs, alcohol, and gambling. Help!

2006-12-04 01:54:53 · 11 answers · asked by Isabel 1

Now I have nightmares a few times a week that my kids die, my parents, my husband, my other siblings. Now that it is Christmas time it seems like these emotions are compounded. He lived here and this Christmas will be so different with out him, I miss him so much and can't seem to shake myself out of this slump. Any advice would be apprecited.

2006-12-04 01:49:47 · 40 answers · asked by mikelizmarsh 1

2006-12-04 01:39:34 · 3 answers · asked by Brazilian 1

One of my friends has a 16 year old kid and she just reccently found out her husband abused him for 12 years. Sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse. She doesn't want to report him to the cops even though I told her that's the way to go.

2006-12-04 01:35:09 · 19 answers · asked by I think... 6

2006-12-04 00:58:17 · 6 answers · asked by You're giving it all away! 2

OKAYYY, SEROUSLY I HATE BOTH MY AUNT N MY MOM. MY MOM AND MY DAD HAD SEPERATED SINCE I WAS LITTLE BUT THEY KEPT GOING BACK AND DIVORCING WHICH WASNT THAT BIG OF A DEAL TO ME AND MY BROTHER.BUT NOW THEY'RE ARGUEING SOOO MUCH THAT I HAD TO LIVE W/ MY AUNT N MY UNCLE AND THEY LIVE IN HONG KONG. I HAVE ALSO LIVED WITH THEM BEFORE. SO BASICALLY THAT MEANS I HAVE ALMOST NEVER LIVED W/ MY REAL PARENTS.. MAYBE 3 OR 4 YRS. WELL MY AUNT BROUGHT ME HERE IS BECAUSE WHENEVER MY MOM ARGUED WITH MY DAD, MY MOM TOOK IT OUT ON ME. SHE USED TO HIT ME EVERYDAY N STUFF.

N NOW IM IN HONG KONG. I THOUGHT THINGS WOULD BE OKAYYY/ BETTER HERE BUT EVEN WORSE, I DUNNO. LATELY I HAVE BEEN HAGING OUT W/ ALOT OLDER GUYS, STARTED SMOKING N GETTING DRUNK N ****. N FOR SOME RELE WIERD REASONS I HAVE BEEN ARGUEING WITH MY AUNT LATELY. WE HADNT TALKED FOR LIKE 3 DAYS. N SHE CALLES ME *****/ WHORE/ N ALL THAT ****. I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE. help. PLEASE.

2006-12-04 00:54:59 · 32 answers · asked by blah blah 1