how to stop a fight in the house if somebody is old and her child is asking her to work?

Answer 1

more details needed....sorry.

Answer 2

So, the adult child wants the parent to work? Perhaps they could discuss what the stay at home parent can contribute to the household. If bringing in more money is an issue, then finding ways to cut expenses (like not eating out, planning meals, being frugal) could be a big contribution on the part of the parent. Working comes with its' own expenses, clothing, transportation, fuel, meals at work, plus the time spent commuting and the work waiting at home after. As far as stopping the fighting, communication between them is the most important. Can you get them to talk about what each of them needs most? If they try they may find their goals are the same, they just have different ideas of how to get there.

Answer 3

It depends on the circumstances.How old is old? Does she receive social security?How old is the child?There are many things here to consider.If this woman has worked her whole life to support her children and now is retired,then no she should not work.Some adult children are greedy and want their parents to support them forever.If it's her house then she needs to get rid of the child,if that child is grown.If she lives with adult children, then maybe she should consider a retirement home.Also, if she lives with an adult child and is not helping at all around the house, and is able to then the child should be asking her to do something.

Answer 4

That depends on how old the person is, their physical condition, why they are being asked to help. If the oldster is in good general health with mild to moderate health issues they should be encouraged to do a variety of activities including light housework such as dusting, folding laundry, etc. Activity keeps us vigorous and healthier---the old phrase "use it or lose it" applies in spades as we age. If however the oldster has many or severe health issues then they may not be able to perform many tasks. Get him /her a complete physical and discuss activity types and levels with their MD before starting on any activity program. It also helps to intersperse work with some fun (for them) activities.

Answer 5

How old is the woman and how old is the child? Frankly, maybe the child, if an adult, should live on his own and not try to dictate what the mother does. That being said, if the mother is not too old or infirm, she probably should work rather than expect to be taken care of by her child, if that's what the issue is.

Answer 6

You need to be more specific about the people involved and their motives. How old is this person, and what is their state of health? Maybe they should go back to work if they're incapable of supporting themselves. It's wrong to expect your child to sacrifice their own happiness to support you. Maybe that's not the case; maybe this young person is just selfish. Without the details I can't give a valid opinion or offer advice.

Answer 7

Take the older person aside and find out what the problem is, and may be by you being an outsider, you can give her a different prospective of the situation. and that the two of you can come up with a solution!

Answer 8

If the mother is at retirement age, call adult protective services now, because other things are probably going on as well.

Answer 9

how old...? unable to work either????
how young child is..?
generally, child (20+++?) should work and
let the old (60++) rest..
that is merit and kindness

Answer 10

Tell the kid to get a job... Or even better... Kick them both out...

Answer 11

you need to include more details