Good morning, to make a long story short. Next year, my parents and I will be buying a house. They will have their floor and I will have my own floor to live in. The money that will be used to buy this home will come from a legal issue where my mother sued a company for chipped paint in the apartment. Anyway, the money was awarded to me 5 years ago and next year is when we buy a home.
However, I really wanted to live in my own apartment down in (NYC) Manhattan. I don't want to ruin their dream of living in a house what should I do. I really want them to live in a house. I want to pursue my goal of acting. I am 23, with a bachelor degree in computers. How do I tell them I don't want to live in a house? That I really want to live somewhere else.
2006-12-04 02:30:27 · 7 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since the money for the house is coming from "...a legal issue where my MOTHER sued a company...", I'd say that the money that was awarded to YOU, really belongs to your mother.
If you don't want to live in a house with them, then you need to talk to them about what your plans are. You can't, however, expect them to offer any financial assistance in you obtaining an apartment. If they do, then you should consider this a bonus. I'd suggest opening up to them and telling them this information sooner, rather than later, as you moving to NY may put a crimp in their plans to buy a house.
2006-12-04 02:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who was the money really awarded to? You, or your parents? If it was you...the choice of how it is spent is entirely yours.....I do agree with the other answer...if your 23, have a degree....why not move now....get a job, get your apartment, pursue your dreams....and let the chips fall where they may when it comes time for the settlement distribution. Not sure I understand how...if it was awarded years ago...that you have to wait??? Been in a law suit situation before...and have never seen a result like this!
Somehow, I don't think your parents are gonna be angry with you for pursuing a dream! They are your parents and they will love and support your decision!
2006-12-04 02:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have to talk with mom and dad. there's nothing to be scared of. you are 23 years old and have the right to do what makes you happy. this is your future you are talking about. but, i feel that you should set mom and dad up in a house with some of the settlement money. after all, if all they are the one's that initiated the law suit for you to be awarded this money. tell them you will help them to find their dream home - but, not to look for one so big, that would put you into a position of having to live with them. all, they need for you is an extra bedroom with bath for when you visit, which will be often tell them; but, at this point of your life, you need to go out on your own and find YOUR dream. save your portion of the settlement, make this money grow for you, get your apartment in NYC and pursue your goal - if you don't, you'll wind up resenting your parents and, even, yourself. good luck. i hope you follow your dream.
2006-12-04 02:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them straight; they're you parents, they're not worried about themselves being happy, they want you to live your dreams. Besides, it's not till next year, so take you degree, go to New York, get a good job and start saving up, fool!
2006-12-04 02:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by in_my2ndlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well theres an alternative....if you can afford a small apartment for them then you can get your own home too...talk to them about it hun, i am sure you'll come up with some solution..maybe buy them a small bungalo with a nice little garden, then you can look for your own place for yourself...i think they will understand that you want to stand on your own two feet...you seem like a sensible young man..just suggest it to them before actually going out and buying the place....
2006-12-04 02:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them some time...
And give your self some time as well...
Imagine...staying with your parents for one more year won't harm you at all (on the contrary you will keepyour money for later and you will be able to work and raise some more) and you will keep them happy as well.... Think about it cause you seem to be quite attached to your family...Don't hurt them...
2006-12-04 02:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by Soulla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, say it frankly, and give reasons for that. if u can not, stay with them a while and tell to them what u want to do, but, i think if u said it from the first moment and in good one, they ll understand . it depends on the way u tell them, give examples on Ur friends or try to know if Ur dad lives once alone to make him understand.
2006-12-04 02:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by gentle whisper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋