I have been with my fiance for going on three years. We a son and I am tryign to finish school. My mom appears supportive, but when he couldn't find a job my mom kicked him out. Other than that she isn't mean about him. she says he has no work ethic, but he does when he finds a job.
His mom hates me and she has gone so far as to try to set him up with other people. No one is happy about us being together. Including our old friends. how do I handle this? I am a little passive but when I get mad you can't stop me, should I tell his mom off. Should I quit school and move in with him. Should I finish school and then us resume our life together? I mean we are still a couple and going to get married but he wants us living together. HELP!!!!
2006-12-04 05:13:18 · 7 answers · asked by blackwidow849 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should definitely finish school! Things will only get worse if you two have a kid, his work schedule is flaky, and you have no education and means of landing a higher paying job. Finish school!
I also think you need to put your mother, his mother and your friends on ignore so you can determine what YOU want to do about him and your relationship. I'm sure they only want what's best for you but they're not helping matters any. I think the most important thing for you to do is make the proper choices that will allow you to take care of your son as best you can.
2006-12-04 05:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you love him. However, do not give up finishing school because statistics have shown that the more education you have the more money you earn over a lifetime according to federal government statistics. For example, a high school graduate earns more than a high school drop out, and a college graduate earns more than a high school graduate. I know it is hard, but the best choice is finish school and then move in with him. It will benefit you in the long run to have your education especially since a lot of the better paying jobs out there require more than a high school diploma. Unless he is far, there is time you two can spend together when you are not in school or your son is in day care such as the weekends unless there is a lot of distance between you and your boyfriend. Good luck!
2006-12-04 14:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in school! Get a job, support yourself and you beautiful baby...then ask yourself if you really love this guy and want to spend the rest of your life with him.
It is soooooo important that you be self-supporting for you and the baby. That comes with education, sweetie. Life looks so different when you take a step back and look at how things REALLY are. It's not about "playing house" anymore. There's a real baby that has to be supported and loved. Right now, your baby comes first...and that means that you have become the adult and the "mommy".
Good luck and remember that what happens to you, happens to the baby too! Be strong.
2006-12-04 13:30:27 · answer #3 · answered by jarinnj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, first let me ask...how old are you guys? Why are you still living at home if you are having a son together?
I do not think these parents of yours hate you guys. They just want to see you be the best you can be. And finishing school is important. Don't you dare stop going to school! You will regret it later. Just ignore other people's opinions and live your lives. If it is meant to be, he will be there when school is finished....
2006-12-04 13:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So...are you in the US?
If so...Here's the best thing for your situation...
Get married and have him join the Air Force. There's no deployment, no sleeping in a tent for 3 months at a time, no extra duty, all medical and dental is paid for, and .... school is mostly paid for. You can still live with mom while he's in basic training (8 weeks) and tech school (depends on his "job"). Then, when he gets to his duty station...you can join him. You can have a house on base or they'll pay him extra to get an appartment off base.
email me if you want more details...it's the best thing, really.
2006-12-04 13:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely finish school first. If you are truly in love, the love will wait for awhile. It may be a little awkward right now, but if you are planning on spending your life together, consider this an investment in your future.
2006-12-04 13:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, he would want you to finish school, on the long run it would be best for both of you. If you love him and he loves you then forget about others that dont like you two being together.
Good luck.
2006-12-04 13:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by f_vidigal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋