i live with my boyfriend of 2 yrs his cousins wife is always borrowing money and never pays back .she has borrowed over 350 dollars and has never attempted to pay him back .the only time she calls him is when she wants something .he asked what i felt about him loaning her more money and i told him that it was a bad idea .i think his kindess his being taken for granted.but i feel bad because i know we should help out others but i dont want him to be used anymore .was i wrong
2006-12-04 05:14:16 · 11 answers · asked by ANGEL L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that isn't really helping our if they don't pay back. They oviously have their own brain to think, and they also have to earn their own money, just like everybody else!
Besides, if you have a real friend (withing a family member) then they wouldn't come just for the money.
If money comes between two people, that can only mean busines. Not Friend at the same time. Thanks for reading.
2006-12-04 05:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are entitled to your opinion, especially since he asked. But remember the old adage "Neither a borrower nor a lender be.."? When and if I give money to a friend or family member I never expect to get it back. It is a consumable product and will come back to you...not necessarily monetarily.
2006-12-04 06:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by telling him not to loan her any more money especially if she makes no attempts to pay it back and only comes around when she needs money. You said you and your bf reside together so I'll assume you pay bills together or split them 50-50 his first responsibility is to take care of his household not his cousins.
2006-12-04 05:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way. Youre just trying to help him because you care right. If somebody is using him then you should open his eyes and tell him. Theres nothing wrong with that.
2006-12-04 05:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my policy on loaning money is this:
either i absolutely do NOT loan money to anyone OR
i GIVE money with no expectations of being paid back
....this "rule" saves a-lot of hard feelings
2006-12-04 05:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are so right kinda like my sister she only calls if she needs something and its sad > You were totaly in the right to tell him no good girl!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-04 05:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by JINE GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no the person needs to show that they want to help themselves also. If not your just throwing in wasted help.
2006-12-04 05:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is an old saying "Never mix family with business" I follow that rule rigidly!
2006-12-04 05:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe so.... But he will do whatever he feels like.... Just don't get mad and rub it into his face if things go bad....
2006-12-04 05:16:51 · answer #9 · answered by JohnS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He asked.
2006-12-04 05:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋