I hate my MOM?

Question

OKAYYY, SEROUSLY I HATE BOTH MY AUNT N MY MOM. MY MOM AND MY DAD HAD SEPERATED SINCE I WAS LITTLE BUT THEY KEPT GOING BACK AND DIVORCING WHICH WASNT THAT BIG OF A DEAL TO ME AND MY BROTHER.BUT NOW THEY'RE ARGUEING SOOO MUCH THAT I HAD TO LIVE W/ MY AUNT N MY UNCLE AND THEY LIVE IN HONG KONG. I HAVE ALSO LIVED WITH THEM BEFORE. SO BASICALLY THAT MEANS I HAVE ALMOST NEVER LIVED W/ MY REAL PARENTS.. MAYBE 3 OR 4 YRS. WELL MY AUNT BROUGHT ME HERE IS BECAUSE WHENEVER MY MOM ARGUED WITH MY DAD, MY MOM TOOK IT OUT ON ME. SHE USED TO HIT ME EVERYDAY N STUFF.

N NOW IM IN HONG KONG. I THOUGHT THINGS WOULD BE OKAYYY/ BETTER HERE BUT EVEN WORSE, I DUNNO. LATELY I HAVE BEEN HAGING OUT W/ ALOT OLDER GUYS, STARTED SMOKING N GETTING DRUNK N ****. N FOR SOME RELE WIERD REASONS I HAVE BEEN ARGUEING WITH MY AUNT LATELY. WE HADNT TALKED FOR LIKE 3 DAYS. N SHE CALLES ME *****/ WHORE/ N ALL THAT ****. I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE. help. PLEASE.

Answer 1

Be patient...
Your story mad me sad but its was not ur fault...
you will get a good life...
If your are major its not at all a problem... u can come out frm u r mom..
But i dont think ur ..
n this is not fair on ur side even if she hates u u should not as dhe is your mom! anyway...
I wish u a good future.

Answer 2

You're obviously doing these things (drinking, smoking, etc, etc) because of the things that happened when you were younger. In order to get yourself back on the right path, you need to start talking to someone that can help you deal with your past. If you are in school, talk to your guidance counsellor, if you're not, then find a therapist or even talk to your aunt and tell her that you need help.

Straighten your life out now before it's too late. You've already taken the right step by realizing that you have a problem (whether you blame your parebts, your aunt or yourself). Now go out and get the help that you need.

Answer 3

If your old enough to move out and live by yourself do so. Get a job and leave your miserable situation. You are the only one that can make things better for yourself. In time if you wish reconciliation with your parents/family, that is your choice.

Talk to friends or other family members or even a doctor. Don't take anything serious that is posted on these forums. After all what do we know about your life, NOTHING.

Answer 4

I'm sorry that you are going through all that. but for your mom hitting you like that. you can call the authority its agains't the law.but your mom has been going through alot and i know its not your fault. and you should know that two. your aunt. well she cares about you. your hanging with an older guy smoking and drinking. she is just worry about you. you know you need to sit down with her and really talk. when she calls you a whore and that i think she's just mad and thats the first thing that comes out. you need some help go find a group that can help you.cope for whats going around you. its alot better than going with the older guy and drinking etc. thats not doing you nothing but bringing you down. good luck.

Answer 5

So sorry that you have had all of these problems. My parents divorced when I was a teenager, so I know how painful that can be. I, too, started doing things that I later regretted. I would suggest that you find a good Christian youth group to get involved in. You can have fun doing other things besides smoking and drinking and whatever. Anyway, these things just end up making you feel bad about yourself. Caution, though, not all teens in youth groups are walking in obedience to Jesus Christ, so be careful whom you choose for friends. Do not follow the crowd in doing wrong. God will help you if you ask Him.

Answer 6

I am sorry. You are obviously going through some painful stuff. By the way it's ALL a big deal!!
I assume you are a teenager. Like that's not hard enough! Please don't drink alcohol anymore. It only eases the pain and numbs the hurt momentarily. It will change who you are for the worse, I can assure you.

Can you please talk to your aunt and tell her how you are feeling . Do it sober and try your best to be calm. I know how hard that might be but you can do it! Be prepared, make notes . Tell her how you feel when she calls you names. Think of what you would like to see happen and voice it to her. You have to be calm, otherwise you won't be heard. Speak from your heart.

I wish you the best.

Answer 7

Clean up your life if you start like this your only whined up died some were. is this what you want from life, its in your best interest to sit down with you aunt and work things out she must care for you if she brought you all the way to Hong Kong, go to school keep you noise clean and brake the chain of whinding up like you mom.

Answer 8

There is really no way to help you, you have to learn to help yourself.

Clearly you have issues with self esteem, which is why you are drinking, smoking and hanging out with older guys. You need to find a way to love yourself, and appreciate your aunt for taking care of you. Whatever situation you are in now, it could certainly be worse. You could be living in some horrible foster home.

Answer 9

You need to get some help and quickly. There are allot of really good counselors available and I am sure they will help you find a safe place for you to live that you don't have to worry about being hit. I would let you live with us but we don't live in Hong Kong.

Answer 10

You need to go get some counseling and soon. Its not your fault things turned out the way they did. I hate it when adults treat kids this way. Go get some help because you dont want to smoke, drink, end up pregnant and become more miserable. You'll be ok, you just have to be strong, and find a friend that will help you, not make it worse.

Answer 11

I was there where you are now.I still do not talk to my Mother but I do look after her.My advice is this-
Watch out for looking for love from guys.You need a parents love and since you dont have that its easy to become easy.Sex is not love.
Stay in school and concentrate on getting a college degree.
You drink to numb your self of pain and anger,but watch out or you will take a wrong turn on lifes road and its not easy to get back on.
You need to grow up fast,watch out for yourself.If you do these things you will make it to a good place.
Good luck to you.