Do u agree with me keeping my distant?

Question

To sum it all up i have a aunt 24 and i'm 18. we've known each other a year and i've only met her once so the phone is all we have i opened up to her because i wanted her 2 feel included in my life i took a while to realize that she never tells me anything about her life which i find to be pretty hypocritical she knows i have a bestfriend and she thinks because we're family i need to tell her everything going on in my life and i disagree with that. she has 2 bestfriends and i feel like she's all about her friends since she isn't real with me like she is with them it really bothered me when i picked up that she's been lying to me about things she didin't need to lie about for instance she'll tell me something and when i bring it up she says something different as if i don't remember what she told me originally. before i had a cell i use to call my friends who did and they'd call her for me or i would buy a calling card because she doesn't like calling my house i did all that for her

we haven't talked in almost 2 months and i really don't feel like bothering to call her i feel that i should keep my distance with her can u blame me?

I feel hurt

Answer 1

Not every aunt is a good one and a good role model... I think you did the right thing by backing off... She is not in a position in her life to have a positive effect on you.
You should be talking with your very close friends who share their secrets with you....
You have made the effort to be honest and forthright and she rewarded you with dishonesty and evasiveness.. this is like a one sided friendship... I don't like them and I get rid of them.. Bravo, for you having the common sense to end this before there was trouble.....

Answer 2

This is an excellent lesson to learn about people's behavior. The first red flag regarding any person is that if they refuse to take steps to contact you for whatever reason, then they probably are not to be trusted. Second red flag would be asking too many personal questions and not telling you about them. The third thing is that your family as well as you haven't contacted this person ever until recently. I assume that it is for a reason that she is not a good person that your family has avoided her. Maybe her recent interest in you is just a way to try and create problems for your mother or father or whoever relative you may be close to. Stay away from her. Also if you see her or at some point she runs into you, act cool and casual and if she asks personal things then change the subject or just say 'this is not your concern'. Be guarded about giving out personal info especially if it can used negatively against you later. If someone repeats something ugly that she has said regarding your life, then you should be cool and say to them that she has problems and has been on psychiatric meds for years or make something up about her and people will also think she is weird. Also if she has ever said anything against your family then you should use that against her if she tries to turn them against you in the future. Believe me there are people who love to destroy people and hurt them for their own impersonal interests. You should avoid it but also think ahead and cover yourself because you made the mistake of telling her too much.

Answer 3

I think if you value who she is as a person , and she has qualities you miss when not talking to her, look past her in perfections, and just accept her for who she is. I have a best friend who rarely even asks how I am doing, and when she does she int erupts, and tells me all about her life. It bothered me, I confronted her about it, we didn't talk for months. However, I realized she is who she is, and we have been through many difficult times together, and I missed having her a part of my life a I have learned she is just self absorbed, and I have looked past that and value the good qualities she has, and dint get upset about it anymore, because I no longer expect her to be anybody other than who she is.

Answer 4

You can love at a distance, and that is very wise of you, on special occasions send her a card, for her Birthday, and Christmas, if she, or you feel to call, be brief, just say wondering how you are doing? Take care! Love you!

Answer 5

If you learn one thing in your life it should be this:

People do not think about you any where near as much as you think they do. People are way more concerned with themselves and their own lives.

You are living inside of your head, making things up, and the chances of things being as devious as you are guessing, is so unlikely.

Keep it light, relationships don't have to have drama in them. At least the good ones don't.

Answer 6

i totally agree with you. i have a aunt that does the same thing. and i didn't like it. so i stop telling her so much. and then sooner or later she stopped calling me. and now we only see each other sometimes. but it's nice. and when i do talk to her i keep it very light. nothing to deep. and why won't she call her house. that's stupid. she needs to grow up.well i hope you figure it all out.

Answer 7

If a relationship is not what you want it to be, let it die a natural death. Just see her at family gatherings. Maybe she feels like you're dumping your problems on her and she's just being polite since you're family. You just barely met after all.

Answer 8

No, I can't blame you. I can't stand people that don't give me the truth I deserve. If I'm worthy of being lied to, then I'm not worth much. Therefore, you don't have much importance in my life.

Answer 9

you can pick your friends but not your relatives, Forget her.Don't
let her upset you. You deserve better, good luck and happy holidays to you.

Answer 10

No.