Family history...abuse and ridicule from adult siblings. No one really gets along. I have a relationship with two siblings, one is going, the other is not. Had it out with sister planning the event over her lack of sensitivity (well, actually flat out rudeness to me). It's at her home. She and another sister are abusive verbally. Another sister is just unpleasant in general. My husband works 6 days a week for a total of 90 hours. Party is 2 hours each way on his only day off. I am opting out. I do get along very well with my parents but with just them and one nice sibling there, I really don't think the hardship of the drive is worth the trauma. What do you think. No abuse please. Just sincerity...
2006-12-04 02:17:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sweetie, the great thing about having your own family is that you can put their best interest before the interest of others. This is the perfect opportunity to do that....and you can do it without being hurtful to your sisters and parents in any way...unless you want to! :-) Your husband isn't an excuse or scapegoat in this situation due to the fact that his work situation is a valid reason why you should not attend. You are merely looking out for his best interest. How convenient that staying home and pampering your honey on his day off also allows you to avoid your ever abrasive family!
Call your sister and politely let her know that you will have to decline her kind invitation due to circumstances beyond your control. When she objects or informs you of your selfishness tell her, without missing a beat, that you would be selfish indeed if you were not to give your hardworking husband a rest and perhaps she might consider turning her judgment upon herself for expecting you to be that selfish just to satisfy her whims. Say a crisp goodbye and let her call the next hateful sister down the phone tree to gripe about you.
*Sigh* Some things you just can't escape. But you don't have to be walked on!
Good luck!
2006-12-04 02:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by dancing_in_the_hail 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont feel comfortable enough to go and you think that things will be a disaster, I wouldnt go, send a fruit basket or something and tell them you have other plans. Sorry you cant attend and just enjoy the time off with your husband, I used to not attend partys with my family due to abuse when I was younger and it wasnt pleasent when I did start attending, I always felt left out or like I was trying to hide from them, Now we get along but the abuser is no longer with the family. Good Luck in whatever you do.
2006-12-04 02:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TIGERS No i would not go cause even if you all liked each other that is not fair on the holidays to ytour husband. you could tell the sister you like to come over some other time to vist maybe. YT
2006-12-04 02:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by Amberwaves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have family I'm estranged from. No, don't go. It will ruin your holidays. Try to get together at another time with your parents and the family who are good.
2006-12-04 02:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not feel that you "have to" attend. You will be able to interact with your parents outside of this gathering, so why subject yourself (and your husband - might I add) to this trauma? Both of you need to kick back, relax and enjoy his day-off!
2006-12-04 02:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making the right decision. Stick to your guns and do not go. Instead, enjoy quality holiday time with those who you care about the most and those who care about you. It is the best holiday present that you can give to yourself.
2006-12-04 02:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by Joseph F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have good reasons not to go...but ur sister is trying to improve all the relationships and you not going would not be a step forward if anything a step back on your relationship w her and the others.....................on another note.... how does your husband survive? tell him to take a vacattion
2006-12-04 02:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by yea boy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go,its a family reunion.maybe they have change for the better
2006-12-04 02:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by jackass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth should you go? Just say no...
2006-12-04 02:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be wise not to go. Why torture yourself?
2006-12-04 02:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋