Family - October 2006

I am 27 years old. I came about as the result of an affair my Mom had when my parents were having a rough time (they divorced 2 years later).

My dad has always known, yet he accepted me anyway w/o hesitation.

We have completely different personalities and physical features, so I've known all my life, but I was told at age 13.

My biological father's family, specifically his mother and brother, were in the picture when I was a child, but we stopped speaking around the time I found out.

I have no one I can talk to about this. My mother's family is non-existent (plus we're on bad terms now), and my father's family is so different, I can't relate to them, even though we get along well.

I have a very strong sense of loyalty to my dad, and I feel that connecting with my "hidden family" is a betrayal. Yet, I have a feeling that I'll learn more about who I am and finally find people like me if I do talk to them.

Can I connect to them without betraying my Dad? Should I?

2006-10-22 17:33:28 · 15 answers · asked by mr_buurd79 1

its hard to let go of my x boyfriend because we lived together and dated for a couple of yrs. but he was using hard drugs and lying to me...then he quit and started again. i think its really hard for me to be ok when things dont work out. our relationship became abusive b/c i was lied to so much and i went and feel crazy. now he hates me and thinks i'm psycho. i was really scared adn sad for him and wanted to help him but now i am just infuriated with him. i know i messed up in the relationship too b/c of my anger but i just am still obsessed. now he tells me hes not using but he hangs out with shadey people who do use adn got him into it. its just all a mess adn we live in close proximity to each other. i always want to open my heart to him but then i think i am so stupid for caring about him and i then get mean and angry and unpredictible. it sucks and i want out but sometimes i still miss him adn he wont get his crap out of my house which makes it harder. and i get so sad.

2006-10-22 17:12:50 · 6 answers · asked by shannon l 1

well, my mom is overprotective when it comes to me dating guys (even though im not allowed to date til im 15 or 16, so i can't date anyone yet; im only 14.) well, my mom says that if a guy wants to date me and/or be my bf, he has to come to my house and do a 2-hour "interview" with my mom, to see if he's ok for me to date! and its not like hes interviewing for a job!!! and my mom also says that if he and i go to a movie, she would sit in between us!!!X(
this is so unfair!!! my mom is normally not like that when it comes to other things! what should i say to my mom?:(

2006-10-22 17:03:51 · 11 answers · asked by Rachelnpl 2

My cousin is in prison and I want to write him a letter. We have never been that close my life is really boring and I have never been good at writing letters.I thought about sending him some inspirational quotes or something. Does anyone have some ideas of things I could say or do?

2006-10-22 17:03:09 · 3 answers · asked by EX 2

I tell my sister everything & when she gets pissed at me she back fires & says every ****** up personal **** I told her...For example I told her about my bf & when she was pissed she said "He's probebly cheating on you anyways!" **** like that...She's done this more then once...I don't think I can trust her anymore..but she's all I got to talk to really...I don't have anyone else....Should I trust her???Even though when she's pissed she says messed up stuff..?

2006-10-22 16:54:50 · 15 answers · asked by Savanna 2

in the atlanta, georgia area and if they are low income what do they find enjoyable to do on a daily basis. What type of housing do they find cost affordable and what areas.

2006-10-22 16:48:17 · 3 answers · asked by Ellen J 2

2006-10-22 16:32:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is the age requirement in Nevada to be able to babysit or to stay home alone.

2006-10-22 16:12:35 · 11 answers · asked by celticday 2

I noticed kids these days are always yelling at and talking back to their parents. Whatever happened to the good old Cleaver family days when kids always did what they were told and had alot of respect towards their parents?

2006-10-22 15:54:46 · 31 answers · asked by therealstar86 1

My little sister is so nosy and obnoxious. She act's like a little brat, always trying to get me in trouble. She goes through my stuff, shows my mom whatever she thinks can get me in trouble and now she acting like her spoiled @$$ friend. HOW DO I STOP THE MADNESS WITHOUT STRANGLING HER!!??!!

2006-10-22 15:50:25 · 14 answers · asked by sexygamerbeast 2

I'm 19 and I have a small infant baby that I am breastfeeding and my sister has a small baby as well that I am taking care of for a few days while her and her husband are out of town. Tommorow me and mom are going to go to the mall and shop for baby clothes and some other things. Well, I know I will need to feed the babies then so I figured I could breastfeed them both at the same time. I know this will require a little more modesty but I think I can cover myself pretty well. My mom thinks this is a bad idea though. What should I do?

2006-10-22 15:44:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been in love with a co-worker for over 2 & 1/2 years now. We can not be together due to company rules. We dated descretly for a while, but the risk of of job loss is too great. Also, it complicates things because we see each other daily at work. Sometimes we have lunch together or do things as friends. When i am with him I am feel so good and so happy. Even if it is only watching TV, playing vedio games or just hanging out.
I try not to think of him, but I always find myself compairing others to him in the back of my head.
I am in the process of going back to school so that in a few years I can work somewhere else.
Am I crazy, to think we can be together then? Why can't I move on? He has never told me that he loves me. But I know I love him.

2006-10-22 15:43:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2006-10-22 15:43:41 · 1 answers · asked by amy n 2

I am ordering a ring for my boyfriends mom at Zales.com, I was wondering if anyone knew if I order the ring online, if I will still get a free resizing, like more jewelers do if you buy a ring at the store? Thanks!

2006-10-22 15:43:06 · 2 answers · asked by sweetpeaberry42 2

I do not want to pay to join a geneaolgy service just to know a date of death.

2006-10-22 15:40:48 · 5 answers · asked by JuJu 1

ok, my dad is dating a monster. he even wants to marry her.he spends less time with me.

2006-10-22 15:39:30 · 8 answers · asked by soccer_blue_chica 1

2006-10-22 15:37:23 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-22 15:36:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My younger brother is treated like a prince in our household and I can't stand it. Call me immature, but it bothers me so much. My older sister (by the way, I'm the middle child) and I were always good students and generally good kids. Somehow the genes didn't pass on to my brother. He constantly stays up late and makes everyone help him with his homework without even trying it himself. That is, if he does the homework at all. Um, I have my own homework to worry about without having to do his. Basically, he gets away with ANYTHING and my parents just let him do it. Whether or not I should care, I do. What are your opinions? (I beg you to refrain from insulting me)

2006-10-22 15:34:43 · 11 answers · asked by kid_at_heart 3

I've heard people gain weight once there married and comfy...ive put on proably a good 20 pounds big deal nothing a quick diet wouldnt fix...Well my husbands grandmother makes it sound horrible...she keeps calling me big and when me and my husband were playing around shes like be careful she can take you out...and shes just really rude about it. I know for her i wasnt proably her pick for him because he used to date this girl amanda and everytime she comes over she talks about amanda hasnt gained any weight and shes still single...its really bothers me and my husband tells me to ignore that shes old....but dang sometimes its hard to bare.....should i be offended or not? and what do i say??!??! shes not a skinny woman either but granted shes 60 years older then me....im going to just lose the weight before the holidays but dang...shes mean...

2006-10-22 15:30:15 · 21 answers · asked by cutenwild1769 5

I've started living on my own about a year ago, everything is fine but the only problem is that I always seem to have trouble when it comes to meal time. For a year now, I've been going out to fast-food, Chinese food, Mexican food, etc... and find that it is not all that healthy.

My question is, to anyone who have lived alone in the past, how do you feed yourself? Do you cook or do you dine out? I'm a single male attending school and work full time. Is it wise to cook for "one" single person? Or should I just dine out? Please share your thoughts.

2006-10-22 15:23:10 · 9 answers · asked by Inquisit 2

Has anyone lost their mother recently and what are you doing to deal with it? I just lost my mother, and between dealing with the attorneys and arrangements I feel numb, I've shed so many tears, but it doesnt feel real, how long can this last?

2006-10-22 15:20:50 · 14 answers · asked by preshus 3

My mom is really nice, and I love her, but sometimes she's really embarrasing because she has a small bladder. Whenever we go somewhere and stop to fill our gas tank, she always goes inside to find a bathroom, and I know that when you gotta go you gotta go, but it's really annoying! I really wish she would just go find one and not say anything about it, because even if we're not with anyone it's really embarrasing. Sometimes she even asks me if I need to go, and that's even worse, especially in front of my little brothers. Please, can someone give me some advice on dealing with this?
Thanks!

2006-10-22 15:20:15 · 32 answers · asked by shyviolet 3

Hi Everyone, I need some advice. My husband's father is a chain smoker and has lived in/smoked in his house for about 30 years without ever having the carpets/furnature/ducts cleaned. I now have a 6 month old baby girl. Although my father-in-law doesn't smoke around my baby, I have concerns about having my baby in his house.
The one time my daughter was in his house (for a total of about 10 minutes) we both left there reeking of smoke even though he didn't smoke around her.
I'm asking because we usually have Christmas at his house and I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I also don't want my baby exposed to 30 years of nasty old smoke. I also have a history of asthma, which I don't want my baby to develop.
I guess what I'm asking, how do I handle this without hurting his feelings? He's a wonderful person and I love him very much, but he will probably never stop smoking.
Any advice and personal experiences would be great!
Thanks!

2006-10-22 15:19:46 · 4 answers · asked by CatTech 3

My daughter's father,who rarely calls me,just called and i'm confused as all hell right now because he was saying that when i move out near him again he wants to start taking me out to the club and stuff,which is a little weird to me and he asked how his daughter was and warned of me of a few things that might happen to her that happened to his other daughter when she was younger and also said that i don't have as many issues as other people and he didn't realize that until after we weren't together anymore.Long story about why we broke up but his family hasn't seen the baby yet and i spoke to his sister and she said she really missed me and wanted to see the baby and his older daughter wants to see her too and i feel so bad that things turned out this way.Anyways he said he's gonna start making more of an effort to call and talk with me and i'm confused.Does he want to be friends for the baby's sake or does he want to be a family?I don't understand...Can someone help??!!

2006-10-22 15:14:42 · 7 answers · asked by serenity 2

2006-10-22 15:03:49 · 25 answers · asked by Harleygal 2

I'm turning 19 next month. I have a 3.8 GPA in college working on two degrees. I work full-time (about 60 hours a week). The apartment we're living in is under my name and I pay half, or more than half, of the utilities. The thing is, my mother is extremely controlling. She doesn't want friends calling my cell, or my even hanging out with them. Those are friends that she doesn't even know personally. Sometimes she makes suggestions and expects me to accept them or she'll get super pissed and then start yelling and/or never ends the lecture.

The other day, we were discussing careers and she said if I didn't take this and that career, she'd be super disappointed in me.

I have a boyfriend now, and if she finds out she'd start another 3-day argument until I leave him. She hasn't met him yet because she never gave him the chance to stop by our place. How can I tell her I have a BF without having her freak out?

I know parents want the best for their kids, but this is too far.

2006-10-22 14:58:27 · 9 answers · asked by ? 1

I have to make a confession to my dad. I have to tell him he needs to send me 15K more for my college tuition because the 15K he sent me before...I gambled away in 2 months(cries)...I know it will hurt him and I waited to see if I could win it back but that has not been possible and I cannot wait a day more (cant gamble anymore) or I will fail in my classes...I wish I was so rich that 15k was not a big deal but it is. My 56yr old dad has to now send my stupid *** more money its so sick...I did this mistake before also and spent 10K and promised I wont do it again so I have let him down.

Please tell me how can I make this confession - Please I am distraught...I know once I graduate and get a good job...this money wont mean much but I want my father to love me and trust me...I dont wanna make any mistakes in this important conversation....yet I am confused as to how to go about it...what is your advice and suggestions!

Thanks!

2006-10-22 14:55:13 · 6 answers · asked by Shah 1

What's your reason for doing it?

2006-10-22 14:36:07 · 13 answers · asked by cherry 1

He has been talking alot about getting a Xbox 360 but changes his mind quite a bit. He has wanted one for a while but now he doesn't know what he wants.. Any ideas?

2006-10-22 14:31:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous