How can I deal with a brother who gets away with everything?

Question

My younger brother is treated like a prince in our household and I can't stand it. Call me immature, but it bothers me so much. My older sister (by the way, I'm the middle child) and I were always good students and generally good kids. Somehow the genes didn't pass on to my brother. He constantly stays up late and makes everyone help him with his homework without even trying it himself. That is, if he does the homework at all. Um, I have my own homework to worry about without having to do his. Basically, he gets away with ANYTHING and my parents just let him do it. Whether or not I should care, I do. What are your opinions? (I beg you to refrain from insulting me)

Oh yeah-if I try to tell him to get to work or go to bed, my parents yell at me, saying "It's not your job!!" Well, if it's their job, why the hell don't they do it??

Answer 1

It sounds like your parents live in fear of your brother one day getting violent against them for being parents. This is horrible on there part and I feel for all those who are in his way through his struggles to grow and mature as a productive member in our society.

I was brought up with an older sister and she would beat me up anytime she felt. I had no father and my mother was afraid of me too. Twenty years later I still suffer from not having any discipline as a youth. As a mature man now, I would be appreciative to look back on my mothers discipline knowing it would have been for my own good. Now I live with regret from not having social skills, a girlfriend or a good jobs in life.

I can understand you have feelings for your sibling. Blood is thicker than water and as someone already said, be thankful you have family. I to suffer from lonely holidays not having siblings or a family of my own.

All I can suggest is you be the parent! In the long run he will respect you for helping him grow to a mature well mannered, respectful member of the society we must all get along in. Your parents may not like it but hopefully one day they will mature enough to know you did the right thing too!

Answer 2

I cannot tell you what to do, but your question made me think of the movie " Ferris Beullers Day Off." It think you would relate to Ferris's sister.

Because I have no siblings all I can say be happy you have a brother (and sister.) As you get older, especially after leaving your parents' home and making your own way in the world, family is a good thing to have. The holidays can be a lonely time for me some years.

Answer 3

Unless you are being forced to help him by your parents, stop doing it. Keep yourself busy with your own projects for a while. Maybe when his grades drop because you and your sister are no longer doing his homework for him.
Why don't you copy this question, and the answers you get and show to your parents later if they question why the change in your and your sister's attitudes.
He's probably a good boy, just spoiled by everyone, and most people will take the easy road if it is offered to them.

Answer 4

reality is, on the instant, save your nostril sparkling, concentration on your training, get a job, and fulfill the standards mandatory to get right into a school you are able to stay at. you would be out of your place quickly adequate once you're extremely sixteen, so which you will no longer might desire to handle this lots longer. additionally, karma will hit him, whilst he's older he won't know limitations. Odds are he will have a complicated time forming relationships, and if he assaults people he will finally end up in penal complex. by way of the way, in the adventure that your sister is being hit, call social centers. i'm no longer advocating calling them, despite the fact that if, if it extremely is spanking that would not leave a mark.

Answer 5

Let me take one good guess you must be somewhere in the middle of your siblings and you feel left out right....your parents let him get away with things because he is the baby and no matter what you say you will not be able to change the circumstances....I feel what you are saying because I myself was in that same situation when i was growing up......Don't let yourself become your brother's cruth because he will play that role many times and you will take pity in him and do all you can to try and help him.....

Answer 6

my sibs are the same way.
problem is..my parents don't see it.
they just pretty much WHINE telling them to stop. which drives me nuts..because i know they have the power. they just don't use it.

but hey. depends on how old he is.
if he's over 10..do what the first post-guy-dude said and shove socks in is mouth. that's ridiculous.

if he's younger then 10...then hurry and straighten him up now, before he's too old and "wise" to listen. good luck♥

Answer 7

Being the middle kid means you do well as a negotiator. You deal with different personalities well. If your younger sib. does get away with allot get a camera phone. Mom and Dad can't deny the fax.

Answer 8

Talk to your parents about it. More than likely they'll blow you off, but persevere until they tell you they don't want to hear anymore about it. Then you'll just have to deal with it the best you can. Remember adversity builds character.

Answer 9

Same with my sister just wait once he gets himself in a mess your parents will get harsher it works trust me.

Answer 10

you can deal with your brother by sometimes overlooking him so he doesn't mess with you or you can start by taking charge and become strict on him and that is how an older sister would deal with her little brother.