well, my mom is overprotective when it comes to me dating guys (even though im not allowed to date til im 15 or 16, so i can't date anyone yet; im only 14.) well, my mom says that if a guy wants to date me and/or be my bf, he has to come to my house and do a 2-hour "interview" with my mom, to see if he's ok for me to date! and its not like hes interviewing for a job!!! and my mom also says that if he and i go to a movie, she would sit in between us!!!X(
this is so unfair!!! my mom is normally not like that when it comes to other things! what should i say to my mom?:(
2006-10-22 17:03:51 · 11 answers · asked by Rachelnpl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sounds like it is probable that she was betraied or got pregnant at a young age, you have the unfortunate task of proving to her that you are smart enough to know better and understand the consequences of sex and all that. this will be a long hard task, you need to talk to her (Don't argue) just chat about it. that way she will see you know how to take care of yourself in that. that is the only way to overcome it.
2006-10-22 17:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by daggermouth 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go easy on your mom. She was young once to and she knows that when guys hit puberty they have sex on their minds. Believe it or not, your mom may have experienced some things with guys when she was your age that may not have been all that innocent. We live in times now where sex is promoted everywhere you look, television, radio, video games and even cartoons. I know you feel that your mom is out to get you but she is not. She is only trying to protect you, even though you don't feel you need protecting. What you must always remember is that guys will come and go but your mom will be their for you always. I will be praying for you. Peace and God bless.
2006-10-23 00:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by cave man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is NOT over protective, that is smart. You should be glad your mom loves you enough to bother.
With all of the garbage going on in the world, your mom is showing the common sense you lack at your age.
I say GOOD GOING MOM!!!!!
Give your mom a break, it's good be loved & in case you're wondering, us mom's like to hear the words....
THANKS MOM & I LOVE YOU MOM!!!!
Practice these & then use them often. Most moms would kill for their kids & die for them. If that is over protective, then you have a long hard road ahead of you.....
2006-10-23 00:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly set down and talk with your mother about this tell her you love her and that you understaind she loves you and wants to protect you but you feel she's going a little over boerd and that you would like it if you two could talk and work something out that would work for the both of you like if a guy want to be your bf or take you on a date go ahead and bring him over so she can get to know him not for an interview but just so she can get to know him and see if she likes him even if she doesn't that you'd like her to trust you because you wouldn't do anything with him and if she's so worried that she wants to set between you I would say look mom what if we go on a dubble date? me and my friend would that work you need to do this calmly and explane to her your still her little girl ( seeing as it seems she's so worried about you growing up to fast ) and let her know nothing is going to happen! that she needs to let you grow up and that you love that she wants to protect you but that she can't always do that and she needs to give you a little room to grow.
2006-10-23 00:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Start out with making her feel bad. Ask her what did you do to make her not trust you? And tell her that you could invite the guy over to your house to meet your family a couple times and if she said it was ok then you could go out or something. Or you could do what i did and say your going with one of your girl friends and meet him at a movie or somewhere and you and your friends could double date! You probablyt won't feel bad for doing it if thats what your worried about because your mom really is being totally unfair!
2006-10-23 00:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley W 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're a minor.....she's the Mother.....she makes the rules.
You can fight her on this and make both of you miserable or you can do what she asks and make your relationship with her better.
Even though you don't want to hear this....she loves you and it's her job to protect you. Let her do her job.
Note.....some parents don't allow dating until the last year of high school so you're lucky.
2006-10-23 00:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is wrong. She should not have told you that the guy must submit to a 2 hour interview.
What she should have said was: "No, you can't date until I decide that you are ready. When that time comes, I'll tell you."
2006-10-23 00:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by asperens 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remind her that you wont be dating, until you're 16. That once you're 20, you would be glad to move out, and make your own decisions.
2006-10-23 00:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like my kind of mom... wish we had more of those out there kids wouldnt be so messed up...
2006-10-23 00:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
dear friend..... i tell you ..i am a guy of 27 ... i am by grace of god i am a man(with a great character) .but i tell you ......most men and boys are not so good ....well your mom saves you from bad people...its not unfair
infact you must be thankfull to her
2006-10-23 00:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by greatmangentletrue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋