its hard to let go of my x boyfriend because we lived together and dated for a couple of yrs. but he was using hard drugs and lying to me...then he quit and started again. i think its really hard for me to be ok when things dont work out. our relationship became abusive b/c i was lied to so much and i went and feel crazy. now he hates me and thinks i'm psycho. i was really scared adn sad for him and wanted to help him but now i am just infuriated with him. i know i messed up in the relationship too b/c of my anger but i just am still obsessed. now he tells me hes not using but he hangs out with shadey people who do use adn got him into it. its just all a mess adn we live in close proximity to each other. i always want to open my heart to him but then i think i am so stupid for caring about him and i then get mean and angry and unpredictible. it sucks and i want out but sometimes i still miss him adn he wont get his crap out of my house which makes it harder. and i get so sad.
2006-10-22 17:12:50 · 6 answers · asked by shannon l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You want to still be with him because it's comfortable....you know what to expect.
But this will keep you stuck right where you are forever.
Life is about moving in a positive forward direction.
You're not moving anywhere with this guy......let it go and move forward.
In writing give him a time-frame to move his stuff and tell him after that you're donating it to charity.....then do it.
2006-10-22 17:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I can relate to ya, same thing with me I;m havin a hard time to,I feel so foolish by my anger &insecurity. he called me psyco 2 ,but u gotta realize he alot of guilt so he is gonna shift the blame on u so he can justify what he has &is doing. Dont let him make u feel that way ur better than that.I dont no what 2 say about gettin over him cuz I;m trin 2 do the same thing,yes it hurts alot huh.All the sh-- that comes w/the drugs isn't anything good(lyin,cheatin,scamin,mood changes,accusin,blamin,&if u r becomin a problem or interferin w/ wut he;s doin then ur gonna be the 1 that is the problem not the drugs. sorry u r goin threw this as well its not easy ,&it does hurt, but u need 2 remember that ur not psyco& u have dam good reason 2 b mad.dont beat ur self up like i did,just work alot or keep urself busy so u dontfall back.if u like 2talk email me & i would luv 2 b ur friend & we can go threw this 2gether k take carefrom mysef
2006-10-23 03:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by angel w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't change him, but you can change how you choose to deal with him,he leaves his stuff because he can come back any time he wishes, your co dependent with him, trying to help him but you can't help him. you need to consentrate on you and help yourself. run as fast as you can away from this man, he will only destroy you, and than you will wake up an old lady one day and see how you have wasted the years on something that you had no control over in the first place.you aren't responsible for him or his problems.he will never be the man you need to feel complete, he is way too selfish.this is not your problem, don't buy trouble when it's not yours.
2006-10-23 00:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a decision to renew your life withOUT him.
Then stick with it. You cant let go, because you WANT to believe him. But if you look at it realistically, it will never work, and you're ruining you life. As the ole saying goes..... $hit or get off the pot!
Do something for yourself. That means losing him for GOOD!
2006-10-23 00:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks if he has a key. Move his stuff outside.
Decide whether this guy is good or bad for you, and live with your decision.
2006-10-23 00:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by asperens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when thias happens it will happen again i speak this from past experance and belive me it will happen again l lifes to short to live like that move on to better things . in my opion?
2006-10-23 00:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋