Has anyone lost their mother recently and what are you doing to deal with it? I just lost my mother, and between dealing with the attorneys and arrangements I feel numb, I've shed so many tears, but it doesnt feel real, how long can this last?
2006-10-22 15:20:50 · 14 answers · asked by preshus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I lost my mom a few years ago. I cried oceans of tears and still do at times, like Mothers Day and her Birthday. I talked about her alot to my friends and I compiled a box of special things. Letters she wrote to me and birthday and Christmas cards. I put a special photo album together, of pictures of her. Surround yourself with things of hers, it brought me alot of comfort. Even keep a journal of special times you had together. I read these things when I am down and it brings me comfort.
2006-10-22 15:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't lost my mother, but my friend's mother has breast cancer and is currently in chemo. I understand the feeling... nothing feels real anymore, and you're sure that you're going to wake up in a few minutes and the nightmare will be over. Show your feelings. Let all the tears fall so that you can't cry anymore, and try talking to someone about it. Have a close friend come over and talk to them about it... hugs and cuddles are the solace of the wounded at heart. I'm afraid that this may last for quite a while... do the best that you can at continuing your normal life, but keep her in mind. It's impossible to completely let go, but you can try to live your life the way that she would want you to and pray for her each night. Remember that when you're crying here, she's crying as well for you where ever she may be. I'm crying for you as well. Please don't be so sad. I know that's a difficult request, but with the help of your friends and family I think that you will be alright, even though right now it may feel like the end of the world and that nothing's going to be the same ever again. But remember that while you may have lost a person, you have gained an angel. I wish you the best.
Amelia
2006-10-22 15:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by stratocaster lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this, I have lost someone close to me, and it hurted 4 a while, and at times it still hurts. The way that I dealt with it was by being grateful for that person while they were here and the many GREAT times that we shared together and remembering their contributions to my life, what they have taught me and etc. Just the fact that I had the opportunity to know them is a blessing in itself.
During that difficult time I also thought of all the other people and blessings that I already had, cousins, bestfriends, and other family members, who also helped me TONS!!!!!. Although no one can take the role of a Mother I think that you will have both good days and bad days, Personally I do not think that she would want you crying allllllll the time.
Also, if you believe in a higher spiritual power it helps TONS!!!
Hope this Helps!!!!!
2006-10-22 15:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry hon.I remember well what it was like when I lost her.It's been five years now but can remember it as if it were yesterday.I have a big family,3 sisters and 2 bros and I'm so thankful we all had each other. There are times even after all this time I feel like I just want to lock myself in my room and cry,but I have to stay strong for my kids.I have made sure they remember her,they were 2 and 4 when she died,I have pics all around and there's not a week that goes by that one of my kids mentions her.The first year is always the toughest,I also compiled a memory box full of things,one was a recipe she had given me some yrs back in her own handwriting,and I remember a few mths after I sat down and wrote her a letter and put all my feelings in it and sealed it up and put it away.Sounds strange but it helped.i was put on celexa for first year.Had to,couldn't funtion for the kids.It takes time,the pain will never go away but it will get better,and try to always keep your memories of her deep inside your heart.I'll be thinking of you.
2006-10-22 16:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for your loss preshus ~ when my Dad passed away it was also so very difficult for me, he had cancer and was expected to live 6 months and it ended up only being one month. We were very close and it took me a good year before I could see a picture of him and not cry or feel bad. I cried too for a long time - little things would set me off- he was a huge race fan so that would make me sad, or without thinking I would pick up the phone cuz I thought of something that I knew my Dad would love to hear and than remember he wasn't there anymore to tell! All i can tell you is that it honestly just takes time to heal- take it one day at a time and it will get easier!!
2006-10-22 15:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like forever but keep this in mind. You will come out of the numbness eventually. Let the grief take it's course. The more you fight back the grief process the longer it will take. Consult a grief counselor or sit in on a grief share group. They will be able to explain the process of grieving. This knowledge alone is a big step forward in the healing process. And either course will help you cope with the process.
My condolences, may the remembrance of your mothers life bring peace to your heart. Their legacy resides in their loved ones.
2006-10-22 15:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by BP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fully understand your pain. It was huge for me to lose my mother and worst yet was all the things that went on after that I had a tough time with. A friend got me a Book called "Surviving the Loss of a Love" It was good to assist me in letting go, but the paperwork was always there!
Sorry again for your loss, keep your chin up!
2006-10-22 15:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my mother about an year or so...
still miss her but now it is not a gnawing pain.. it is more like i l b doing something and remember something she would v said or her perfume or her smile or her strength through all the troubles... and then i smile.
sometimes it hits me like a bag of rocks.. and i can not move on at all.. i get paralysed...
all the advice i can offer u is take it one day at a time...
2006-10-22 16:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by silverfox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your loss. I've lost a baby years ago. Just take one day at a time. I just kept saying "he was very sick and he just couldn't live like that". Keep saying something simple to yourself. Nothing is really going to do wonders for you. Just go from day to day.,
2006-10-22 15:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for your loss, It has been six years for me , but I still remember the hurt , All I can say is allow yourself the time ,it will get easier but will not be over. It is true that you will keep her in a place in your heart forever.
2006-10-22 15:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋