Family & Relationships - 30 December 2007

Basically earlier this yr my gf told me she was pregnant after a few arguements,about 5 months went by not once had she prooved she was pregnant or looked it to be infact and never went for scans then around august time she went away for the weekend with what i was told wer m8s she never rang me once while away ,she came back arguement broke out because of this the following friday she dissapppeared for 2 weeks leaving me worryig wer she had gone
it was over a month b4 i found out what she had been up to turned out she met a lad online n went stayed with him fo weeked n then the 2 weeksn slept with him twice acording to the lad she sed she did it cos she lost baby arguements went on but i forgave her, recently i cort her on the net flirtin with lads again and 1 was convinced he was goin out with her i spoke to him on the phone and they wer planing to meet once he kew about me he called it off, i really love this girl and been wid her 3 yrs b4 trouble any ideas ,Thanks in advance

2007-12-30 17:15:27 · 8 answers · asked by Rage 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

i dont want his X to keep and/or keep using my fiances last name., is there a legal way that i can make her change her last name., what should i do?

2007-12-30 17:14:50 · 25 answers · asked by SG 2 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 19 years old, goal oriented positive smart and I just want to enjoy life. A couple of weeks ago my mother found my birthcontrol pills and she is so upset over it accusing me of not having any morals and that i am doing such a stupid thing. The thing is I have only had sex with one guy, my boyfriend who i have been with for over a year now and we are in love.
She is telling me that he is a loser and that i can do better and that i shouldn't have just given it away like that to HIM. I don't regret for a moment what i did and in all honesty he is a great guy and my mother just hates him because he is with me. Now she watches my every move and gets ready to cry and is really upset every time that i go out with him. It upsets me that I am making her feel this way but at the same time I love him and i still want to be with him. I just don't know what to do.

2007-12-30 17:14:48 · 6 answers · asked by BillieT 2 in Family

If you were a young women could you find an older man attractive. What would draw you to him. His rugged good looks or his wallet.
Not interested in answers under 20 by the way.

2007-12-30 17:13:54 · 4 answers · asked by Michael 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm just curious. I've been married for almost 6 year now and have spent most of that in verbal/phycological abuse, that has slowly worsened. I'm ready to get out, because it seems like just a cycle. He pulls me in with sorry's and love, and then the next fight we get into it happens again. Then he pulls me in again. I think I've about given him enough chances now, and now he feels a bit threatened so he's pulling out all the stops and telling me that he will change and never treat me like that again. I'm not buying it, and I'm ready to walk out. What are the odds of men changing without the "wake up call" of a woman leaving. He tells me that he loves me so much, and that if I walk out the door, his whole world will too, etc. I'm so hard hearted right now, so I just listen and think "Yeah, I know it will hurt, but I don't think you'll change for the better?" What are the chances that he won't need to go through counseling and hitting rock bottom before he can change? Anyone been there?

2007-12-30 17:12:39 · 13 answers · asked by Corgis4Life 5 in Marriage & Divorce

http://www.blogthings.com/howshyareyouquiz/

mine is...You Are 44% Shy
Although you live a pretty normal life, you tend to be a fairly shy person.
Many situations make you feel uncomfortable, and you sometimes find your shyness hindering your life.

2007-12-30 17:08:22 · 8 answers · asked by Tara 7 in Singles & Dating

My husband was sentenced to 15 years in jail for a drug sell charge. He is begging me not to leave him. i asked him time and time to stop and i do love him. he has never been before, but has had chances to stop! He has been on probation and house arrest, and still continued after i begged him. He probably won't serve all 15, i don't know. He is not a bad guy just made bad choices!! I am so confused. Please Help!!!! I don't want to do congegul visits, that is just not something i see myself doing though he begs me and says as his wife i am obligated. i have seriously thought about just getting out because the sitiuation is stressing me! BAD!
Plus i am not financially able to keep sending money and paying for the HIGH phone bills! woul i be wrong to leave him while he is at his lowest and really needs me! and yes i do have kids, but not with him... please help! oh yea he did cheat some when he was out and i forgave/ so do i stick through this also. considering my vows. pleeeaase help!

2007-12-30 17:08:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Our visitation is based on even-numbered and odd-numbered years: In even-numbered years the father has Halloween, Christmas Eve, New Years Eve, Easter Sunday, independence Day, and one of our daughter's birthday. In odd-numbered years he has New Year's Day, Memorial Day, Labor Day, Thanksgiving Day, Christmas Day, and our other daughter's birthday. He told the girls that he would pick them up on New Years Day today when I picked them up from their weekend visit. I had to explain to the girls that this was incorrect, etc. I called my ex and explained our legal visitation schedule. I know he's upset, but we have the girls on New Years Eve and New Years Day by my interpretation and we made plans with the girls far in advance for the day since we're off work. He won't let me get a word in at all and told me again he'll be at our house to pick them up on NYD. We have planned to be out of town and obviously will. Have I interpreted our visitation agreement correctly?

2007-12-30 17:06:33 · 8 answers · asked by Kristine 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I have had a tumultuous, 3 year, on and off relationship (including a broken engagement). Now, we both know that we want to be together and we both want to live together. I am 23 and he is 24 and in my heart, I want to live with him. My parents are very upset because they are very traditional and they think it will ruin a girl's honor if she lives with a man before marriage.

I don't want to upset my parents, but I know that with my boyfriend, living together is the next logical step, especially since we have been through so much already. I have been born and raised in the United States, and my parents have not. I think that's why we don't see eye to eye in the situation.

What should I do? I'm 23, a college grad and currently working. I think that I have obeyed my parents' wishes for a long time, but I believe that they should step aside this time and let me make my own decision.

2007-12-30 17:06:16 · 34 answers · asked by Confused@23 1 in Singles & Dating

ok this girl has been kinda showing intrest in me and her friend told me she said she would date me if she wasnt dating this other guy but they broke up. She has told me that she kinda liked another guy (when we were just talkin in class one day) but i dont no if she stll likes him bcuz he moved and doesnt go to our school anymore.I will state some reasons she may or may not like me. reasons she mite like me 1 she wanted me to go to a dance with her 2. she hugs me alot 3. she tells me to sit by her sometimes 4. she got me a shirt for my b-day. ok now reasons she mite not like me5 i am number 4 on her myspace top friends. 1 she is 9 months older than me 2. she didnt seem like she had much fun with me at the dance 3. she dates alot of older guys. 4. i cant drive i'm not sure if she is over this other guy or her old boyfriend completely . her and one of her friends made an agreement not to date anyone until the summer but i dont really no how serious that is. i am 15 and i will take any

2007-12-30 17:02:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

we got together when he was seperated with his wife, and we were together for bout a year. he always told me we'll be an item when he's divorced, well i got pregnant in august, and he denied it at frist, when he knew he was my first. he went back to his wife, and i'm still waiting for him. he told me he'll wait for me, but i know since they're back together, he isnt think that right now. he's just stickin with her cause he has two kids with her, and always told me the problem with us being together is because his daughter, and he didnt want to loose her. well i'm 6 months pregnant by him, he says he's the father now, and wants to be in his life. he said he doesn't know bout us now, but always likes hang out with me. does he love me anymore? am i'm stupid for still loving him? it sucks loving someone who doesn't love you as much as i do.

2007-12-30 17:02:31 · 12 answers · asked by kay0305 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-30 16:58:05 · 32 answers · asked by KiaClaire 3 in Singles & Dating

At the moment, Im stuck in between two amazing guys. Ones my own age, Ive been with him for 3 months now, my parents LOVE him. The others a new friend; a new senior friend (Im only a freshman). He's wonderful, I love him. But there are so many reasons I cannot be with him:

1. Hes almost 18.
2. What about after he grads? (He wants to be a Navy SEAL, eek.)
3. My parents do not approve, and I cannot "date".
4. He doesnt want me to break up with my current boyfriend to be with him and start "drama".

BLEH. And you have to remember i like them both alot, but I think Id rather be with the senior? Any advice?
What should I do!?

2007-12-30 16:58:04 · 30 answers · asked by Kindle 1 in Singles & Dating

im 15 and is it normal that my mom lets me smoke in the house she lets me get drunk with my friends she no i drink her booz and dont care she finds my weed all the time and just puts it back but she go crazy when im not home and she wants me to call her every 2 hours and she wants me home at like 11 tops and she calls me like 20 times in a night when i sleep at a friends house???

2007-12-30 16:57:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

She lied to me, i know she had previous relation but it was not physical with that guy (our society is very conservative), and she told me she had relation but i asked her weather they talked on phone or not and she said NO, but I am damn sure they talked coz i asked her 2 best friends they told me they have talked on phone, and my brother saw this girl with that boy talking in english center, which was long ago. she accepts the relation with him but denies tat she talked to him. Its not important weather she talked to him or not its not sin its very normal for me but its important why she lied to me? that hurts me alot. and i told her nothing will happen if she tells me the truth even, even its very bitter. she loves me alot thats for sure but Lie i cant tolerate. I lover her so much too. i dont know i am lost and very hurt now.
what to do???

2007-12-30 16:54:58 · 13 answers · asked by freeman 3 in Singles & Dating

i am 16. My parents are getting divorced. I live in MN. My mom said she is going to make my life a living hell and im kinda scared. Do you kno if there is a law that will let my dad have custody. Am i old enough to choose for myself. If there isnt some sort of law my mom will find a way to get around it and honestly i dont want to end up with her!! please help

2007-12-30 16:53:15 · 12 answers · asked by jersum27 3 in Marriage & Divorce

ok this girl has been kinda showing intrest in me and her friend told me she said she would date me if she wasnt dating this other guy but they broke up. She has told me that she kinda liked another guy (when we were just talkin in class one day) but i dont no if she stll likes him bcuz he moved and doesnt go to our school anymore.I will state some reasons she may or may not like me. reasons she mite like me 1 she wanted me to go to a dance with her 2. she hugs me alot 3. she tells me to sit by her sometimes 4. she got me a shirt for my b-day. ok now reasons she mite not like me5 i am number 4 on her myspace top friends. 1 she is 9 months older than me 2. she didnt seem like she had much fun with me at the dance 3. she dates alot of older guys. 4. i cant drive i'm not sure if she is over this other guy or her old boyfriend completely . her and one of her friends made an agreement not to date anyone until the summer but i dont really no how serious that is. i am 15 and i will take any

2007-12-30 16:52:11 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm 16 and I haven't been asked out on a date yet. Everyone tells me how cute, smart, and funny I am, although I'm not the most talkative person when you first meet me. Could that be the problem?

2007-12-30 16:51:45 · 31 answers · asked by Breezy 4 in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend recently broke up with me. so be creative with better answers than just "wear nice clothes, etc.!!" thanks.

2007-12-30 16:51:30 · 21 answers · asked by Blondi 1 in Singles & Dating

I 've been in contact with a guy i dated years ago. Even though it's harmless chit chat, i've started having these feelings. The thing is...i'm married and he's single. I told him that i couldn't chat anymore for obvious reasons. Then, like a fool, i decided i still wanted to keep in contact once in a while and sent him another message telling him that i would like to stay in touch. My husband knows i keep in touch with old friends, but i didn't think i'd end up feeling this way. I'm a very committed and loyal person and didn't see the harm in contacting each other from time to time. I guess i got caught up in nostalgia and some of the fun we had.Now i think i made things worse. I honestly want to put a block on our messages for good, but can't bring myself to do so. I'm dreading the response that i get from him, if any. I'm hoping he decides to block me and not want to stay in touch. What did i do?? Be gentle...

2007-12-30 16:51:29 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

she quit her job and moved to live with me..it has been 6 months and now she says she does not want to be committed..she is not working and has no where to go..she at times feels bad about her change of heart and apologizes, but i am left with a broken heart and she is content to live as roomies..but she also wants to keep me HANDY when in need..wtf!!!
please help.

2007-12-30 16:50:22 · 3 answers · asked by KT 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

Most of you answered alot of my prev. questions but I have another. A friend of mine made me feel bad about wanting another wedding. The thing is this , My hubby & I got married in july , and it was only 5 ppl who attended. We got married quickly because 2weeks after we married he was being deployed to Iraq. He promised that we would have the whole 9 when he came back. Well a friend of mine says that since we were already married that we shouldnt get married again. But we feel that we should share this with our family and friends. The only 5 ppl there , were our 2 kids , our mothers and the officiant, so really there was NO wedding , we just got married. I am 26yrs old and its every girls dream to walk down the isle but due to military I had to rush it a bit . Do you think its wrong we want a reception ? We plan to renew our vows & I will wear a dress and then a reception.

2007-12-30 16:49:41 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Also if it happens often and you can't do much about it because you live with the person what should you do?

2007-12-30 16:48:58 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

ok... soo im 14 yrs old and my mom only lets me go out until 5 pm im the winter but in the summer lets me stay out later becuz it doesnt get dark that fast.... she said that if im at someones house i can stay till whatever time i want its just she doesnt want me on the streets when its dark out becuz she doensnt trust other people.... im in 9th grade.... is this fair??????

2007-12-30 16:46:12 · 9 answers · asked by beachbabie1293 2 in Family

2007-12-30 16:45:21 · 12 answers · asked by smoothfella809 1 in Family

i mean theres A LOT of people that die alone nd stuff.

(i dont beleive in it)

2007-12-30 16:42:16 · 39 answers · asked by Josh 3 in Singles & Dating

I didnt see him for more than 7 months now. But he still haunts me in my sleep. like last night, he popped in outta nowhere . he didnt look the same. he looked a lot older. i guess its cuz i didnt see him for so long. but this is really killing me. everyday for these 8 months, i have been forcing myself to stop thinking about him. im really trying! i tried to focus on school work. i tried to go swimming. but everytime i do those things, i always think of him! especially when im swimming, hez the only thing that comes into my head.
we are freshmen in hs this year. he goes to another school. the school i wanna go to. but i didnt get in. i guess it shouldnt really matter. but the fact that he got into the school i really wanted to go into makes me even think of him even more. i really dont understand though. my friend goes to that skewl and she tells me that he messes around with girls like he has with me. he really was a jerk. he was so shallow. so mean. but yet... please help.

2007-12-30 16:41:03 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he dirtbikes, and he loves movies with action and comedies... he love random funny things ... jokes and loves things that are WOW shocking!

2007-12-30 16:40:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

like my mom is a diffent person when the person is around and i i donna but i stared to tell my mom i hate her wat sould i do please help

2007-12-30 16:39:28 · 11 answers · asked by mrs.gomez 1 in Family

I promise that I won't tell.

2007-12-30 16:38:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships