like my mom is a diffent person when the person is around and i i donna but i stared to tell my mom i hate her wat sould i do please help
2007-12-30 16:39:28 · 11 answers · asked by mrs.gomez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ignore him!
thats the only solution.
It is clear that ur mom likes him , so u have to be happy for her. u do not like him that is ur problem how to solve is upto u. Since ur mother likes him u can start showing that it doesnot make any difference to u so long as ur mother loves you... It is her personal life and her likings- what she chooses to like and what not, is her decision. and if u love your mother u will definitely show that by respecting her choice.....
Some day if u choose to like someone and your mother doesn't like him, will u drop him just becoz ur mother doesn't like him? think about it seriously...
as for me, u will not do that...for sure. u will want ur mother t o like hm becozu like him... so let your ur mother decide what she likes or not for her,,,,,If u really love her.
2007-12-30 16:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by asha v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are saying that you hate your mom when she is around another person because her personality changes?
If this is what you are saying, you could write it down on a piece of paper and say here mom and let her read what you feel. Maybe she is not aware of her change but sometimes people who do change their personalities around others really can not help. They will have to deal with certain issues and it will take more than one night to change and until then, they will continue to change their personalities. Sometimes it is normal to change the way you act depending on the crowd you are around.
I know I do not act the same way around my work people and my kids and my close friends and my "friends" and my yahoo peeps and my family and my bf and my ex and ...... well you get my point.
my kids use to tell me I changed when I was around my bf at the time. I was not aware of it and could not see what they seen. It took some time to work on this. Other people saw what my kids saw. I just could not see it nor could I help it or change it.
Good luck. Just let her know and keep in mind that you have to find a way to cope because your mom may not be able to give you the response you are looking for to make you feel better but that doesn't mean she don't care about your feelings.
2007-12-31 00:48:50 · answer #2 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, you need to figure out why you don't like the person your mom is with. Then you need you to stop telling your mom you hate her, but you dislike how she acts when "whoever" is around, but you must be able to give examples of her behaviors that you don't like -so she understands and be able to do the same w/the person she is with. If that doesn't work, talk to a relative and explain the things you dislike about them and your mom's behavior and hopefully they can help. Good Luck!
2007-12-31 00:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by fun_birdie_86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really stinks that your mom is putting herself before her children. It's horrible actually. I am a pretty open person, and if I was younger (like, under 15), I would tell her, "Mom, you could have dated anyone you wanted when you were younger, but right now, I am your responsibility, and I think we should sit down and talk about this man you are trying to bring into our life" cuz if you live with your mom, then she is bringing this man around you and into your life. Hopefully, she will be mature enough to listen to why you don't like him, and see your unhappiness. I really hope she listens to you. Good luck.
2007-12-31 00:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon...
perhaps you could try counting to 10 or 20 in your mind before saying anything at all to your mom... even when you are responding to something she says... or in this case, about someone she dates.
taking the time to pause before we say things, can help us to curb the desire to say something we might regret...
about the boyfriend -- maybe you feel as if you are playing second fiddle to the boyfriend. Like some sort of jealousy, or as if your mom is abandoning you.
if your mom just started dating this guy recently, maybe she's putting on an act to "impress" him? while, that's nice and all, it's really best to try and be ourselves around someone new... and not put on a show... eventually, she will get tired of the "act" and have to be herself again.
if you are concerned, let your mom know how you feel... if you're not sure how you feel, write a list of feelings "i feel odd around you when your boyfriend is here", "i feel abandoned" or whatever you are feeling. Ask mom if there is a time she could listen, take your list and just let her know...
maybe your mother doesn't know she's acting different around this guy, as well...
our parents need companionship with someone their own age, too... so her dating has nothing to do with you... she still loves you just the same... but maybe it's time to let her know how you're feeling about life at this time.
sending hugs and best wishes.
2007-12-31 00:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation. My mom got remarried 5 months ago.
Unfortunately, there is nothing you could do.
I wanted to kill him. I wanted to beat him with a shovel to death for ruining my family life.
But I can't. All I can do is believe in karma.
If your mom's boyfriend has ever done anything to you, then he'll get what's coming.
But DON'T waste your life thinking about how much you hate him. Just move on.
2007-12-31 00:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my mom started dating, it was one of the hardest things for me to deal with. Her boyfriend seemed like a total prick to me and she seemed entirely different but it was only because I wasn't used to her around someone she cared about that wasn't me. It took time but I came to accept that if he made her happy, I could deal with it. While it's hard to deal with your mom caring for someone else, it's no reason to hate her. If you don't like him, talk to your mom about it. Ask her what she sees in him and what makes her care about him. If you can understand a little bit of why she cares about him, it'll be easier to accept it. You may never like the guy, but if you can accept that he makes her happy then it'll get easier. However, if she treats you in a way that you don't like, tell her you don't want her to change around you. If you let her know that you don't like it, she'll try a bit harder.
2007-12-31 00:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by __Lif__ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he is not around, and you are having a quiet time with your mom, just mention sadly to you mom that she just does not seem like herself, and does not seem happy, when she is around ___, and that you are very sad to see that.
2007-12-31 00:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by eldots53 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom how you feel when this person is not around and you are not angry.
2007-12-31 00:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by fligurl2021 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would talk to her and tell her how you feel
2007-12-31 00:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋