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Also if it happens often and you can't do much about it because you live with the person what should you do?

2007-12-30 16:48:58 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

38 answers

Kick him in the jewels....

2007-12-30 16:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by conx-the-dots 5 · 0 1

I have the exact same problem with a certain pair of 2 people living with me. I know it's harsh and it's hard to get through, but all you have to do is stay strong,and don't act like you're scared or afraid of the person. If they're older than you and you back talk to them then it's just going to be the exact same of what they do to you. If they are younger then let them know loud and clear that you're older and they need to respect you. If it's a joke and for fun then ignore them and let them know you don't care. And if you just can't take it anymore then stand up for yourself and recite these words (if the person is older)," I understand why you are scolding me, but there is a better way to settle this by talking softer and I don't learn much of what you say because I only remember the yelling not the lesson so please understand how I feel before you want me to understand your lesson". Oh yeah and if it's like some loser is throwing a party and screaming all the time tell him,"SHUT UP YOU FREAK"!!!

2007-12-30 17:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by froggy 2.0 1 · 0 0

It would kind of depend on what you relationship to this person is. Basically walking away while stating firmly that you will only talk AND listen when they have regained control of themselves is your best course of action...unless of course this is your parent. That is a whole different ball game and I wouldn't suggest walking away. If it is a parent I would wait until they are calmed down and then try to discuss the "yelling" issue and how it makes you feel.

If it is a roommate, sibling or significant other the walking away thing while telling them you will only listen when they can control themselves is probably your best course of action.

People yell for various reasons...none of which are probably your fault. It is a very ineffective form of communication, as I am sure you are well aware of.

Again, depending on your relationship to this person you might try suggesting some kind of counseling or anger management courses or whatever....in the meantime you can pick up ear plugs pretty cheap! ;)

2007-12-30 16:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by mental 3 · 0 0

Usually, there's nothing you can do to stop someone from yelling and screaming. But if you yell back, it escalates to a screaming match. Just be the more mature one and back off until the other person cools down and can talk like a rational adult.

2007-12-30 16:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0 0

if it is a boyfriend i think that is just a big sign that stuff may not work out

Husband/wife=maybe you should trying asking him/her if everything is OK he/she could be having problems at work

parent= sometimes they just get stressed i used to live w/a parent that would always yell and scream i would just ignore it ,but act like you are leisoning just so they don't get more mad. That always worked for me

Good Luck with your little problem

2007-12-30 16:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Random 3 · 0 0

Try acknowledging their frustration so that they know you hear them. Once they understand you are listening, tell them that the yelling is not working and that you need them to speak to you in a calm manner. Make sure that they hear that you cannot help them when they are yelling and make sure you stick to it.
By reacting everytime they yell, you are reenforcing their behavior. They need to know that their behavior will not get results. When they behave appropriately, thank them and point out how they helped the situation.

2007-12-30 16:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by CJ S 2 · 1 0

Depends who the person is and the situation! Is it a parent, or a sibling, or a spouse? What is the trigger for the yelling or screaming? Is this a drunk? An angry person? not enough info!

2007-12-30 16:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0 0

stay calm, remind myself that I want to help in any way I can to minimize the problem instead of making it worse, let them yell(get their feelings out of their system), answer them back in a soft and gentle tone, when their done yelling use my sense of humor to put a smile on their face, and then continue to work together without any yelling. I hope this helps.

2007-12-30 17:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by anna 4 · 0 0

It depends on the situation.

If the person is a close friend, listen in silence, and wait till he/she calms down. If not, just walk away and ignore them. They will probably stop after some time.

But since you live with them, I suggest you move out!

2007-12-30 17:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by azliq7 2 · 0 0

Just remain calm and look at them like they've totally lost their mind. Don't say a word - let them rant and scream until they either forget what they're yelling about or just run out of steam - then just stare at them. Keep all the focus on them and their freaking out and just say "Are you MENTAL?".

2007-12-30 16:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

try not to yell back.
i can say from experience, it just makes things worse.
my first instinct is always to yell back and i almost always have a good comeback lol. but it's not worth saying it.
i know it sucks to just stand there and take it, but maybe once the yellings over you can call someone you trust will listen and vent to them about it.
good luck & i hope things work out for you :]

2007-12-30 16:54:25 · answer #11 · answered by zzzsleepyduckzzz 4 · 0 0

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